Quiet Storm Posted April 6, 2016 Share Posted April 6, 2016 pteromom, is so right. It is part of maturing. We all have weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Maturing is learning how to manage those weaknesses and vulnerabilities. You're attracted to him and want to explore that. But he's married. You don't have to act on that attraction. Your mature and logical mind has to yank that weak and curious heart off the train tracks. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted April 6, 2016 Share Posted April 6, 2016 Do you really want to be some married guy's entertainment or ego stroker? He's using girls at work to make the work day more exciting and fun until he goes home to his wife. This ^^...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hersheys Posted April 7, 2016 Author Share Posted April 7, 2016 Thank you so much for the replies! I've been reading everything and my day has been going on quite ok.. it does help that I chose to stay away from the office today. I just want to step away from it so that I could regain some 'balance'. I My past relationship started in a similar way, friendly texts, phone calls , visits but then I began to want something more. That's why I'm very scared right now because I am reminded of what I went through before. Good thing about this one now is that I have the opportunity to put a stop to it while there's still big part of me that wants to stop. When I go back to work, I'd be seeing him again. I just hope I'd be a little stronger in handling things. I know that I won't be this super confident girl but I just hope to have a little control of myself. I just don't want to get emotional and get teary eyed in the office. It happened the other day and didn't know how to hide it. Link to post Share on other sites
NYC-BigKat Posted April 7, 2016 Share Posted April 7, 2016 Stay away. He's not yours or hers. He belongs to his wife. The fact that he flirts with both of you shows his true character. Yup he's not serious with any of u he's just having some fun at work & if u keep liking him so much you'r gonna have a broken heart & not do well at work anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
loveisanaction Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) Hersheys, the people on here are all saying this same thing…they can’t all be wrong. You are not in love with your married coworker….What you are feeling is a burst of ‘feel good’ chemicals that are rushing through your body. It is the reason why your heart is not in agreement with your mind. Your logical thinking process is off, your moral compass is weak and any self-respect or dignity you have for yourself is being crushed by the weight of these feel good emotions. They will subside though, but you have to fight them. You think it’s bad now? Sleep with that married coworker of yours and you will really find yourself in a mess. Those feel good emotions will become so strong they will over power you…and that’s where your living nightmare will begin. Every ow thinks that her situation is unique and it probably is…to her…but not to the rest of the world. Your story is so similar to someone else’s; it’s why everyone knows how it will end. Please do not think that you will be the exception and end up with your married man. That is one of the biggest mistakes some ow make. Is that how you want to live your life? Waiting for the day your married man divorces his wife so that he can marry you? If you have an affair with your married coworker you will walk away scarred (probably for life). He on the other will probably walk away unscathed, happily married and maybe onto his next ow. Edited April 9, 2016 by loveisanaction 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 I think you are going down the same path you did in 2008. Listen to the other posters. Link to post Share on other sites
LostLonelyGirl Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 (edited) XMM broke Things off with me a couple weeks ago. I am devastated, depressed, angry... my self worth is even lower than before. I feel disgusted with myself and would give anything to go back and not take that road. I'm so miserable. Please don't do it. You will be so sorry in the end. Only 3% of MM actually leave for the OW and an even smaller percentage stay faithful to her. Please save yourself from pain the way I wish I could've Edited April 24, 2016 by LostLonelyGirl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 and this is embarassing but I'm scared of losing the friendship he gives to me. What exactly is the friendship he gives you? Please give this some thought and also compare it to other true friendships you have in your life with women friends, other men, male colleagues etc. I'm guessing here but 'the friendship' isn't a healthy one you have with him, it's probably emotionally based and controls your moods, it's ego based and self serving, and definitely not out in the open. Link to post Share on other sites
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