jen1447 Posted April 4, 2016 Share Posted April 4, 2016 If I can attempt to summarize on the normalcy topic .... What's 'normal' is that inasmuch as we're animals, having a sexual impulse toward a suitable mating prospect (childbearing age, healthy - bscly the things that an attractive butt among other things tells us) is an expected biological response. That's it. We're also human tho, so we control our urges and don't act on them when other factors like social norms and conditioning are considered. What this results in, in practical terms, is ppl having a "wow" reaction when they see a shapely butt, and then suppressing it moments later when the butt belongs to someone that social norms say shouldn't be a target. In acknowledgment of the social norms, they then don't continue staring at the butt and thinking of it sexually, and they certainly don't run off to the bathroom to rub one out. I don't think it's realistic to say that bc of social conditioning, all biological sexual urges cease to exist at all. But bc of social conditioning we do generally suppress them as an accepted and expected course of action, as appropriate. (Or rather when they're inappropriate, haha.) 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted April 4, 2016 Share Posted April 4, 2016 Sorry there is a typo there. Should read "your niece is not his blood". Matters not. My niece is my blood. Anybody with me better damn well treat her like blood too. I treat my niece and my daughter practically the same. As someone said earlier, if something happened to my niece's parents she would basically become my daughter. Anybody I'm with better know that and act accordingly. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DreamP Posted April 4, 2016 Share Posted April 4, 2016 If I can attempt to summarize on the normalcy topic .... What's 'normal' is that inasmuch as we're animals, having a sexual impulse toward a suitable mating prospect (childbearing age, healthy - bscly the things that an attractive butt among other things tells us) is an expected biological response. That's it. We're also human tho, so we control our urges and don't act on them when other factors like social norms and conditioning are considered. What this results in, in practical terms, is ppl having a "wow" reaction when they see a shapely butt, and then suppressing it moments later when the butt belongs to someone that social norms say shouldn't be a target. In acknowledgment of the social norms, they then don't continue staring at the butt and thinking of it sexually, and they certainly don't run off to the bathroom to rub one out. I don't think it's realistic to say that bc of social conditioning, all biological sexual urges cease to exist at all. But bc of social conditioning we do generally suppress them as an accepted and expected course of action, as appropriate. (Or rather when they're inappropriate, haha.) Exactly. This is what defines decent behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 4, 2016 Share Posted April 4, 2016 All what I want to say is that we are hearing only a part of the story . OP , is he he deprived sexually ? The state of his sex life doesn't have anything to do with this particular story. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SmartDude Posted April 5, 2016 Share Posted April 5, 2016 The state of his sex life doesn't have anything to do with this particular story. I have seen this story happen over and over. It is everywere you find a sexually represed man who went straight for the "wholesome" idea's of marraige, kids and a family. Such men often repress sexual feelings or beleive they are not like that. It is funny when you see a guy like this move in with a partner who has a hot daughter. I wonder how many guys are like "meh I will live with this 50 something woman but at least her hot daughter will be prancing around the house naked half the time". Guys who have had the oportunity to have sex with multiple women, to explore and fully sow thier wild oats do not have this kind of problem in general. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 5, 2016 Share Posted April 5, 2016 When my gay Uncle Harry was up from Baltimore with his boyfriend Vince he made it a point to take note of my ass and brought it to Vince's attention, it creeped me out so bad that I spent the rest of their visit at a friends. He did it right in front of my mom and dad too. Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 When my gay Uncle Harry was up from Baltimore with his boyfriend Vince he made it a point to take note of my ass and brought it to Vince's attention, it creeped me out so bad that I spent the rest of their visit at a friends. He did it right in front of my mom and dad too. Just...wow. It sounds to me like you don't have to be so worried about 'uncle Harry', but with your own parents. What father would tolerate his gay brother eying his own son's back door with a twinkle in his eye? Dad's probably thinking that he survived growing up with his bro and his own backdoor survived the experience, so you should have no problem... he wound up marrying a woman, so you should too. You have every right to be creeped out by what happened, but more so by your parents lack of response... sounds like you need to put more distance between yourself and good old mom & dad... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 What father would tolerate his gay brother eying his own son's back door with a twinkle in his eye? A far as I know amaysngrace is a woman... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 A far as I know amaysngrace is a woman... Just as bad. The parents are pleased that their daughters backside is so magical that it has the power to turn dad's gay brother straight? Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 I have seen this story happen over and over. It is everywere you find a sexually represed man who went straight for the "wholesome" idea's of marraige, kids and a family. Such men often repress sexual feelings or beleive they are not like that. It is funny when you see a guy like this move in with a partner who has a hot daughter. I wonder how many guys are like "meh I will live with this 50 something woman but at least her hot daughter will be prancing around the house naked half the time". Guys who have had the oportunity to have sex with multiple women, to explore and fully sow thier wild oats do not have this kind of problem in general. Oh, man, yet another reason not to live with a man or marry again. My family means too much to me to risk this and I want my kids to come and go freely. I learn a ton here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 I have seen this story happen over and over. It is everywere you find a sexually represed man who went straight for the "wholesome" idea's of marraige, kids and a family. Such men often repress sexual feelings or beleive they are not like that. Sorry but I refuse to accept that the sex life of a married couple can possibly be responsible for an individuals sicko behavior. That's on that person. If he's "sex starved" he can figure out how to get sex back in his life. Blatantly lusting after an innocent family member would not be the answer for any healthy person. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Oh, man, yet another reason not to live with a man or marry again. My family means too much to me to risk this and I want my kids to come and go freely. I learn a ton here. Yes. It's the fault of a woman for being 50 years old that her husband acts like a sleazeball. :rolleyes: And the responsibility of the young woman on the receiving end of it to take it, because, you know ... men. I refuse to accept that. Fortunately, I don't have to. I'm sure there are just as many men who are grossed out by that line of thinking as there are women. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Yes. It's the fault of a woman for being 50 years old that her husband acts like a sleazeball. :rolleyes: And the responsibility of the young woman on the receiving end of it to take it, because, you know ... men. I refuse to accept that. Fortunately, I don't have to. I'm sure there are just as many men who are grossed out by that line of thinking as there are women. Men can and do control themselves and their stares, their comments, when another man is around who will get angry. It's a shame that they won't do the same out of respect for women, rather than only out of respect for another man. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
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