"Why Men Love Bitches"

[loveisallaround]

I just recently discovered this treasure of a book - Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov.

 

Although I don't agree with everything Argov writes, I definitely do love the premise of loving yourself, not giving up your life to be with somebody (especially in the early stages) and not revealing all of your cards immediately.

 

With my prior relationship failing and losing touch of who I was in it, this book certainly spoke to me. I finally got why I wasn't lasting in relationships. It's not that I wasn't a good partner or a good person - I was just being an emotionally needy doormat.

 

Does anybody have any experience with the advice within the book? Good or bad?

 

One of my girlfriends devoured the book - went with the aloof approach to her ex and now he seems to be crawling around again.

[sapientia]

I'd really love to read that book. But you're right about aloof and crawling back part.

 

Couple of months back, my ex dumped me. I went on crying and wanting him back. At time low. A girlfriend suggested that I should give him some peace, stop the marathon-calling and distant myself. Took every ounce of my energy to stay away from the phone, be really strong and move on.

 

Days later, he came crawling back. Of course, nothing ever be the same, but it goes to prove that some man likes it when the gal plays hard to get, or to-hell-with-you-I'm-ok-without-you. It's like playing kite - you let go, you pull back.