dexterjay Posted April 8, 2016 Share Posted April 8, 2016 Hello.... where do i start... 1st of all i'm new here, i joined because i thought maybe i could get some actual help instead of biased opinions from friends or from people who constantly judge me... in 2014 i got into a long distant relationship.. he is in america and i'm in the Uk (London) we met online, and it was the typical whirlwind... i disliked him when i 1st met him i then literally grew to love him very much we started dating and had been dating for about a year and a half. we never got the chance to meet, at first it was because of money issues on my part (i'm a university student, had no job constantly made homeless by family e.c.t) so things always got set back but that just made the want to see each other grow... a decision was then made that he would come here 1st because my friends and family was not particularly thrilled about me travelling half way across the world to meet someone who i had been speaking too online and he was perfectly fine with it i should have known really doom was set from the beginning, before we got together we had 2 run in's with his ex.. first time we wasn't "together" however mutually talking exclusive to one another and bam! he runs back to his ex no warning.. but doing stuff like talking to me in confidence about his problems would ask me to stay up at night to talk to him then fall asleep.. (he was use to falling asleep with me on the phone) and send me inappropriate photos and say things giving a glimmer of hope that we was going to go somewhere... then just as we got together officially his ex came and said she was pregnant but that wasn't that major and we sorted it out as a team His ex told me certain things about him.. things that later ended up becoming true, i kept them in the back of my mind because honestly at that time she had no reason to try break us up we broke up in september 2015, mainly because he accused me of cheating ALL THE TIME!! he would also make me feel like crap quite a lot and honestly we wasn't talking we spoke literally once every week or 2 weeks and i honestly lost the spark that we once had... in the normal swing of break ups for the 1st few weeks i was upset and crying and he was getting on.. going clubs ect i wanted him back... he wasn't interested then he wanted me back... i had pushed pride as a defence shield and treated him exactly how he treated me i helped him out during some tough times the end of last year.. gave him support when no one else would... he was just be constantly negative all my effort was in vain... the issue now is... i still have feelings for him.. and i want to talk to him but i don't know how or even what to say i don't even know if there is a point talking t him when he said that our relationship was absolutely nothing just flirting and arguing ...someone told me he cheated on me through our relationship and he's moved on... i never got no closure from this at all... another thing is that... he's managed to put me in such a bad light no one takes my side of the story instead blaming me for everything... i'm not saying i never did wrong but he made me sound like the devil to people... he has said some really hurtful things, things you shouldn't say to anyone thanks for reading any questions will be answered Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Stay away from him. He's bad news for a number of different reasons, and he's on the other side of the world anyway. What type of future could you really have? It's not as though one of you could just up and relocate; international moves to a country where you have no residency or citizenship is not a simple task (and I speak from experience) He's dishonest and from you say, not a very nice person. Who takes which side is totally irrelevant because this isn't a healthy relationship. Cut all ties and fill your life with more positive people and goals. Link to post Share on other sites
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