Marie2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 This is a new thread as the one I posted before has been closed. To those ones who sent me replies (quite a few), thank you. Some of you were really tough with me.. and it hurt. But you really helped me putting my head straight again. To those who have been kind with me, thank you too. I needed some support and kindness. And I got it too. For those who don't know what this story is about, let me tell you that I was part of a triangle. I did not know or was not aware of it at the beginning... After dating this guy for 6 months, I found out, when he told me he was on vacation with his family, that he certainly was but with his wife... I received an email from her saying that she left him, that he was all mine and wished me good luck with him. I don't know why or how, I forgave him. I was deeply in love with him and he promised he was going to file for divorce... That was my biggest mistake because I should have left him then and disappear from his life. It's easy to say it now, after everything that has happened. But he always came back to me begging for forgiveness and telling me that I was the one he was in love with and wanted to spend the rest of his life with... Now I see it all as BS... I do not know if he's ever going to file for divorce or not. But I don't care anymore. It's OVER. A few days ago, he had the guts to send me a message saying that "he's crazy in love with me and will always be and if I get an email from him saying that he doesn't love me anymore, to please do not believe it, because that is not the truth but it will be because he will feel pushed to do so. He also said that once he files for divorce, he will come back to me"... My answer: "Don't ever make me an accomplice of your lies, manipulation of betrayal. It is sad how you turn good relationship into toxic ones. I am sorry for you. Do not EVER contact me again". I blocked him on my phone, email, facebook, etc. A few of you in this forum told me that I was the one in the middle, the OP. And to not interfere... Yes, I was in the middle. But I was blind and brainwashed, I guess... How could I allow someone to manipulate me in a way that I did not even recognize myself? I have no idea how did it happen... Where did my pride, my self-esteem, my principles go? I have no clue... but thank God, they are back.. I have to say that that kind of persons are very charming: everybody I introduced him to (my family included) said that he was awesome and the best one...??!! Anyway, after I re-read my original post, I saw myself as a person without feelings. And that's not me. I have to say that I was angry, shocked, upset.. but I don't know at who: me, him or her... Nobody should try to hurt oneself for anyone else. If they do, they certainly need help and possibly walk out of whatever relationship that person is in... I will never know the end of the story, because as I said, I am out. As of me, I've decided to move on with my life. I'm attending dancing classes and volunteering in a couple organizations. I do need to work on myself and make sure that I NEVER EVER let a person like that one enter into my life again. We all have read stories about how some people ruin someone else's lives. Unfortunately, I have lived it in the front row and I don't want to be there never again. If this helps someone, please be strong, don't buy lies, as I did, and if you are in a relationship where the other person doesn't put you as the first and only one, RUN FAST and never look back!!! Once again, thank you all 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 I do not know if he's ever going to file for divorce or not. But I don't care anymore. It's OVER. A few days ago, he had the guts to send me a message saying that "he's crazy in love with me and will always be and if I get an email from him saying that he doesn't love me anymore, to please do not believe it, because that is not the truth but it will be because he will feel pushed to do so. He also said that once he files for divorce, he will come back to me"... My answer: "Don't ever make me an accomplice of your lies, manipulation of betrayal. It is sad how you turn good relationship into toxic ones. I am sorry for you. Do not EVER contact me again". I blocked him on my phone, email, facebook, etc. O...M...G!!! Little gremlins are probably the ones sending those 'I don't love you' e-mails I think I could get some material to do stand up comedy on just one-liners from MM like this jerk you dealt with. Good for you. Never believe them until it's a couple years after the ink dries on their divorce papers. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
oceansaway Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Good for you! Keep your head up and work on yourself. You will find love again with a honest person Link to post Share on other sites
OneLov Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Bravo for doing what's right by yourself and everyone else in the situation. You're a strong woman. Know that today, you can hold your head high. You have come out of the darkness and into the light. Be empowered by your choice and keep moving forward. I wish you all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted April 9, 2016 Share Posted April 9, 2016 Good for you! That's great and I wish you the best!! Link to post Share on other sites
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