LoveSong Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 We broke up 2 weeks ago (he needed space), but he has called several times...and this past weekend, he called me after a few drinks, and let me know that he regretted letting me go. There were a few different reasons we split, but he confessed to me that one of them was that he "got scared of his intense feelings" for me. I suggested that we talk when he was sober, but as of yet we have not talked about it. We've had a few 10 minute casual chats, but that is it. (I called him today, for the first time since the break, and the conversation was ok, but I'm still wondering if that was the right thing to do.) As of yet, we have no plans to meet or talk, so I was thinking of leaving work a bit early tomorrow and going to visit him for a few hours (2 hr ride each way). I miss him, and the drive doesn't bother me, so it would be worth it to me just to see him (NOT a booty call), but.....would that look really pathetic on my part? Am I better off just waiting for a time when we can spend more time together? (that would be atleast 2 more weeks away) Or should I just wait for him to come to me and not let a few phone calls influence me?! Not sure how to handle this.... Link to post Share on other sites
outdated Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by LoveSong We broke up 2 weeks ago (he needed space), but he has called several times...and this past weekend, he called me after a few drinks, and let me know that he regretted letting me go. There were a few different reasons we split, but he confessed to me that one of them was that he "got scared of his intense feelings" for me. I suggested that we talk when he was sober, but as of yet we have not talked about it. We've had a few 10 minute casual chats, but that is it. (I called him today, for the first time since the break, and the conversation was ok, but I'm still wondering if that was the right thing to do.) As of yet, we have no plans to meet or talk, so I was thinking of leaving work a bit early tomorrow and going to visit him for a few hours (2 hr ride each way). I miss him, and the drive doesn't bother me, so it would be worth it to me just to see him (NOT a booty call), but.....would that look really pathetic on my part? Am I better off just waiting for a time when we can spend more time together? (that would be atleast 2 more weeks away) Or should I just wait for him to come to me and not let a few phone calls influence me?! Not sure how to handle this.... Don't do this. He said he needed space and you showing up, no matter how innocent it is will make him feel cornered. I know you want to see him, but wait it out until he mentions that he wants to see you. Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveSong Posted June 23, 2005 Author Share Posted June 23, 2005 Thanks outdated...I didn't go. Instead, he surprised me last weekend by stopping in on a friend and I having lunch near his area!!! (We were on our way home from a weekend away). He also called me several times over the weekend. He only stayed about 20 min, but when he left he said he would "call later", but I haven't heard from him since. I just don't know what this all means. He asked for a break, but he calls, texts, and tells me he loves me, misses me & regrets ending it. Yet after a month, I'm still not sure where this is going!! I've asked him, but I never get a direct answer which I find completely frustrating!!! I don't want to give up, but I feel like he's leaving me no choice. Am I expecting too much? Should I give him more time? Or is this clear to everyone else, and I'm just overlooking the signs because he still makes an effort to keep in touch? This whole thing is getting me down Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 Chasing him is going to shove him further away. Let him miss you. Answer his calls, but do not call him. Guys like the chase I have learned. When was the last time you called him? Or he called you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveSong Posted June 23, 2005 Author Share Posted June 23, 2005 Thanks beth.....3 times I have called him back--I never called first, but I have initiated contact with a text message a couple of times. Each time he has texted or called back. No matter how much I want to talk to him....I won't call. The last time he called was on Sunday (to let me know he was stopping in for a visit) . I know it's not that long, but the previous week , he called 5 days in a row! The all or nothing is awful, but I think what is really getting to me is that the week before we broke up, he invited me to be his guest at a wedding-->that wedding is Sat. When we broke up, he told me he still wanted me to go, but I told him to think about it, and let me know when it gets closer. Since he kept in touch, I was hoping the wedding thing was a go, but he hasn't said a word. In the end, I know that the wedding doesn't matter, but I would just love to see him and spend some time with him. I miss him so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveSong Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 UGH!!! Nearly a month later....He's come back, but do I really want him?!?! He confessed that during our "Break" he had a one night stand, but swears that wasn't the reason he wanted the break. (He claims it's cause he "thought" I was cheating-typical bs trying to turn it around--told him that it would have better if he just talked to me about it) He's apologized, and wants me to take him back. He says that there is nothing there with that girl, that he isn't afraid of "us" anymore (his own insecurites from his past), and that during this break, he realized he loved me more than he knew (he tried to let go, but couldn't). Also heard the "he'll never do it again". Is it possible to work out something like this? Or am I a fool for even considering it?! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by outdated Don't do this. He said he needed space and you showing up, no matter how innocent it is will make him feel cornered. I know you want to see him, but wait it out until he mentions that he wants to see you. Trust me. I agree. You are just going to make him want even MORE space by going there. Just chill out for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
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