Author Illusion24 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Share Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by Guest123 "She's not YOU. You cannot correct the mistakes of your past through her." I wrote this because you wrote: "What does an 18 year old want with a 15 year old!!!!! I know, I know...the same thing my 18 year old bf when I was 15 wanted...To get a VIRGIN!!!" Just because that happened to you at that age doesnt mean its going to happen to her. Im sorry. I did read you were to visit him this weekend: "Originally posted by NeverSayNever I'm not going to move or say anything the first couple of minutes he's in the room. I'm just going to observe both of their behavior. Then I will speak my mind to him and I will tell him, I will not hesitate to call the cops and put a restraining order on him." Ok. But what you wrote there is meeting him for all the Wrong reasons. Your meeting him to attack him in person. I feel sorry for your cousin. First you control her love life then soon her life. Do you pick her underwear too? You sound so familiar...Like someone I know?? No I don't pick her underwear and till I die I will protect her as much as I can because I love her...She's a child, not an adult, an innocent child and as long as she continues to express herself to me I will do my best to teach her, Of course I'm going to make him s*** in his pants...So are the rest of my cousins and her brother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Illusion24 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Share Posted June 15, 2005 Or even better... I can let her f***, f*** and f*** this guy till she gets pregnant or get's an STD..That sounds better than telling her parents that their 15 year old is f***ing an 18 year old, sneaking out of the house, saying she's going to the movies and instead going to a back ally and f***... Yeah that's sounds better... I understand I have to keep her trust and just be their for her but how...Can you imagine if my family finds out I knew about this and I didn't say anything...They would be so upset at me...But then again this isn't about me, it's about my cousin who I love dearly and want nothing but the best for her... She's 15 has hormones...She's going to experience sooo many things but not sneaking around, she needs to face it and not hide...That's how girls become ho's...And she ain't gonna be no ho!!! Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 My oldest will be 15 in December. I cringe at this topic. So, what would I want my brother to do? Okay, besides kill the guy - because that would put him in jail when the next guy rolls through (and he will), I would want my daughter on the depo shot. She can't "forget" to take it in the ultimate teenage break-up-prevention power play & land herself in mother hood light years before she's ready. I would have a long & honest talk with her about condoms. I would then hand her a bag of them and explain that even nice girls get things they can't get rid of. Then I would probably go vomit and cry hysterically in my bathroom. I imagine I would try my best to put the fear of me in this bozo, but in the end, it would probably be no good. So I'd try to protect my baby as best I could. I wish you all the best with that. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 New Wife - you should start talking to your daughter about it now. There's not telling if she's already had sex yet or not. I don't know if I'd go so far as to put her on depo though. That might be pushing it a bit much at her age. That's almost like encouraging her to have sex and then she'll just tell her friends and boyfriends that her mom lets her have sex freely. Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 Oh, fear not Sarah, I've spoken to both of my teenagers about this topic. I am not advocating the willy-nilly tossing of birth control at any and every teenager. The original poster noted that her cousin said that she IS CURRENTLY sexually active with this young man. That signals a need for birth control. If my daughter indicated that she was sexually active, I would insist upon birth control. As of now, she states that she is not, and I believe her. If/when that changes - we'll deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Illusion24 Posted June 16, 2005 Author Share Posted June 16, 2005 This is so hard...I want to have a talk with her but I'm JUST her cousin, and yes she respects me more than her mother, but in the end, I'm not her mother. I want to be their for my cousin and teach her but I'm afraid my emotions will get in the way and I'll just be like "oh f*** this s*** I'm gonna kill the dude"...But like you said pushing her away from him won't do any good. So ok...I have the talk with her, then what, what do I say first? BC...Do you think I should have that convo with her, should I include my aunt?? Link to post Share on other sites
no coment Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 im sorri but it is his choice if he wants dat he mite aswell because he will think threw things in his own time, once 1 silly little argue happens it will make him think. he will came running back. if im wrong n he dont came running back then he may have made the rite choice. Link to post Share on other sites
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