lilb Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 My husband and I have been separated for about a year and a half now, but he wants us to get back together. We dated for 6 years before we got married and have been married for almost 4 years. A month after we were married, he decided to leave me because he had feelings for another woman. Well, I forgave him and tried to put everything in the past, but wouldn't you know a year later, it happened again. This time it was a sexual affair with him that I heard everything (I was upstairs while they went at it). Needless to say, I couldn't move until after they were finished and walked right out the door - he denied everything for about 2 hours and then finally admitted it. Well, I forgave him again, but about another year went by and poof - another one came around! This was what actually lead to our separation. We both seemed to move on I guess after we first separated, I have a new man and he had his girl. We didn't speak at all for a few months, but then, for some reason we had to, and eventually found ourselves reconnecting. He has begged me for another chance and I would love nothing more than to give him one, but I'm just not sure. He had his so called "reasons" for what he did and swears that it will never happen again. We have been seeing a marriage counselor & he does seem like he's changed, but I've given him chances before. I'm just not sure if I should move on or just forgive & forget - please help! Link to post Share on other sites
seagirl Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 The truest answer I can give to your question of "how many times can you forgive and forget?" is simlpy until until it is enough. You will be able and willing to forgive and forget almost anyone of anything until you have had enough! Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted June 16, 2005 Share Posted June 16, 2005 Your HUSBAND was banging another woman IN YOUR HOUSE while you were there and you want to take him back??? Wow, he has got you hooked. Seems to me that you tend to 'forgive and forget' a little too easily. Have a little more respect for yourself and dump his ass. Link to post Share on other sites
outdated Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 Originally posted by sarah12 Your HUSBAND was banging another woman IN YOUR HOUSE while you were there and you want to take him back??? Wow, he has got you hooked. Seems to me that you tend to 'forgive and forget' a little too easily. Have a little more respect for yourself and dump his ass. Yeah I mean, really. Do you like to torture yourself? why not just hold your hand over a flame for a while, or put bamboo underneath your fingernails? this is very unhealthy. Why would you want someone that would do that to you? His ass needs to be set free. Link to post Share on other sites
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