My husband gets easily influenced and casts me as a villain

[sunshine001]

I am so angry, disappointed and scratching my head as I am typing this. I had a life coach who is also a healer, astrologer and a reiki expert. She was helping me with regards to making some changes with respect to my career and education. I felt she was wonderful and her help was absolutely outstanding. I started seeing her every week and could not miss a single coaching session of her, I was hooked! Her coaching helped me so much that I immediately wanted my husband to attend it since she could help him with his career too.

 

Yesterday he had a one on one coaching with her and don't know what happened to him, he became completely against me after his coaching session. He started pushing me around, being a jerk and just being accusatory and mean. He kept behaving that way all evening. I had to put my foot down and tell him that the coaching is for him to further his career, it's not a marriage counseling. I don't know what he discussed with her. Each time I tried to know what could it possibly be, he got extremely angry at me for having any doubts about the coach. I had no problem with the coach but he kept acting like I despise her and that he wants to protect her from me. Wow, I realized that it totally backfired on me.

 

I was trying to help him and wanted him to be empowered just as I was but I ended up becoming the bad one in his eyes. I don't understand what he took from that session and how he applied it.

 

This is not the first time he has gotten influenced by someone. Earlier he would be easily influenced by his coworkers or his parents or friends. I am just so disappointed now because at least the help of the coach was benefitting me to some degree. Now I am going to stop seeing her for good. I couldn't believe last night my husband was behaving like he was possessed and that I am some villain who is trying to attack the coach and he kept warning me to not say a word against her. But the fact is, I never did!

 

How should I navigate this situation? At this point I feel she is his wife and I am some other woman. I don't have a good feeling about this

[elaine567]

I am so angry, disappointed and scratching my head as I am typing this. I had a life coach who is also a healer, astrologer and a reiki expert. She was helping me with regards to making some changes with respect to my career and education. I felt she was wonderful and her help was absolutely outstanding. I started seeing her every week and could not miss a single coaching session of her, I was hooked! Her coaching helped me so much that I immediately wanted my husband to attend it since she could help him with his career too.

 

Yesterday he had a one on one coaching with her and don't know what happened to him, he became completely against me after his coaching session. He started pushing me around, being a jerk and just being accusatory and mean. He kept behaving that way all evening. I had to put my foot down and tell him that the coaching is for him to further his career, it's not a marriage counseling. I don't know what he discussed with her. Each time I tried to know what could it possibly be, he got extremely angry at me for having any doubts about the coach. I had no problem with the coach but he kept acting like I despise her and that he wants to protect her from me. Wow, I realized that it totally backfired on me.

 

I was trying to help him and wanted him to be empowered just as I was but I ended up becoming the bad one in his eyes. I don't understand what he took from that session and how he applied it.

 

This is not the first time he has gotten influenced by someone. Earlier he would be easily influenced by his coworkers or his parents or friends. I am just so disappointed now because at least the help of the coach was benefitting me to some degree. Now I am going to stop seeing her for good. I couldn't believe last night my husband was behaving like he was possessed and that I am some villain who is trying to attack the coach and he kept warning me to not say a word against her. But the fact is, I never did!

 

How should I navigate this situation? At this point I feel she is his wife and I am some other woman. I don't have a good feeling about this

 

is she good looking?

[sunshine001]

is she good looking?

 

I wouldn't say she is good looking. She is from Russia and has blonde hair and green eyes. She is 5'10, but she is quite overweight.

 

I am brown skinned, 5'6 and skinny. I also do modeling on the side so I feel a little confident that I am good looking.

 

Oh, but I am wondering if it's my skin tone. My husband is Caucasian but I am not. I am brown, so darker. And she is Caucasian too. Could it be because I am darker? I don't understand my husband's behavior last night.

 

She and him are about the same age. My husband is 42 she is 41. I am 32 years old. Could it be that maybe?

Edited March 25, 2016 by sunshine001

[elaine567]

If he can turn against you on a sixpence like that, for no good reason, then I guess he is holding onto a fair bit of resentment, or he maybe just overplayed the male dominance role after the coaching. He perhaps just got annoyed/embarrassed maybe, with your assessment of the "new him", so he turned on you...

 

BUT maybe it IS a marriage counsellor you need.

[nymphetgrown]

She's a life coach, right? Not bound by privacy, like a real counselor?

 

Ask her what happened. Your husband's shown you in the past that he's easily led. Ask her what she said and for goodness' sake don't let him near her again.