Anyone got married and divorced within a year or two? What happened?

[pineapples]

Anyone willing to share their stories, I would love to hear them.

 

Why would a couple go through with the wedding and all that stuff, and then suddenly divorce?

 

Just trying to understand and hear it from someone who has been there. Thanks.

[d0nnivain]

My cousin did. He was divorced & single for about 2 years. He & I hung around together then & went to things with each other. I started dating my husband in July. He met a much younger woman (1/2 his age) the following Labor Day a year later. DH & I got married in October the year after that; throughout our engagement the GF pouted because she wanted to get married in October but I was "stealing her thunder." Instead they got married the following January. Nobody was allowed to come to the wedding except parents & siblings.

 

The girl was always an immature drama queen. She was only with my cousin for his money & mistakenly thought he had a lot more then he did. She was constantly demanding that he buy her a multi-million dollar house he couldn't afford. That summer we spent time with them. She couldn't follow directions; tormented my dog who almost bit her for what she was doing; and in the space of a 1 hour conversation (after I started to count) told me how perfect her marriage was 16 times. Right before Christmas she totaled her Range Rover in a snow storm while my cousin was out of the country. Because she really wanted to go to her non-essential destination, after totaling the car with 4 wheel drive, she went home & took my cousin's Jaguar out in the same snow storm. If course she totaled that too.

 

The divorce papers we filled before their 1st anniversary.

 

The only explanation that ever made sense to me is that my cousin was thinking with the wrong head. He later told me he married her because she was young; he thought she'd be able to give him kids. turns out she never wanted kids.

[pineapples]

My cousin did.

 

 

It looks like they both wanted very different things in life and marriage, add to that the drama queen behavior and the age difference. Thank you very much for sharing this.

[SoulCat]

Me.

We'd been together for just over 10 years when we got married. A beautiful day surrounded by friends & family.

 

The marriage lasted all of 19 months.

 

About a year and a half in, my ex husband started having an affair with a coworker. There was a hugely ugly D-day, and he left me to be with her.

 

 

In the end, it took us longer to get divorced than we were ever married in the first place.

[2.50 a gallon]

My ex chased me for three years, after she graduated from college she begged me to marry her, and she was also recruited by a Fortune 100 company that moved us a thousand miles from our home town.

That set up a number of events that cascaded us into breaking up six months later.

As newly married, we were wanting to buy a house and start a family in a couple of years. But also as newly weds we found ourselves deep in debt, a lot to do with her student loans. Toward that end I had sold my motorcycle. it was hard to move and we needed the money. One of my first priorities to once again be able to ride.

In my trade, it was common to have to take a night job when first starting at a new job. The Ex being young and in a new large city was afraid to be alone at night, so I ended up taking a day job at less than half of what I could make. And they made her the major bread winner.

Also she was the first woman to work in her department, and she was fold out material hot, so I instantly had a small army of OM co-workers who set out to break us up. There was nothing I could do or say, that one of them could not find a way to turn it around and make me look bad.

To surprise her on our six month anniversary I went over to where she worked to have lunch with her. I was the one who got surprised as I caught her kissing a guard in the parking lot.

The marriage over after 6 whole months.

[Mikep88]

Me.

We'd been together for just over 10 years when we got married. A beautiful day surrounded by friends & family.

 

The marriage lasted all of 19 months.

 

About a year and a half in, my ex husband started having an affair with a coworker. There was a hugely ugly D-day, and he left me to be with her.

 

In the end, it took us longer to get divorced than we were ever married in the first place.

 

 

Same here, been married for 21months. She moved out, asked for a divorce and began an affair with her co-worker a week after she told me she wants a divorce.

We are still legally married, but the pictures on her Facebook tells a different story.

 

Is the co-worker thing an trend??

[BlueIris]

I married someone that I divorced about 18 months later. The first time he moved out was 6 months after we married, but my family had told me to get it annulled or to divorce him within the first week. Turned out he had untreated bipolar I with psychotic elements. His business partners got him into a psych ward a few years after I’d gone NC where he was given that diagnosis.

[Sassy Girl]

Same here, been married for 21months. She moved out, asked for a divorce and began an affair with her co-worker a week after she told me she wants a divorce.

We are still legally married, but the pictures on her Facebook tells a different story.

 

Is the co-worker thing an trend??

 

Maybe. Sister was with her partner for 10 years before they got married. She started her affair with a coworker almost as soon as she was married and had a dday 18 months later.

 

Seriously - why get married?

[okietiger]

My ex wife and I were married for five months. She suffered from deep depression and was very jealous. I thaught by getting married she would stop the jealousy stuff. She also talked about suicide allot.Five months into our marriage she attempted murder-suicide. Luckily she failed. The next day I filed for divorce because I thaught to my self she failed first attempt and I wasnt going to let her to try again. Five years later she succeeded in commiting suicide.

[NYWoman]

I was young, good looking and therefore full of myself. Thought I could get away with cheating, About 1 year

[bathtub-row]

It happened to me. My husband became incredibly verbally abusive after we married. One time, he screamed at me so vehemently in the car that his face was blood red. The thing he was mad about was so minor I can't even describe it. It's not anything that would upset anyone else. Lots of other things happened and I filed for divorce shortly after our first anniversary. We got back together several months later after many talks and him apologizing but it didn't last -- no surprise. We were married a total of 4 yrs but were only actually together 2 of those 4 years.

[beautifulinside2]

My ex husband and I were married less than two years. He had a 10 year old daughter that he never told me about. There were child support payments taken out of his check which I thought were going to his first child's mom. His first child lived with us so I found it odd that he continue to pay his sons mom. He said he continued to pay her child support so they could save the money for college. Sounded decent?? Wrong I found out when we were merging insurance that he had a child I didn't recognize on the policy. When I asked him about it he denied it and stated there must be a mistake. Therefore I removed it. About a year later I received papers in the mail from child support stating if he didn't add her back his payments would go up. More problems mounted between us after that and we divorced 6 months later.

Edited April 16, 2016 by beautifulinside2

[RecentChange]

This happened to one of my friends.

 

He was ex military with PTSD. She doesn't have the best mental health (negitive, pessimistic).

 

They thought marriage would fix things. It made it worse.

 

Divorced in 6 months..