LoverRomeo Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 After nearly 2 years of dating online, I met her for the first time in person and I stayed with her for a week. We had lot of argument before the meeting because I delayed the visit. Everything went great when I met her, there was no awkwardness, we never ran out of things to talk about, we both felt very comfortable being around each other and we really enjoyed spending time each other. We had good chemistry as well, we kissed a lot and everything felt natural. I think she had pretty high expectations of sex and I didn't last too long and she was disappointed about it(first time for both). Overall, we did have good sex. I did have some insecurities and she seemed to be patient about it. Now comes the negative aspects - 1. She seemes to chat less since I returned and I feel like she's not that interested in me, I'm not sure if I'm just being negative or not. She still says she likes me a lot and wants me to move there permanently. She still refuses to talk to me on phone around her friends or her roommate and tells me she would introduce me to them and make the relationship official after I move there permanently. 2. She gets pissed if I don't carry her bags and pinches me, bites me if I say no anything. She bites and pinches very hard.. my arms have turned blue and black from pinching and biting. She says she does it out of love.. I don't mind it but it gets painful sometimes. 3. Do woman joke when they talk about marriage and kids? She used to say she wants to settle down in 1 year with me and when I told her to take things slow, she would get pissed at me. She would ask me questions like if I'm going to marry her or not but now she says she doesn't mind waiting 3-4 years. I'm just wondering what changed her all of a sudden. She would talk about marriage 24/7 but now she barely talks about it. Not that I want to rush things.. I'm wondering has she lost interest in me or want to date other people? Ps, we're both 24. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Pinching and biting? Surely you don't need it spelled out to you that this isn't normal or acceptable, and you should mind. That is abuse. You should have hightailed it out of there the first time she did that - can you imagine if the shoe were on the other foot, and you physically hurt her when you didn't get your way? No, it' s not out of love. She isn't right in the head. As for the rest of it...is this the same girl who wouldn't introduce you to her friends or roommate? Where did you stay when you met? (Sorry if I'm confusing you with someone else) Look, she's not that into you. Her lack of interest in talking to you now, refusal to introduce you to her friends until you move permanently (that's just a convenient excuse, if I remember your story correctly) and avoidance of talking about the future anymore are all big red flags. Unfortunately, I don't think she's very interested after having met in person. And frankly, I can't see why you still are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoverRomeo Posted March 27, 2016 Author Share Posted March 27, 2016 Pinching and biting? Surely you don't need it spelled out to you that this isn't normal or acceptable, and you should mind. That is abuse. You should have hightailed it out of there the first time she did that - can you imagine if the shoe were on the other foot, and you physically hurt her when you didn't get your way? No, it' s not out of love. She isn't right in the head. As for the rest of it...is this the same girl who wouldn't introduce you to her friends or roommate? Where did you stay when you met? (Sorry if I'm confusing you with someone else) Look, she's not that into you. Her lack of interest in talking to you now, refusal to introduce you to her friends until you move permanently (that's just a convenient excuse, if I remember your story correctly) and avoidance of talking about the future anymore are all big red flags. Unfortunately, I don't think she's very interested after having met in person. And frankly, I can't see why you still are. yes, that's the same girl. She says she's an introvert and she's a boring person. Hence, the lack of interest in talking. We stayed in a hotel when we met in person. Why do you think she lost interest after meeting in person? We both had a good time.. I'll try to talk less and won't initiate conversation and wait for her to start the conversations to see if she's into me or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Sooooo... let me get this straight. Both of you are out in a public place, presumably a shopping mall, you don't carry her bags for her, and she BITES you???? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoverRomeo Posted March 27, 2016 Author Share Posted March 27, 2016 Sooooo... let me get this straight. Both of you are out in a public place, presumably a shopping mall, you don't carry her bags for her, and she BITES you???? Correct but she doesn't force me though. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 yes, that's the same girl. She says she's an introvert and she's a boring person. Hence, the lack of interest in talking. We stayed in a hotel when we met in person. Why do you think she lost interest after meeting in person? We both had a good time.. I'll try to talk less and won't initiate conversation and wait for her to start the conversations to see if she's into me or not. I remember the story now, do you not think that arranging the stay in the hotel and still keeping you away from her friends and family, is just more evidence she has another life she wants to keep hidden from you? Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 I think you should worry less about why she has changed, and worry more about who she is as a person. I'm sorry, but you're very naive to say she bites you but doesn't force you. Honestly what kind of reasoning is that?? This girl is more than a little screwed up and if you had any sense of self-preservation, you'd run as far away as you could from her. Also, what's this stuff about talking online for two years before ever meeting? And at your age; when you should be living life and having a REAL relationship. Ok, that applies to any age but, seriously, why would you be ok with any of this? This girl has some very serious, unfixable issues. Run, don't walk. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Pinching and biting your arm enough to bruise you and just to get her own way, is abuse and should NOT be tolerated by you or anyone else. She is a very strange girl. RUN. Block her and never speak to her again. Find a local girl who will love you, who you can hug and cuddle every night if you want to, who will show you off to her friends and family, and who will adore you, not abuse you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 yes, that's the same girl. She says she's an introvert and she's a boring person. Hence, the lack of interest in talking. We stayed in a hotel when we met in person. Why do you think she lost interest after meeting in person? We both had a good time.. I'll try to talk less and won't initiate conversation and wait for her to start the conversations to see if she's into me or not. Because I think she's lying to you. I think she's already got a boyfriend. She's hiding you for a reason, and it has zero to do with her being an "introvert." I said that before you even went to meet her. You're very foolish to ignore the big red flags waving at you. Why do you want a woman who treats you so badly? That is the question you should be asking yourself. You have a lot of work to do on yourself if this is the type of garbage you tolerate. She's a jerk. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 She bites and pinches you and you STILL haven't broken up with her? Toddlers bite & pinch, not grown women. Break up with her and move on. You deserve better than this woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
emi Posted April 1, 2016 Share Posted April 1, 2016 Omg what kind of woman do this??????????????????? And why u havent run for ur life yet?????????????????????? NO its not normal. Out of love my ass. Link to post Share on other sites
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