Do women really like alpha males?

[singlelife]

All the guys I know who are alpha males get cheated on. They stress their women out. And the women go out and look for a replacement or some attention or something. Lady's what's up with that. All we hear is how y'all are attracted to alpha males.

[basil67]

All the guys I know who are alpha males get cheated on. They stress their women out. And the women go out and look for a replacement or some attention or something. Lady's what's up with that. All we hear is how y'all are attracted to alpha males.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/544929-what-do-women-find-most-attractive-man

 

You made this post last year and not one woman replied that she wants an Alpha Male. So how do you come up with the theory that this what all women say that want?

[riant]

The most loyal lady in the whole world would be choleric melancholy (ESTJ), choleric phlegmatic (ENFJ) and pure choleric (ENTJ).

 

Others are weak and some of them are made by nature not loyal. Being alpha male or not if you are involved with the player types, they will find other males since they like to try new stimulus.

[MidwestUSA]

The most loyal lady in the whole world would be choleric melancholy (ESTJ), choleric phlegmatic (ENFJ) and pure choleric (ENTJ).

 

Others are weak and some of them are made by nature not loyal. Being alpha male or not if you are involved with the player types, they will find other males since they like to try new stimulus.

 

 

As an ISTP, I'm calling BS on this. MB typing has nothing to do with strength or loyalty.

[JustGettingBy]

Some are, some aren't.

[len51]

You might be onto something here. All three relationships in my adult life were with women who wanted an alpha male to feel safe and secure. My first fiancee cheated on me when I was in the middle of a combat tour overseas. My rebound girlfriend came into my living room one day when three of my friends and I were watching a football game and asked us all to gang bang her, true story. My friends said no but she offered oral sex instead. I knew she would be gone after this so I told them to go ahead and they did. She was out of my house the next day and had the nerve to ask me to father a child with her because I had desirable genetic traits. I told her no and moved on with my life.Then I found out she was seeing one of my "friends" prior to asking for the gang bang. She got greedy.

 

6 Months later I met my virgin wife and 3 weeks after meeting her, we were engaged. We are married over 40 years and she is the most loyal women I ever dated. I wanted to let my wife experience more sexually because I knew that sooner or later she would get very curious about sex with other men. We did a wife swap with our best friends and she hated it and never wanted to do it again. Her main problem was that she is used to making love with me and sex with others is nothing like the sex we have. It was just sex with no passion and tender extended foreplay.

 

Soon after that she started to fantasize about women but did not want to date any because she said it would feel like cheating. Her bisexuality extends only to sex with women. She still wants me for marriage, romance and dating but prefers sex with women. She handled it nicely by inviting her best girlfriend to join us in bed and with some encouragement from me, they had sex with each other. Turns out that her best friend was secretly bi so it was a win-win for all of us. She was with that same girlfriend for most of our 40+ year marriage. She fully shared her with me, either in a threesome or just me and our girlfriend.

 

They never went out on a date without me. They never had sex with each other without me. In fact, if I left the bedroom they would stop what they were doing and wait for me to return. In their minds, they were sharing me and the sex between them was "No fun without me.".

 

In the first two relationships I was cheated on but in the third I had two women who wanted only an alpha male in their lives but preferred sex with women. I still have a fantastic marriage. Our girlfriend had her own room in our home and lived with us on and off depending on where both of out jobs were located and where we lived. Our marriage was different than most since I loved two women who also loved me. I was their focus and I must admit it was nice to step out of a stretch limo and walk into a club or casino with a hot woman on each arm who were wearing sexy dresses.

 

I always figured that my marriage was a reward for enduring two cheating girlfriends. I would not change a thing. My first fiancee was married to a man she cheated on for all of their marriage and then left him as soon as they legalized same sex marriage. She is now living with the woman she was cheating with. The other one found me on the internet and told me she was a crack user who got clean and became a stripper/prostitute until she married a customer 22 years older than her but he had his own business and rich. For these reasons, the cheating done to me was a gigantic blessing. I dodged two bullets and met a wonderful wife.

Edited April 2, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Language~T

[ff12343]

You might be onto something here. All three relationships in my adult life were with women who wanted an alpha male to feel safe and secure. My first fiancee cheated on me when I was in the middle of a combat tour overseas. My rebound girlfriend came into my living room one day when three of my friends and I were watching a football game and asked us all to gang bang her, true story. My friends said no but she offered oral sex instead. I knew she would be gone after this so I told them to go ahead and they did. She was out of my house the next day and had the nerve to ask me to father a child with her because I had desirable genetic traits. I told her no and moved on with my life.Then I found out she was seeing one of my "friends" prior to asking for the gang bang. She got greedy.

