Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 That's totally true. I'm sad, this may be the end already. Sorry Pops but I am not all that sad. Guy is still angry about his ex. Leave him to it. Find someone with their head in the right place. He was all over the place anyway... At least you know your "bits" are still alive!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 You finally catch the bus and now complain to the driver about the seats? Crikey, when it rains it pours in this dating game. Sorry to hear this, but often we can be blinded by our emotions that we ignore some of the negatives until they slap us right in the face. It's still early days though and in reality there's no problem with having differences and even having an argument - it shows passion and shows that neither of you are the type who are going to back down just to keep the other happy. In some ways, it's healthy to let it out, let off some steam. Much better than those that bottle it up. Let the dust settle and have a chat about it. No one's perfect, but we often create them to be in our minds when we fall for someone. lol that's funny. Thank you for your support. <3 Hi popsicle, Well you are back in the dating game. You had some fun. Brushed off the cobwebs. You also learned that clingy and moving too fast are not so great. All and all not such a bad result. Not all encounters have to end in marriage Well, the clinginess and moving too fast wasn't the source of the problem yesterday. It was something else. Sorry Pops but I am not all that sad. Guy is still angry about his ex. He IS! He texted me this morning wanting to makeup and we did make up but I am on alert now. I am/was willing to overlook our other incompatibilities just so we can have fun but I won't put up with him making me feel like crap while we're together because of his EX. So, we'll see how it goes...it could be a struggle for him to be nice but I won't give many chances after this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 I won't give many chances after this one. How many are you planning to give him. Just so I can keep count for you... Still think you need a better one than this... Any others about? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine2 Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 OMG, I spoke too soon, we just had our first argument already! He was talking trash about his ex (I never asked to hear about her) and that morphed into an argument between us! It didn't go well. *sigh* What did he say about his X that made you upset? My recent X talked about his X a lot and was still very angry with her for leaving him 5 years ago. I found that issue got old quickly. M X was obviously still in love with her and feeling hurt and abandoned. Never got any therapy cause that is crap in his mind. This is a red flag to keep a eye out for, hopefully he can move on or get some help to work through the issues with his X. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 I don't care if you have a bunch of feelings, negative or positive, about your EX. People have feelings. It just better not come up in our time together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 He sounds immature. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 He sounds immature. Why do you say that? He's 42. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 Why do you say that? He's 42. Because bringing up ex issues sounds like a very immature thing to do (perhaps he is still not over her). I'm younger than that and I know better than to do that. Also because he texted you to make up instead of calling or talking to you in person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 Because bringing up ex issues sounds like a very immature thing to do (perhaps he is still not over her). I'm younger than that and I know better than to do that. Also because he texted you to make up instead of calling or talking to you in person. Oh right. Yes I agree that it's immature to bring up ex issues. I hope he can see that too. He texted me because he is at work by the time I wake up in the mornings. I guess he didn't want to not say anything all day long but yeah it would have been so much better talking instead of texting. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 Pops, what did he say about her exactly? Was he bad mouthing and trashing her? I wonder what brought that on.... does he still communicate with her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 So how do you like the influx of drama to your life so far Popsi? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 Pops, what did he say about her exactly? Was he bad mouthing and trashing her? I wonder what brought that on.... does he still communicate with her? It beats me! He seems to bring her up every other day to trash her. I would be perfectly fine to never talk about her. He hasn't spoken to her in 6 months and has her blocked everywhere (he says). I really didn't/don't want to get into the specifics of what he said but he starting talking about how "hideous" she looked without makeup. That's all I will say because I'd really just rather not keep reliving it. So how do you like the influx of drama to your life so far Popsi? The good is real good but the bad is real bad. Lol I think this sort of thing is personality dependent though, not situation dependent. We actually may both be too emotional and too alike and can't balance each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 I don't know in starting to think maybe he's not over his ex.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 If he brings her up one more time, that's it, I'm out of there. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 If he brings her up one more time, that's it, I'm out of there. I don't blame you one bit. My guess would be he is not over her either. If he were, there would be no need to talk about her... positive or negative.... especially with you! His new girlfriend. How totally inappropriate and insensitive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 I don't blame you one bit. My guess would be he is not over her either. If he were, there would be no need to talk about her... positive or negative.... especially with you! His new girlfriend. How totally inappropriate and insensitive. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 If he brings her up one more time, that's it, I'm out of there. He seems to bring her up every other day to trash her. Well it seems likely that he WILL bring her up again, so you may as well start packing up now. OR would you consider telling him to knock if off? That you don't appreciate it, and if he feels like he still needs to trash her, then perhaps he should be trashing her to his therapist and NOT you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 13, 2016 Author Share Posted April 13, 2016 Well it seems likely that he WILL bring her up again, so you may as well start packing up now. OR would you consider telling him to knock if off? That you don't appreciate it, and if he feels like he still needs to trash her, then perhaps he should be trashing her to his therapist and NOT you! I kind of said that last night, which brought the argument to a culmination with him saying "Well, whatever, I'm going to bed." Then good night. Link to post Share on other sites
strawberryshortstack Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 I kind of said that last night, which brought the argument to a culmination with him saying "Well, whatever, I'm going to bed." Then good night. This guy sounds a bit like one of my exes... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 I kind of said that last night, which brought the argument to a culmination with him saying "Well, whatever, I'm going to bed." Then good night. And I would not have been there when he awoke.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 For him to talk about her, good or bad, means he still has strong feelings for her. Get out while you can... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 I kind of said that last night, which brought the argument to a culmination with him saying "Well, whatever, I'm going to bed." Then good night. That's quite immature for someone who is 42 years old. I am 29 and if any woman did the same thing, I will put effort to make sure she doesn't cross paths with me again. I would take katiegrl's advice and just leave him there by himself. He doesn't deserve any more of your attention. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 14, 2016 Author Share Posted April 14, 2016 I think he was taken aback that I was mad about what he had said. Combine that with him hating to fight (so do I) and he was dejected and at a loss for words and just wanted to get off the phone. It remains to be seen how he's going to act. We haven't spoken yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 14, 2016 Author Share Posted April 14, 2016 For him to talk about her, good or bad, means he still has strong feelings for her. Get out while you can... That's totally possible. I will know soon. I also know that people often don't know what else to talk about except their past relationships (that and they've developed the habit of talking about that with other women). So now he knows I don't like it so we'll see. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 I think he was taken aback that I was mad about what he had said. Combine that with him hating to fight (so do I) and he was dejected and at a loss for words and just wanted to get off the phone. It remains to be seen how he's going to act. We haven't spoken yet. Just keep in mind... this is the "honeymoon" period. You know, when things are all roses and awesome... Misunderstandings happen, but being able to move past them in a healthy way is important. He doesn't sound like he's overly great at conflict resolution or communication. I've spoken about ex's with girlfriends, but only once the relationship had evolved a level of understanding and trust. My ex's were a big part of my life and taught me a lot about myself and relationships. I have nothing but kind things to say about them, despite us not working out as a couple. Be wary of people who walk around with resentment in their hearts over past slights. Holding a grudge is an extremely unhealthy habit to have. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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