EasyEinDC Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 Though I thought most of us shed our shy awkward phase around 17 or 18 its apparant that sometimes it can come back and creep up on you. What I wanna know is if you all agree that meeting someone in class can be a very difficult, awkward proposition. I mean I hope this isnt just me becuase some situations can be pretty intimidating even at 26. I am in a grad program and have had a few classes with a girl who i think from what ive known that id like to get to know better. The obstaccle here is that she sits in a specific corner of the room away from where i sit sort of creating a very solid yet invisible wall. Since we are all on the same listserv I thought about emailing her but a recent poll suggested i not do that. I am frozen right now and hate just watching her but feel kind of frozen at the moment to take any initiative....any takers on this one?? Thanks! E Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 Okay if you like her you have to take the risk and go do something about it She does not know you like her , so you need to take the steps necessary to see if she is interested. I would suggest catching her as she is going out the door. Say : Hi I am Joe and I have been wanting to say hello . Would you care to go have some coffee ( beer ect ) some nite ? :" The worse thing she can say is No. Give her a chance...report back on your progress....If she is not interested , you will know soon enough... Link to post Share on other sites
chaos70 Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 Hmm...Dr. Chaos's college tip on lines for classmates. Plan to bump into her as you walk out of class. Ask normally, "I missed part of what the assignment that is due in "x weeks". Do you have it down in your notes?" That's your intro line. Then you can jump straight into the asking out part...or see if you can just grab a cup of coffee to discuss the class more (if you lost the nerve for the asking out part). But by then, you need to ask her out...or you may get lumped in the "friend" category. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EasyEinDC Posted June 20, 2005 Author Share Posted June 20, 2005 Yeah funny thing is, like most coveted girls....10 to 1 she has a boyfriend so itll be a big a$$ challange..ever think of that?? God why am i such a mess when it comes to this sort of thing.. Link to post Share on other sites
katiebour Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 When I was in grad school last spring, I had a guy who started acting like he liked me a little bit when we were out with other classmates for snacks and beer. He didn't make a move or contact me, so I started dating someone else- when my date came up as a topic of conversation in front of him he acted surprised and slightly dismayed, confirming my thought that he liked me a bit. But by then I was seeing someone else, so it was too late. We were a tight-knit group of 25 students who had all of our classes together- I wouldn't have taken it amiss if he had emailed me individually to ask me out. You don't lose anything by asking- and if you wait, she might start seeing someone else. Just go for it- ask her out. If you want to make it a class thing and invite a few other people, that's fine- just sit next to her in the restaurant so that you and she can talk. In large groups this works well because multiple conversations start going on at the same time- it can be comfortable and intimate without the pressure of a date. But by the end of the evening, make it clear to her that you like her as more than a classmate, and ask her out on a one-on-one date. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by EasyEinDC Yeah funny thing is, like most coveted girls....10 to 1 she has a boyfriend so itll be a big a$$ challange..ever think of that?? God why am i such a mess when it comes to this sort of thing.. Most of us get like when we have a crush Damn, I'm 26 years old and when my crush tries to make conversation with me, all I can do is giggle like a teenager I've been crushin on this guy forever.. and he FINALLY talks to me, and I giggle, and everytime I do something stupid.. it's when he's around.. grrr. But just ask her out, you have nothin to lose. You'll regret it more if ya don't do it. Just start chattin it up with her.. just small talk. I'm sure once you start talking to her, you'll find it wasn't that hard Link to post Share on other sites
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