youdunsay Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Can you offer any remedies for women who have nothing interesting that is happening in her life to share in a conversation? Like how not to be boring? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Why is there nothing interesting happening in your life? Or are you using an extremely narrow definition of 'interesting'? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Can you offer any remedies for women who have nothing interesting that is happening in her life to share in a conversation? Like how not to be boring? Make something up, but keep a detailed diary. That way, when you finally marry the guy, he will find it, blow up, have an affair to get revenge, then create a schyttestorm telling your family about it. Then, you'll really have something to talk about... How do you gauge your life as 'boring'? Do you imagine others lead better lives than you? Are you comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting? Instead of living a boring lifestyle (by your definition) why not actually find some interesting things to do, like go to the theatre, ballet, trekking with a group, taking up kayaking.... something adventurous or intellectual....? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Make your life interesting. There are so many things this world offers - there's no excuse to not have something interesting to do. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenician Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Start by accepting others ; kill the borderline personality traits in you ; it is not white or black only . I give you an example , 15 years back I discovered while visiting a relative that he is gay ; at that point of time it was a very odd thing for me to accept it . in very few days i was able to love my relative the way he is ( I am not GAY !). Able to accept him the way he is ; a great doctor and human being . when you open yourself to others ; you become vulnerable ? maybe yes ; but what important is that you become , immune and joyfull. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Go out much more and try to talk to everyone you can. You never know what or whom you find 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted March 30, 2016 Author Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry but I need more specific ideas. Example, wave your hands like the Queen. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry but I need more specific ideas. Example, wave your hands like the Queen. What does hand waving has to do with anything? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Interesting is subjective, and there are very few ppl who don't have sth about their way of thinking etc. that isn't unique and interesting. So 'being interesting' is more just a matter of opening up about yourself than having traits or experiences that others might find interesting based on their own sensibilities. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Date a guy who's also boring. Seriously. If you're not interesting, why would someone who wants someone that is interesting date you anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Can you offer any remedies for women who have nothing interesting that is happening in her life to share in a conversation? Like how not to be boring? Breast augmentation. (sorry, couldn't help it) Read interesting stuff and discuss theories and hypotheses. That's hot! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Can you offer any remedies for women who have nothing interesting that is happening in her life to share in a conversation? Like how not to be boring? People love to talk about themselves. You don't have to share much to not be boring. Be less reserved. Show interest in people if you're interested in them. Ask them questions, laugh at their jokes, tease them if they give you a chance. You can pick up the most 'interesting' hobbies in the world and it won't help you talk to men. Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Just because you don't actively do anything particularly interesting doesn't mean you can't be an interesting person. Do you have any opinions worth sharing? Do you take any stances? Do you love/dislike certain things or principles? Why or why not? What's challenging about life or situations? What makes you different from everyone else? All that would be interesting to listen to, for me, at least. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted March 31, 2016 Author Share Posted March 31, 2016 The last guy said that I'm too shy and not open and that there was this girl who's more outgoing, showing herself totally (pouring) into him. So does that mean that we need to be pouring ourselves all over, be more touchy to show a guy we like them? You know, like you saw your idol or something? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 The last guy said that I'm too shy and not open and that there was this girl who's more outgoing, showing herself totally (pouring) into him. So does that mean that we need to be pouring ourselves all over, be more touchy to show a guy we like them? You know, like you saw your idol or something? I think most sensible people don't have idols, so let's not go there Yes, men do like if we show interest in them. You don't have to throw yourself at him, but you must be able to relax and talk comfortably and not be afraid of physical contact. Being emotionally closed and putting up walls will drive a person away. Have you got any feedback on our suggestions as to how to be more interesting? And what was your reference to the Queen's wave about? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 The last guy said that I'm too shy and not open and that there was this girl who's more outgoing, showing herself totally (pouring) into him. So does that mean that we need to be pouring ourselves all over, be more touchy to show a guy we like them? You know, like you saw your idol or something? It's tough to say one way or the other with absolutes. Some guys might not mind that you're shy. Some might be bothered by it, I know I wouldn't be able to deal with it. I'm sorry, but there comes a point in adulthood where there's no excuse to be "shy." Reserved? Fine. Introverted? Fine. But shyness implies a fear of something or resistance to openness or situations. "Fear" of social situations or other people should be conquered by early adulthood. Women always say confidence in men is attractive. I always echo that when I'm on this forum and there are grown men who are actually afraid of women. Think of that! A women afraid of situations or people could be just as unappealing, it seems fear is just unattractive any way you spin it. If someone's just trying to do basic things like extract information from you, or introduce you to other people, and there's some sort of aversion, I can see how that would be a huge turn off. Perhaps that guy who thought you were boring mistook your fear for plainness. If I were you I would just try and summon the strength to open up a bit and share some things about yourself. I bet you wouldn't seem so boring or shy. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Sorry but I need more specific ideas. Example, wave your hands like the Queen. Wait what???? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Wait what???? Either "Wave your hands in the air like you don't care!" or... maybe....? (listen to the spoken pre-amble.... how prudish and innocent we were back then....! Ah, those were the days, my friend!) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted March 31, 2016 Author Share Posted March 31, 2016 The Queens wave is totally random rofl excuse me. back to the topic, so alright I need to show some physical contact at least (be touchy for maybe ten dates) at the initial stage to hook the guy? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 The Queens wave is totally random rofl excuse me. back to the topic, so alright I need to show some physical contact at least (be touchy for maybe ten dates) at the initial stage to hook the guy? Are you looking for a stimulating and challenging relationship, or a 'hook up' for something else? In which case, boredom is the least of your problems.... Hooking the guy is easy. Keeping him (and determining whether he's worth keeping), is a DIFFERENT ball-game altogether.... Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 never be afraid to say something what you deem stupid....or...boring...say it regardless of how you think...and if you are not a good talker.......be a good listener...the more actively you listen the more you learn the more you can speak about.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) Wait what???? you know elswyth..example......wave your hands in the air like you just dont care..then fist pump .....op wants specific......fist pump and hand waving.....im trying it.....nah not translating onto computer screen.....i do feel goofy though...:bunny: fist pumpin bunnies........deb Edited March 31, 2016 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 you know elswyth..example......wave your hands in the air like you just dont care..then fist pump .....op wants specific......fist pump and hand waving.....im trying it.....nah not translating onto computer screen.....i do feel goofy though...:bunny: fist pumpin bunnies........deb (Could I just add that 'fist pumping' has distinctly different connotations here in the UK.... ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author youdunsay Posted March 31, 2016 Author Share Posted March 31, 2016 Hooking the guy is easy. I don't think so. Keeping him (and determining whether he's worth keeping), is a DIFFERENT ball-game altogether.... Here's the problem in which I'm fully incapable of. I've poor judgment and I can't do talks. Somebody got to get me thinking before I engage in a conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Here's the problem in which I'm fully incapable of. I've poor judgment and I can't do talks. Somebody got to get me thinking before I engage in a conversation. This is why you need to talk to more people. In shops, at hairdressers, family friends, neighbours then progress to meetup events and dating. You need to build skill in order to have confidence and good judgement. Link to post Share on other sites
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