Shs101 Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 How do you get over the little things after a breakup? Like your ex liking other guys photos, snap chats with random people, thinking they're talking to another guy already, etc.... Yes all signs of insecurities but after a break up people tend to go nuts and not be themselves and that's me. Seen her (with out stalking) like a few guys photos on social media that I know if we were together she normally wouldn't and it just set me off. We have been broken up for a few weeks now. It's these little things which are really setting my mood. And no there isn't a chance were getting back together because of how much she is manipulated by her friends and bs. I'm sure many experienced the social media anger flared after a break up.... Everyone says just block them but deep deep down I want to know stuff, even though I shouldn't. It's like self torture. You try and find things to piss you off. I don't understand and how to get over this. Link to post Share on other sites
keiji Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) You said it: it's torture. It's essential to not lurk at all. I'll give you an example: when I met my ex-girlfriend, she appeared in her FB profile picture with a very good-looking guy. Beneath the photo there was this comment from a friend of hers: "I wish you both a wonderful life together". I never said anything about it (it didn't bother me, to be honest). Obviously her ex-b, right? A year later, my ex mentioned that "Mike and HIS BOYFRIEND" were coming to visit. I said I didn't know who he was, and she showed me that same picture. He's a gay, childhood friend. Now imagine I saw this picture tomorrow instead of two years ago and read the same comment from her friend. A sure ticket back to square one, and for no reason at all. Checking her social media is misleading in the best case and deeply hurtful in the worst case. Don't do it! Edited March 17, 2016 by keiji Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shs101 Posted March 19, 2016 Author Share Posted March 19, 2016 I need serious help with getting over the denial stage. We been broken up for almost a month now and I still think she's mine and she should be "loyal" and this and then. My Mind is trashed in this. Tough break up but the depression stage is slowly but surely starting to pass. But denial is bad, whenever I see her on snap chat out doing this and that I just feel very disrespected still. No we don't talk and haven't, we are completely done but still very Very weird feeling. If I can't get over this denial stage I don't know how I'm going to move forward at all. Please help Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 19, 2016 Share Posted March 19, 2016 Don't look at her snap chat. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shs101 Posted March 20, 2016 Author Share Posted March 20, 2016 Don't look at her snap chat. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Yeah but how does one get past realizing they aren't coming back. We broke up before that's why and she came back but after a week or 2....and we reconcialted. Now things are obviously way different been split for a month and just deteriorating. I'm moving on with my life but still in the denial stage no matter what. It's a shame. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 Go no contact and see a counsellor. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shs101 Posted March 22, 2016 Author Share Posted March 22, 2016 I posted here about 3 weeks ago after a week broken up when me and my ex broke up officially after a year. So a month total has passed and I can honestly say I do feel better. Not depressed. Anger Comes and go. Denial is still there a little. But the acceptance stage is slowly coming. Just recently I have been getting such strong thoughts on how can someone go from a lover to a stranger overnight basically? We haven't spoke. I removed Her from social media after I seen her posting pictures out looking happy. It just baffles me how you can spend almost every day with someone, talk every day, And be in love as thought. And then one day everything is gone, complete 180. How do you overcome this part of the break up. Yes I'm accepting she's gone but just my own thoughts of the why and how it happened is crazy. Life goes so fast. Link to post Share on other sites
Emaize3 Posted March 23, 2016 Share Posted March 23, 2016 Shs101- I'm wondering the same thing. That's the hardest part of the break up- going from totally in love and sharing your life with someone everyday and then "poof" they're gone! Just like that. My guess is that they checked out of the relationship before the actual BU. Totally horrible and painful. I feel your pain. Hugs Link to post Share on other sites
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