tj87 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 My parents hate my husband and my in-laws absolutely hates me to bits. Both sides are demanding me to get divorced for good. There is a long story behind how we have come to reach here, but I still love my husband despite everything. My husband is a mama's boy and always goes on his mother's side each and every time something happens. But she hates my guts. So he could easily be influenced/manipulated into hating me as well. But currently he is saying he still loves me too. I want to hold onto this marriage, but no one else does. I also don't know how we would hold up in the far future. What can I do? Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 You say that you want to hold on to this marriage. Question for you: does this marriage make you happy and content? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I want to hold onto this marriage, but no one else does. I also don't know how we would hold up in the far future. What can I do? Please help. Hard to help without more details though a spouse that would chose his Mom over his wife doesn't seem worth keeping... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Get some marriage counseling & focus on the boundaries you both need to set in place with your families of origin. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 A good, strong couple should present a united front against all attacks. That is the only way they can survive. When your parents tell you to get divorced, you should both stand together and say no you love each other and you will not divorce simply because they want you to. And when his parents say the same, your joint reaction should be the same. But it seems his half of the united front, is not so united..... Houston we have a problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Move far away from parents and start over again. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 First, he needs to man up and stop letting his mother dictate his life. Secondly, there's a lot more to the story than we know, especially since everyone is encouraging the two of you to split. Your marriage may not be viable. That is still a call for the two of you to make, not his mother, or anyone else for that matter. It takes two to make a marriage work. You can put 1000% into it, but at the end of the day, you alone can't make him stay unless he wants to. If he wants it as much as you do, you both need to tell the naysayers to butt out. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 If you both want to stay married then tell your parents to stay out of your marital affairs in a polite way. You may need their help down line so no need to shut them out. Link to post Share on other sites
maacus Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 If you both want to stay married then tell your parents to stay out of your marital affairs in a polite way. You may need their help down line so no need to shut them out. What kind of help would they possibly be willing or qualified to give after wanting them to split up? I agree just tell them to stay out of their marital affairs, but good gosh I would never, ever want help from these type of people "down the line" or any other time. Link to post Share on other sites
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