Miriam1111 Posted March 28, 2016 Share Posted March 28, 2016 Hello I'm Writing this cuz I'm a bit confused I'm dating this guy for almost a year now. He lives in Florida and I in NY, we see each othereach other almost every month. (He comes up) I'm a single mother and have been going through some trials and tribulations. With this being said I can no longer live in NY it's too expensive for me and I want to give my daughter a better life. I have decoded to move to Florida for many reasons and one is my boyfriend. I love him very much and feel blessed to have him in our lives but am not sure if moving in together would be the best idea. Any helpful advice? I feel like moving in together may hinder us cause we haven't spent much time together (not over 7 days) and living with someone and having a child is a big step. I haven't lived with anyone since my ex husband almost 10 yeare ago. But then I'm tired of being alone and doing everything on my own.... please help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted March 28, 2016 Share Posted March 28, 2016 I think you should get your own place. You have no idea how you will get along with him once you're living in the same area. Even though you've been dating a year, you're not at the level you really need to be at to consider moving in together given the lack of real time together. Having a child makes it even more impractical to move in with him. 1) it's too soon and 2) she needs stability and there's no guarantee this will work out. It's not right to put her through the trauma of getting attached to someone only to have him possible go away. Plus, if you were to be living together and he would be very involved in her life, it will make it even that much harder for you to move out and move on IF this relationship doesn't work. Get an apartment with a year lease and allow the relationship to continue to grow and develop naturally and slowly. At the end of the year, then reevaluate. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted March 28, 2016 Share Posted March 28, 2016 Get your own place. The fact that you're even asking the question on a message board of strangers tells me you know that already. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted March 28, 2016 Share Posted March 28, 2016 DON'T move in together. Even if you knew him a lot longer and saw him a lot more and he was super-awesome, you should still get your own place. As long as you live alone you have options and you won't get roommates disease, but once you move in together all the entanglements start. Don't hamstring yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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