figgurinoutlife Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 So my ex called again wanting to give me my movies back. We have talked a few times this week after 2 months of NC, I am the one who wanted NC because she wouldn't get back w/me, and I needed to heal. She broke it a couple days ago to let me know about my movies. When she called a couple days ago she was bitter and not friendly. She called again today and is still kind of bitter and right away tells me she tried to call last night to give them back because my car was there (we live in the same apt. complex) I told her I wasn't there and I was at the club, she kind of makes remarks that I'm pimpin around. Then she says she saw her friends ex's car at the complex the other night and she says she knows that we are screwing around with each other, I tell her that she's wrong and that she just moved into the complex in another building and that we are just friends and that she can call my friends ex and ask her. I did mention to her that I'm doing great and am happy. So then she asks if I have a girlfriend and I say yes (even though I don't) she then asks me what her name is, and I make up a name. She then makes a comment "well I have my own girlfriend to worry about." She also said "well, you won't have to worry about me anymore because I'm moving out of the complex" She mentioned that a couple times in our convo. I responded like "okay, whatever." So she comes by 15 min. later to give me my movies and as soon as I open the door she hands them to me expressionless and asks me for the $2 I used on her school ID (her boyfriend is waiting off to the side). I tell her I have to go out to my car and get the money, so she tells me to come downstairs to her apt. and give it to her. So I give it to her and ask her for some change because it was a $5. She says she'll give it to me later along w/any more of my movies she finds. So I say "okay, later" and I walk back up to my apt. and she slams her door. Her boyfriend was around throughout the whole thing but didn't say anything just kind of stood in the background. Okay, she initiated the whole movie return, I didn't. She broke the NC to tell me about them. Yeah, I do still love her and would like to have her back, or would at least like to be friends with her now. So what do you all think about this. She knows I'm doing great, thinks I have a girl and knows I'm getting a great new job and thinks I'm happy. I have to mention that I was looking pretty good also. Am I doing all the right things to get her to think of what she lost? Does it sound like she still has feelings for me? So do you think she'll pursue me or think I'd be too hard to get because I'm happy and therefore doesn't think I'd take her back? Link to post Share on other sites
outdated Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Why do you care about her? This is high school bullsh*t. She had a boyfriend in the background- obviously some tool if he didn't have a word to say- but she has a boyfriend. You said it youself- you look good, you have a good job etc- why wait out her dumb ass? F**k her. Yeah you love her. Yeah. But what good is it doing you? Do you really wanna be around a girl who's gonna act like this? Go out and find yourself someone with some self respect and someone that's gonna treat you like she should. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Don't go there, she is a manipulator. Stay away from her. You don't want to be her friend, you're just hoping one day she'll wake up and want you. It won't happen. She'll see your wanting to be a friend as weakness and use it against ya. The reason she is acting this way is because she has lost all power to influence your life, she doesn't really want you, she just wants to know she can have you if she changes her mind. Be a man and move on. Reissue the NC. Find a new girl. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 honestly its none of her business for asking if you were messing around with the other girl.. I would have just been like its really none of your business.. she is just playing mind games.. the best thing is just to move on.. I finally have came to that point with my situation and I am glad.. There is no way in hell I would take my ex back after what she did to me.. Good luck.. Peace Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted June 15, 2005 Author Share Posted June 15, 2005 Is she not over me yet? Why would she even care about me anymore if she's with someone else? Seems like she's showing me what I lost by throwing her boyfriend in my face and telling me she's moving out so I won't have to worry about her anymore, like she wants me to beg her to stay. Is she trying punish me for letting her go and saying "see because you wanted NC, I have moved on and I now have a real boyfriend because you wouldn't talk to me." But she didn't want me back before so what is the point? Link to post Share on other sites
lostinmymind Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 Just keep going with the NC, she seems to be messing with you hardcore. If she wants to call and see how you are and what you are up to that's one thing. If she calls and acts vindictive or condescending that's another. She is probing for weakness, definitely not the kind of girl you want to waste your time on. Just keep up with the way you say you have been acting. From what you say you have been handling everything perfectly and that is pissing her off, keep it up! Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 keep doing the NC yes .. hey to me she sounds like she got kinda jealous when she said that u suposedly were messing with that girl she sounded kind of mad...and after two months she calls to return the movies?? umm lol ok thats odd Link to post Share on other sites
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