Liam1 Posted March 28, 2016 Share Posted March 28, 2016 Obviously hind sight is always 20/20. I did know this girl had a reputation but as far as I knew they were all rumors. She supposedly has a steady bf now and is serious. I wish I had asked one of the ladies there to walk with to elude any suspicions from my wife. As for the coworkers they all agreed she needed to be helped back. There was talk about getting her a cab and we were afraid she couldn't even make it to the room once the cab arrived. It was a 10 minute walk so I decided to walk her. I do wish I hadn't. Thicke: It looks like you learned a valuable lesson. If you are saying the same things to your wife that you are saying in this thread, then she should move past this fairly quickly, IMO. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lucy_in_disguise Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I think you did the right thing walking her home. If your wife trusts you she should know better than to think you would take advantage of an extremely incapacitated coworker, no matter her "reputation". Link to post Share on other sites
whatcanitellyou Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Why would you have a problem with a man walking your wife to her room if this was innocent? I'm surprised nobody has brought this up. ....it suggests a double standard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thicke2013 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Share Posted April 1, 2016 Why would you have a problem with a man walking your wife to her room if this was innocent? I'm surprised nobody has brought this up. ....it suggests a double standard. Sorry, I have been traveling again. I told her that I would hope that if she ever got that drunk that someone who had no ulterior motives would walk her to her room. Someone who wouldn't take advantage of her in that situation because let's face it we all know the world is full of those guys. I'm not that guy and never have been. The reason I would be upset with her is that she doesn't get drunk. Ever. She drinks and has fun but I have only seen her drunk once and that was on her bday and I told her to and I would drive. It's just not her nature. That being said, if she did go out like that and get incapacitated it would be totally out of character for her and I wouldn't like that she got that drunk with male coworkers. It's not a double standard because I give her the same respect. I was not drunk nor incapacitated, as a matter of fact at that point I had only had 2 beers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thicke2013 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Share Posted April 1, 2016 This week I had to travel again which made this all a little tougher due to us being apart again. She also was traveling. She finished early and decided to drive nearly 4 hours to surprise me at the hotel I was staying in. She came with me to take customers out to dinner and we had an amazing time. We talked this out and she says that she believes me that I didn't do anything with the girl. She also explained again why she didn't like it and I understand. She now knows and chooses to believe that there was no motive in what I did and we have decided to forgive, forget, and move on. Yesterday was amazing. We talked candidly with no emotion and no one getting upset. We had a great night and today has been good so far. We talked about healthy boundaries and what each of us expected from the other. I'm looking forward to a great weekend. Thanks everyone for listening and for the advice. Cheers! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted April 1, 2016 Share Posted April 1, 2016 That's great to hear. I love a happy ending. Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted April 5, 2016 Share Posted April 5, 2016 (edited) Never mind...I saw the update and I'm glad for the happy ending. Edited April 6, 2016 by BettyDraper Link to post Share on other sites
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