Girls Trips, Clubbing, etc [update November 2016]

[xxoo]

 

Like I said it comes down to respect. I provide for her and family so she doesn't have to work. Kids are in school all day. I don't get on her for not keeping fit or keeping a clean house. She can certainly respect my wishes that she doesn't act quasi-single.

 

It sounds like you have some resentments. I'm sure she does, too.

 

You are fighting about Vegas, but it's the wrong fight.

 

Why not work on fixing some of the deeper issues?

[RecentChange]

So how's your sex life and social anxieties going wookin?

 

I noticed that you have been explicitly avoiding my posts.

 

Yes, traditional martial roles are all fine and dandy, just remember it was a lot easier to keep the little lady at home back before women could work, and otherwise support themselves.

 

So again, how is the state of your marriage? Because if it was strong, and both of you were satisfied, her going out wouldn't be such an issue.

 

Perhaps she behaves like she is quasi single because she is desperate for attention.

 

When was the last time you told her she is beautiful? When is the last time you made her feel irresponsible?

[BettyDraper]

This is why it takes a strong and mature couple to have a traditional marriage.

It's easy for a male who is providing for a woman to become dictatorial if he lacks awareness as well as security in his masculinity. It's also just as simple for a woman who stays home to become lazy and not do her share if she is entitled. Neither gender role is an excuse to behave in the aforementioned ways.

 

WPN, I agree that spouses should respect each other's wishes but that doesn't give you the right to treat your wife like a prisoner. My husband has no issue with me going out with friends as long as he knows where I am for safety reasons. He trusts that I am not going to be inappropriate with men because I have never given my husband a reason to think that way. My husband is an introvert and he accepts that I am more social than he is.

 

Based on your threads, it appears that you are very confused and looking for reasons to leave your marriage. Your issues with your wife's social life are just a smokescreen for all the conflicting emotions and resentment towards her.

[aileD]

Sorry I may be a little old fashion and not today's male drone that society loves (ie serving the queen bee).

 

 

 

 

Why does a man wear a wedding ring?

MAN: It’s a symbol of my commitment to her.

Why does a woman wear a wedding ring?

WOMAN: It’s a symbol of his commitment to me.

 

I don't feel that way about our wedding rings.

 

And your wife is not asking to be the queen bee. She just wants to be a normal woman.

[ChickiePops]

Yes I missed that POV.

 

 

Of course I can't chain her but she should be respectful of my wishes and our marriage. She would not like it if my guy friends wanted to go to a gentleman's club and I would respect that it would be inappropriate and not go.

 

 

Like I said it comes down to respect. I provide for her and family so she doesn't have to work. Kids are in school all day. I don't get on her for not keeping fit or keeping a clean house. She can certainly respect my wishes that she doesn't act quasi-single.

 

A strip club is also not Vegas.

 

For the third time, you can express your concern to her but that doesn't mean she has to do what you say. You're not her father.

 

And getting fit is not a requirement of marriage, nor is keeping a clean house. It would be nice, yes, but it's not a requirement.

 

Why are you still married to this woman when you clearly dislike her so much?