I'm in trouble :(

[ginduzenemy32]

Hi all,

I’m in a terrific situation. I don’t know whether I’m supposed to say this here. I’m a married woman and nowadays, we are facing some issue in our relationship. My husband has no interest in me. We rarely speak each other. Whenever I try to communicate with him, he will shout at me and that will end up in a fight. I hate shouting and fights. I can’t bear it anymore, but I really love him. I wonder whether he has a relationship with any other girl. What I’m supposed to do? One of my friends told me to seek the help of an expert counsellor. She also recommended us to attend the couples therapy nearby my place [] . Does attending a marriage counselling really work? How can I convince my husband to attend the session? I’m really confused. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciable. Thank you in advance.

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[TaraMaiden2]

Hi all,

I’m in a terrific situation. I don’t know whether I’m supposed to say this here. I’m a married woman and nowadays, we are facing some issue in our relationship. My husband has no interest in me. We rarely speak each other. Whenever I try to communicate with him, he will shout at me and that will end up in a fight. I hate shouting and fights. I can’t bear it anymore, but I really love him. I wonder whether he has a relationship with any other girl. What I’m supposed to do? One of my friends told me to seek the help of an expert counsellor. She also recommended us to attend the couples therapy nearby my place [] . Does attending a marriage counselling really work? How can I convince my husband to attend the session? I’m really confused. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciable. Thank you in advance.

Counselling works - but many people make the mistake of believing that it's supposed to keep you together.

 

Counselling is not for that - unless of course, it's what you both want...

 

Counselling gives you a safe environment, a "level playing field" to be able to discuss issues that you find difficult otherwise talking about, and trying to effect an amicable and reasonable solution that would benefit both partners.

 

Talk to him.

Whatever you do, do not raise your voice, keep calm and tell him you are concerned about the state of this marriage, your levels of communication and the lack of closeness.

You would like to consider seeing a counsellor.

Would he agree? And if not, why not?

You believe you have a worthwhile marriage, one which deserves saving.

 

You cannot see a way through unless you (both) talk to someone?

Would he please do this for you?

 

If he point-blank refuses, or gets angry, close down the discussion, and accept his decision.

 

Then, think about what you want for yourself, and how to achieve it.

[Alirocks]

Counselling works - but many people make the mistake of believing that it's supposed to keep you together.

 

Counselling is not for that - unless of course, it's what you both want...

 

Counselling gives you a safe environment, a "level playing field" to be able to discuss issues that you find difficult otherwise talking about, and trying to effect an amicable and reasonable solution that would benefit both partners.

 

Talk to him.

Whatever you do, do not raise your voice, keep calm and tell him you are concerned about the state of this marriage, your levels of communication and the lack of closeness.

You would like to consider seeing a counsellor.

Would he agree? And if not, why not?

You believe you have a worthwhile marriage, one which deserves saving.

 

You cannot see a way through unless you (both) talk to someone?

Would he please do this for you?

 

If he point-blank refuses, or gets angry, close down the discussion, and accept his decision.

 

Then, think about what you want for yourself, and how to achieve it.

There are three things that could be happening... cheating, not in love with you any longer, or overly stressed.