Anishe Posted April 10, 2016 Share Posted April 10, 2016 So we've never met in real life. We connected really well and fell in love, or should I say he pretended to be in love and :love:lied about his feelings and i was the naive kid who couldn't see his lies and fell for it. He emotionally pampers me , defends me on facebook groups and also tells every female friend that he's no longer single and is with me.He also drew me a cute sketch of the two of us. Only to ghost on me by the end of our third month anniversary . I felt so humiliated and didn't bother to ask him why he isn't talking to me anymore. He was active on our chat group and facebook groups all this while. I was hurt , but tried to control myself from texting him. Three months later I get a message from him on my birthday that reads' Happy Birthday love' . He also sends me a friend request on my other account and messages me there as well. After a week he says he had a dream about me and I tasted sweet. Then he sends me a long essay , apologizing for what he did , and he mentioned he isn't looking for a relationship or forgiveness. Then he tries to flirt with me on the facebook group and also defends me when someone said mean things about me. He then accidentally sends me a dot and apologises. Now, this is the first time I respond to him after he's being trying to talk to me for two months. I tell him' It's ok' He immediately asks' Mind I ask how you are?' I respond with' What? No. I've been busy working.' He says sorry a week later he says he thought I did mind when I said no. and he's like' My bad lol. What have you been busy with. I ignore his message Then he sends me a message referring to me with my nick name and asks if I've written anything. I thought this is the best opportunity to show him that I write better stories than he does. I send it to him. He says it's really good and asks me to draw it so he can visualize how it would look. The very minute, he adds me to his new chat group . I respond saying' I will complete drawing it soon' To which he replies' Show it to me later' :laugh: A part of me wants to believe that he is genuinely trying to be on talking terms with me again and has no ulterior motive. But some part of me thinks that h is only doing this to get his power back. He wants me to get engaged into a conversation with him, then leave like he did before and keep me waiting for his response. I am no psychology student but I feel so. Another interesting thing. He has never deactivated his account, but when I deactivated mine for a day, he deactivated his account the very next day. ;) Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 A part of me wants to believe that he is genuinely trying to be on talking terms with me again and has no ulterior motive. Did you just fall off the applecart yesterday? But some part of me thinks that h is only doing this to get his power back. He wants me to get engaged into a conversation with him, then leave like he did before and keep me waiting for his response. I am no psychology student but I feel so. ^^^^^ This. Another interesting thing. He has never deactivated his account, but when I deactivated mine for a day, he deactivated his account the very next day. ;) Doesn't take much for him to erase you from his life, does it? Ever heard the saying: "Mess with me once, shame on you. Mess with me twice, shame on me?" IOW, the guy has already shown you what a jerk he is and how little you mean other than being an ego boost for him. Shame on him for being such a low-life. But fall for his crap a second time? Then the blame is all on you for being so stupid and such a glutton for punishment. Ignore him. Block him. Don't look back and move on. He doesn't deserve one more second of your time, trouble, or thoughts while you deserve a lot more. Best, TMichaels 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 You are going to look back on this one day and think to yourself, "What on earth was I thinking??? What a loser!!" Please cut contact, block this guy, and in the future avoid any "online relationships." They are pure fantasy and although they may feel real, they're not. There is never going to be a true attachment/bond with an online persona. Meet people in real life and date them. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Time for you to let this one go! You need to move on get on with your life already. You don't need a person like this in your life who's not working with a full deck of cards as we say. He has you a backup and he can always count on you being there as one. Don't go there stop this madness now! Just doing your head in as you can see! Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Forget about him. You don't even really know him. That is blunt, but I feel you need to hear it. You invested in someone without ever having met in real life, which isn't a wise move. He knows how to sweet-talk you and you are falling for it again. He's not serious whatsoever. You have no idea who this person really is in real life, if he's dating, a complete whack-job, etc. It is far healthier to meet men offline and let them show you they're worth it. Please don't get attached to some guy on the internet. May I ask how old you both are, and why you've never met? Link to post Share on other sites
Rainah Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 Sounds like he is playing mind games with you. Stop responding to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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