If your husband moved out because he was "overwhelmed" what would you do?

[PegNosePete]

I've already asked for a divorce

I wouldn't ask for a divorce, I would file for one. A divorce does not require his permission, his co-operation or even his signature.

 

I would tell him to take the dog with him to wherever he is now living. If that's not possible (eg landlord doesn't allow pets) then he will have to give the dog up. Then I would change the locks so he can't come into my home any more.

[fawnlawn]

I'm so sorry. My initial suggestion at the title would be to try talking it out, maybe therapy, but agh he seems impossible! If you can swing it, maybe offer to get a house cleaner or to pay a neighbor to walk the dogs daily maybe. It'll take a little of his shoulders.

 

Though I suppose it depends how badly you want to fix things. I know I'm young but to me it seems like you're giving way more effort than he is even willing and you deserve better. Maybe its time to leave. You don't deserve to stress over this either. I hope things work out ):

[WasOtherWoman]

He thinks hiring someone to do it is elitist and silly.

 

That is insane. We hire out pretty much everything so that in our very rare and precious free time we enjoy each other and are not bothered by mundane junk.

[Zippity-Doo-Dah]

What would "I" do?

 

I'd have the damn locks changed.

 

Stop all communication. The dogs now belong to you. If he wants dogs - let him go to the pound and get new dogs. As a younger person, I would have cried, asked my friends what to do, gone to counseling, and tried so very hard to make it work. At my age (almost 50) I'd say "Screw you, Buster!" and start letting the dogs sleep in the bed with me. They are better companions than an ******* husband any day.

 

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