 

6 Months later I met my virgin wife and 3 weeks after meeting her, we were engaged. We are married over 40 years and she is the most loyal women I ever dated. I wanted to let my wife experience more sexually because I knew that sooner or later she would get very curious about sex with other men. We did a wife swap with our best friends and she hated it and never wanted to do it again. Her main problem was that she is used to making love with me and sex with others is nothing like the sex we have. It was just sex with no passion and tender extended foreplay.

 

Soon after that she started to fantasize about women but did not want to date any because she said it would feel like cheating. Her bisexuality extends only to sex with women. She still wants me for marriage, romance and dating but prefers sex with women. She handled it nicely by inviting her best girlfriend to join us in bed and with some encouragement from me, they had sex with each other. Turns out that her best friend was secretly bi so it was a win-win for all of us. She was with that same girlfriend for most of our 40+ year marriage. She fully shared her with me, either in a threesome or just me and our girlfriend.

 

They never went out on a date without me. They never had sex with each other without me. In fact, if I left the bedroom they would stop what they were doing and wait for me to return. In their minds, they were sharing me and the sex between them was "No fun without me.".

 

In the first two relationships I was cheated on but in the third I had two women who wanted only an alpha male in their lives but preferred sex with women. I still have a fantastic marriage. Our girlfriend had her own room in our home and lived with us on and off depending on where both of out jobs were located and where we lived. Our marriage was different than most since I loved two women who also loved me. I was their focus and I must admit it was nice to step out of a stretch limo and walk into a club or casino with a hot woman on each arm who were wearing sexy dresses.

 

I always figured that my marriage was a reward for enduring two cheating girlfriends. I would not change a thing. My first fiancee was married to a man she cheated on for all of their marriage and then left him as soon as they legalized same sex marriage. She is now living with the woman she was cheating with. The other one found me on the internet and told me she was a crack user who got clean and became a stripper/prostitute until she married a customer 22 years older than her but he had his own business and rich. For these reasons, the cheating done to me was a gigantic blessing. I dodged two bullets and met a wonderful wife.

 

WOW. What an incredible story!

Edited April 2, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Language~T

[elaine567]

People in general tend to cheat when their needs are not being met by their core relationship, they have the "cheating mindset" and opportunity knocks.

So I guess alpha males get cheated on, as do beta males and any other type of male you care to mention.

[carhill]

All the guys I know who are alpha males get cheated on. They stress their women out. And the women go out and look for a replacement or some attention or something. Lady's what's up with that. All we hear is how y'all are attracted to alpha males.

 

Not uncommon and I think you may be conflating 'like' with 'attracted to', meaning they're attracted to the alpha male and his social status but they get their needs his personality ignores met by other, lesser, males. Pretty normal stuff. Depending on the particular woman, her social status and personality, she might have a number of males serving her in various functions. Nothing new. IME, they're not looking for a replacement, rather filler. There is a difference.

[singlelife]

Not uncommon and I think you may be conflating 'like' with 'attracted to', meaning they're attracted to the alpha male and his social status but they get their needs his personality ignores met by other, lesser, males. Pretty normal stuff. Depending on the particular woman, her social status and personality, she might have a number of males serving her in various functions. Nothing new. IME, they're not looking for a replacement, rather filler. There is a difference.

 

I think you explained it really good. Because they do cheat.

[Imported]

Do you know any non-alphas?

[carhill]

I think you explained it really good. Because they do cheat.

IME, various. Sure, some 'cheat', meaning use deception. Others have 'understandings'. Others have open marriages. IMO, it's pretty equal opportunity. The man is popular and exercises the options which power brings. His wife is powerful in her own right and exercises her options. Everyone is different and power simply brings the freedom to be who one really is. For some folks, yup, that's living life to the full and enjoying all the variety it brings by whatever means they feel like employing.

 

Back in my 20's that used to bug me but I got over it. People do what they do. No one is immortal and, tbh, we're all pretty fragile. Hope they found some happiness in life.

[thefooloftheyear]

What constitutes an Alpha male these days? No FB acct??

 

TFY

[TaraMaiden2]

What constitutes an Alpha male these days? No FB acct??

 

TFY

 

And 'twitter' is effeminate....

[LookAtThisPOst]

WOW. What an incredible story!

 

Still disturbing that he's sharing his "virgin" wife with others (regardless of gender).

[brothers343]

I don't know about alphas,betas or whatever other name they go bye. In my experience woman are attracted to man that know when the world is crumbling down there the ones that stay calm and have a plan. Woman by general are not attracted to weak man. I also do inderstand that some woman look for the weakest link so they can have the superiority in the relationship.