SammySammy Posted April 28, 2016 Share Posted April 28, 2016 Okay. That's rather normal. I thought you might have said something to throw him off. Like ... a pink unicorn and orange dragon. Or a mansion on the beach in Malibu and matching Lamborghinis. Something like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted April 28, 2016 Author Share Posted April 28, 2016 Okay. That's rather normal. I thought you might have said something to throw him off. Like ... a pink unicorn and orange dragon. Or a mansion on the beach in Malibu and matching Lamborghinis. Something like that. Lol! I should have said that! Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted April 28, 2016 Share Posted April 28, 2016 Well, I don't know if I'm so innocent. See below.... He asked me "What do you want?" Feeling uncomfortable, I started fumbling with something in my hand and said "I just want to hang out and get to know each other and have fun." Then he says, "And then what happens after we get to know each other?" Then I said "Then we evaluate it then". Then he stares at me for what felt like forever. ...Maybe he was just trying to figure out if I am going to dump him? I must say, your appearance of nervousness is quite cute. Alas, that seems honest enough to me. That's exactly what you're doing: having fun and getting to know each other. If anything comes out of it, well you'll cross that bridge when you get there, yeah? I think that sometimes having no expectations is a good way to enter a relationship. Just know that he may still be falling in love with you, and might still be hurt when you will not reciprocate. Or who knows... maybe you will fall for him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 So we broke up and I'm single again, so I guess you all will be seeing me around here more. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 So we broke up and I'm single again, so I guess you all will be seeing me around here more. I'm sorry Pops..... you okay? We're here for ya whenever you're ready to talk about it.... Talking/venting helps. hugs 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 So we broke up and I'm single again, so I guess you all will be seeing me around here more. what happened? I figured you were busy when I hadn't seen your posts as often anymore, and I was wondering about your situation. sorry it didn't work out :/ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rawrrxlaurr Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 I'm sure this has been said... But I'm sure you'll find your big bada boom ❤️ 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 I'm sorry Pops..... you okay? We're here for ya whenever you're ready to talk about it.... Talking/venting helps. hugs what happened? I figured you were busy when I hadn't seen your posts as often anymore, and I was wondering about your situation. sorry it didn't work out :/ I'm sure this has been said... But I'm sure you'll find your big bada boom ❤️ Thank you so much, guys. Right now I'm just trying to pretend like the whole thing just never happened. (It was kind of a nasty break up but it was for the best). Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 So we broke up and I'm single again, so I guess you all will be seeing me around here more. Sorry to hear that - I feel like we all on that same bus with you. At least you jumped in there and gave it a shot. You can't win them all but you have to play the game to find out. Take some time for yourself, get your inner happiness back and then see how you feel - there's plenty of buses out there, just a pity some of them break down early into the journey. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Agh Pops I thought the bloke was an idiot from the start. Next one! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 He asked me what I wanted on Sunday (I don't know what made him ask that) so I told him what I wanted. Then he stared at me so hard in silence like he was burning a hole in me. He asked me "What do you want?" Feeling uncomfortable, I started fumbling with something in my hand and said "I just want to hang out and get to know each other and have fun." Then he says, "And then what happens after we get to know each other?" Then I said "Then we evaluate it then". Then he stares at me for what felt like forever. ...Maybe he was just trying to figure out if I am going to dump him? I think he decided he wasn't going to invest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 I think he decided he wasn't going to invest. I think you're wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 Sorry to hear that - I feel like we all on that same bus with you. At least you jumped in there and gave it a shot. You can't win them all but you have to play the game to find out. Take some time for yourself, get your inner happiness back and then see how you feel - there's plenty of buses out there, just a pity some of them break down early into the journey. Thanks smudge. I feel awful about the breakup and am looking forward to taking time for myself and rebalancing. Agh Pops I thought the bloke was an idiot from the start. Next one! lol that's funny. I have other friends who weren't fond of him either. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 I think you're wrong. Sure, you know him and I don't. I think though when a man asks you what you want and you give a vague answer, he will hold back from investing. You can see it on these boards all the time. If you want a relationship, it's best to own up to that and say you want to know whether the two of you will work but that you are ultimately after a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 Sure, you know him and I don't. I think though when a man asks you what you want and you give a vague answer, he will hold back from investing. You can see it on these boards all the time. If you want a relationship, it's best to own up to that and say you want to know whether the two of you will work but that you are ultimately after a relationship. You are way off the mark with us and I really didn't want to talk about the breakup and what happened. I just want to move on. Maybe at another time. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 (edited) I think he decided he wasn't going to invest. I don't agree.... it sounds more like *he* wanted to invest ...... and *was* invested .....but didn't think Pops was truly invested.. Don't know what happened after that but his questions and convo reflect that he was trying to figure out what Pops wanted...... and how she felt. When and if Pops is ready maybe she will share more. Hope you feel better soon Pops...... hang in. Edited June 9, 2016 by katiegrl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Just remember this is the kinda crap you signed up for by jumping in Popsi. (We all do.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Thanks smudge. I feel awful about the breakup and am looking forward to taking time for myself and rebalancing. lol that's funny. I have other friends who weren't fond of him either. Best thing to do Pops so you go paint those nails etc. Oh and listen to us. We could have saved you a whole heap of hurt which is why we spoke up. Secretly we always hope to be wrong but... Have a hug. I never liked the tosser and he certainly wasn't popstandard in my book. So you lick your wounds and get back out there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grapesofwrath Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Keep us posted, Pops! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 Just remember this is the kinda crap you signed up for by jumping in Popsi. (We all do.) I don't really have any regrets, still feel like it was worth it. I just don't want to wallow any more than I normally do on my own. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 Best thing to do Pops so you go paint those nails etc. Oh and listen to us. We could have saved you a whole heap of hurt which is why we spoke up. Secretly we always hope to be wrong but... Have a hug. I never liked the tosser and he certainly wasn't popstandard in my book. So you lick your wounds and get back out there. Thanks Toodles! I plan to do a lot of catching up this weekend on tending to myself finally! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 I don't really have any regrets, still feel like it was worth it. I just don't want to wallow any more than I normally do on my own. Believe it or not, hanging out here is a good way to stay outside yourself, even when you're in a relationship. Sometimes when you get too microcosmic in your interpersonal stuff it actually gets a little weird and isolating, so next time around check in here more often and it'll prob be a bit healthier for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Popsicle Posted June 9, 2016 Author Share Posted June 9, 2016 Believe it or not, hanging out here is a good way to stay outside yourself, even when you're in a relationship. Sometimes when you get too microcosmic in your interpersonal stuff it actually gets a little weird and isolating, so next time around check in here more often and it'll prob be a bit healthier for you. Oh I wanted to but he was taking up all my free time. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 So we broke up and I'm single again, so I guess you all will be seeing me around here more. Forum needs a "dislike" button Hang in there Popsicle. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 9, 2016 Share Posted June 9, 2016 Oh I wanted to but he was taking up all my free time. Lesson learned ... that may not be the best idea going forward. It's been said on here so many times.... when things start out real fast, they have a tendency to fizzle out just as fast. I know you've said you love that though... spending most if not all your free time with someone new... and that's great, but there are often consequences to doing that too. Course I (we) have no idea if that is what happened here.... we can only speculate.... rushing in fast may have had no bearing on why you broke up at all.... Just making an observation.... tis all. In any event, I hope you feel better soon. Hugs 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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