westernxer Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by ggallin13 As far as the topic at hand, I would distance myself from the male friend, period. The only reason I am close friends with girls is because I want to sleep with them--unless they are a buddy's girl and that's how we met. Chances are, your friends wants you and as a guy, your BF knows this. I wouldn't do anything that even REMOTELY can be misconstrued at all. Gospel truth. Guys rarely hang out with chicks if they don't like them in some extra-friendly manner. Even if they don't act on it, they're still hoping... Link to post Share on other sites
balletgirl Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 Personally, it is OK to have a male/female friendship as long as the rules are strictly defined... My boyfriends friends are almost 80 percent female... I have had a major problem with it in the past, and it has gotten in the way of our relationship before, but now i am learning to accept that these girls are just friends... if he wanted to have romantic involvement with them, he would have done it before we were together.... Granted, sometimes it may be hard to see or be a part of a male/female friendship, but sometimes it is a good thing, if you are a guy, to get a female opinion on things, and vice versa... Just make sure that your boyfriend/girlfriend is aware of what you are doing with this other person so they dont misconstrue the relationship...... best of luck!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
zonarosa Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Gospel truth. Guys rarely hang out with chicks if they don't like them in some extra-friendly manner. Even if they don't act on it, they're still hoping... i would dearly love to believe that, but i've had many guy friends who didn't send strong signals, treated me like a buddy/shoulder to cry on... perhaps they thought I'm into girls (that story is another post altogether) Link to post Share on other sites
Iluvsiamese Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 I think that others are correct in questionning your male friend's motives. Does he have a girlfriend? And would he be cool with her going camping with another guy? IMO, it isn't just about having an innocent friendship, it's about maintaining the appearance of such as well. The thing is, it may only need to look bad to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend. Is it worth it? From my own personal experience, I have had guy friends in the past, but with the exception of my gay pals, all of them have tried to hit on me at some point. This generally occurred when I was unattached, but not always. And there were at least three of them who were married. I have pretty well given up on such friendships that don't directly involve my partner and their partners. It's just safer and more pleasant. All of those friendships were ruined by their behaviour. It was just never the same again. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by zonarosa i would dearly love to believe that, but i've had many guy friends who didn't send strong signals, treated me like a buddy/shoulder to cry on... perhaps they thought I'm into girls (that story is another post altogether) Doesn't mean they don't like you...some are very timid. Or maybe they're just clueless. But hey, if they want to act like "girlfriends," more power to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Overall, the point still is that 99 times out of 100, any male will sleep with, hook up with, mash with a female friend that he finds remotely attractive if the circumstances are right (drunk, desparate, whatever it is). One does not need to perceive the dudes as ravenous wolves waiting to kill. It can be as simple as them just being in the right place at the right time. Link to post Share on other sites
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