Dolfin80 Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 (edited) I think you may have got your wires crossed somewhere. Asexuals can masterbate, they just don't like having sex with others. That's me in a nutshell. I don't enjoy sex with others and I've felt this way for about 10 years now. Asexuals can be romantically attracted to others, they just don't get much enjoyment out of sex. I don't like the look or feel of a penis inside of me. It feels very invasive to me. God knows why this is but I've accepted it. I used to have sex when I was younger because I was pressured by social norms. Now in my mid 30s, I don't care anymore about what's normal. If it doesn't feel good I don't do it anymore. I actually have no idea what it feels like to need sex and this forum is certainly an eye opener for me. I always thought sex was a "want" but reading the posts here it looks like sex is a "need". I will keep an open mind though, maybe one day I will meet the right person and enjoy a sexual relationship again. Edited April 16, 2016 by Dolfin80 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 Depends on the definition. IMO sexual activity is a sexual activity, regardless of the number of people involved (ie masturbation is sex). I like Betty Dodson's take on the topic, you can check Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross | Better Orgasms. Better World. I agree with a lot of their stuff, not all, but she even has books 'Sex for one' followed by 'Sex for two' Penetrative sex in my opinion and experience is an acquired taste - and a learnable skill! I think is most about learning the right technique than meeting the right person. Another Dodson's quote is something in lines: you need to learn penetration skills alone first before including a partner. I firmly believe that's the approach, not what most females follow ie fake it till you make it I think truly asexual people just don't enjoy/have orgasmic response, and that's probably more on a physiological than psychological level (i.e. hormonal imbalance, neuromediator issues etc). Just some food for thought:) I think you may have got your wires crossed somewhere. Asexuals can masterbate, they just don't like having sex with others. That's me in a nutshell. I don't enjoy sex with others and I've felt this way for about 10 years now. Asexuals can be romantically attracted to others, they just don't get much enjoyment out of sex. I don't like the look or feel of a penis inside of me. It feels very invasive to me. God knows why this is but I've accepted it. I used to have sex when I was younger because I was pressured by social norms. Now in my mid 30s, I don't care anymore about what's normal. If it doesn't feel good I don't do it anymore. I actually have no idea what it feels like to need sex and this forum is certainly an eye opener for me. I always thought sex was a "want" but reading the posts here it looks like sex is a "need". I will keep an open mind though, maybe one day I will meet the right person and enjoy a sexual relationship again. Link to post Share on other sites
Dolfin80 Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 (edited) Depends on the definition. IMO sexual activity is a sexual activity, regardless of the number of people involved (ie masturbation is sex). I like Betty Dodson's take on the topic, you can check Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross | Better Orgasms. Better World. I agree with a lot of their stuff, not all, but she even has books 'Sex for one' followed by 'Sex for two' Penetrative sex in my opinion and experience is an acquired taste - and a learnable skill! I think is most about learning the right technique than meeting the right person. Another Dodson's quote is something in lines: you need to learn penetration skills alone first before including a partner. I firmly believe that's the approach, not what most females follow ie fake it till you make it I think truly asexual people just don't enjoy/have orgasmic response, and that's probably more on a physiological than psychological level (i.e. hormonal imbalance, neuromediator issues etc). Just some food for thought:) I believe asexuals can masterbate (put some links in below). All I know is I have no desire to have a sexual relationship with anyone. I prefer eating food....lol..... do asexuals masterbate? - For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies - Asexual Visibility and Education Network https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality Edited April 16, 2016 by Dolfin80 Link to post Share on other sites
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