My ex is NUTS

[Lonestar]

My ex and I have been on and off due to the fact that he's a huge loser and can't seem to commit to much of anything. A month ago I slept with him again after being apart for a few months, and he ran so fast after that I could hear his feet hitting the ground. At that point, I said f*ck this, and started living my life. I stopped contact him completely, dated other men, and put it all behind me for the 3rd time. So last weekend, I'm out riding (motorcycle) with a guy I'm seeing. The ex was supposed to drop off our daughter and I showed up about 10 minutes late because we got sidetracked at a bar. Thankfully his mother was there dropping off our kid because I didn't want any crap.

 

Now five days later, I get a call this morning from the ex who is completely freaking out because his mother told him. He said he hasn't slept in 3 days, he loves me, and he's all f*cked up now. I told him that I was completely honest with him a month ago about what I wanted, but he chose to walk away and that I'm not going to chase him anymore or act like a pussy. I'm not chasing anyone. He made his choice. I said I haven't heard from you in a month, do you really expect me not to live my life? Sorry, buddy, but that isn't happening. I'm hearing about how many times he almost called me or emailed me, and I said well you didn't do it, thinking and doing are two different things. He's almost crying. So I ask him if he's figured out what he wants yet, and he can't answer the friggin question, except that he loves me and he's scared, and if he had his way we'd be together, but he doesn't know how to do that because of all that's happened in the past. He thinks I'm sleeping with the guy (which I'm not - yet) but I didn't tell him that. It's none of his business.

 

I ended it by saying that it's not my problem what issues he's dealing with or what he can or can't do at this point. I'm not waiting around and I'm living my life. Nothing I'm doing is meant to hurt him, but he's gonna have to learn to deal with it because he's made his choice, and he's hurt me way too many times. I've moved on.

 

They always want what they can't have, or what someone else has. I find this whole thing hysterical. When you stop caring about them, they come running real fast, don't they.

[blind_otter]

Word, chica. I feel that.

[Bubbles]

Lonestar,

 

Yep! As soon as you get your shyte together they come running back as if they have had some type of revelation!

 

My ex even went as far as saying that he actually wanted to marry me.........now is that pathetic or what? What a cop-out!

 

Your ex needs to start smelling the coffee....literally! My ex husband was a drinker, 10 years after our break-up he would still have me back if I gave him the opportunity. Not going to happen! He had 10 years of my life already, what's left over belongs to me and my kids!!!

 

You sound very strong. I envy that.

 

 

bubbles

[tiki]

Yeah, I'd continue to get on with my life too. If he keeps playing these games, your likely to be hanging around for a while, especially if it's up to him.

 

Get on with your life and if YOU decide it's a possibility with the ex, then YOU take it from there, at YOUR own pace.

 

If you're really interested in making at work, at least make him sweat a little. He needs to see that you're a hot commodity!

 

How bad are you wanting him back?

[Lonestar]

Originally posted by blind_otter

Word, chica. I feel that.

 

It's sweet revenge. Live a good life and they suffer.

 

He had 10 years of my life already, what's left over belongs to me and my kids!!!

 

He had five years of my life. I'm done with that BS.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Lonestar

When you stop caring about them, they come running real fast, don't they.

yeah....it's funny how that works, isn't it?

[Bubbles]

Atta gurl! you just remembering that each and every time he makes his feeble attempts for your attention.

 

He's already had enough time.

 

I think what really pees me off about last ditch attempts is this, they always pitch when it is too late. We have moved on and they turn around and do exactly what we wanted them to do in the first place. Arrrrrgh! That's my favorite..........

 

bubbles

[Lonestar]

Originally posted by tiki

Yeah, I'd continue to get on with my life too. If he keeps playing these games, your likely to be hanging around for a while, especially if it's up to him.

 

Get on with your life and if YOU decide it's a possibility with the ex, then YOU take it from there, at YOUR own pace.

 

If you're really interested in making at work, at least make him sweat a little. He needs to see that you're a hot commodity!

 

How bad are you wanting him back?

 

Hey tiki!

 

He's played games with me for long enough. Five years of stringing me along, so that's why I finally said f*ck it. I'll do what I want when I want and if it hurts him, it's his destiny. He chose that by walking away, right?

 

At this point I don't want him back. He'd have to make a complete change and he already made it clear on the phone this morning that he's still all f*cked up in the head. I told him straight out I'm not going back to that crap. I said I'm better than that. I want a real relationship with someone who wants to be with me. I wasn't a bitch or anything, just to the point and very strong. This call was a big ego boost I must say.

 

The only reason he called is because his ego is bruised and he doesn't want me with anyone else. I'm not a toy he can take out of the closet when he feels like playing.

[tiki]

This was the one thing I really struggled with in my divorce/divorce process. When he wanted me back (he acted on it twice), I got utterly nauseous and couldn't handle it. I hated the thought of hurting him, leading him on or ANYTHING. I had to cut it at the cord. I told him to quit expressing how he felt, that it was too hard on me. He did! And we never looked back.

 

Now I have found the love I deserved to have.

 

I know it must be hard. Hang in there!

[Lonestar]

Originally posted by Bubbles

I think what really pees me off about last ditch attempts is this, they always pitch when it is too late. We have moved on and they turn around and do exactly what we wanted them to do in the first place. Arrrrrgh! That's my favorite..........

 

 

He's done this before, so I was expecting it. He can say whatever he wants, but I don't trust much of anything that comes out of his mouth. I know why this is happening and it's jealousy - not love. It's not good enough for me.

[Lonestar]

Originally posted by tiki

This was the one thing I really struggled with in my divorce/divorce process. When he wanted me back (he acted on it twice), I got utterly nauseous and couldn't handle it. I hated the thought of hurting him, leading him on or ANYTHING. I had to cut it at the cord. I told him to quit expressing how he felt, that it was too hard on me. He did! And we never looked back.

 

Now I have found the love I deserved to have.

 

I know it must be hard. Hang in there!

 

I admit that it's hard. It is, especially because I do still care and we share a child together. I always have to have some sort of contact with him, but there is someone better out there who will truly love me and I can't let him interfere anymore. I even said to him, if you still haven't figured out what you want, then why are you calling me? All this phone call is a mindf*ck and I'm not letting you do that anymore.

[Bubbles]

EXACTLY!!! and they still think that we are stupied enough to fall for their fraudulant attempts to get us back into their lives. Boy......just goes to show what they thought of us in the first place huh?

 

Our ex's obviously think that we are like dogs.........dogs will continue to love and obey their abusers......women do not........most of us move-on....because we can.

 

bubbles