Why is he blocking and unblocking me on social media?

[nbizz1]

Hi everyone. I need some insight here. I had a relationship that lasted about 7 months and didn't end very well. It was mutual and even though we've had no contact since it ended about 2 1/2 weeks ago, I'll notice that he'll have me blocked on Facebook for a few days and then unblock me for a day or so, then he'll block me again(we haven't been friends on FBook since December, anyway). Not only that, but he'll also block me on Instagram and then after a few days unblock me for a few hours, then block me again(which doesn't make much sense because he has a public account anyway). Why is he doing this? I don't understand the motive? I know it's over, and I would rather not hear "stop analyzing it, it's over." I know it is, but this behavior is boggling me and I just want some opinions to as why someone would act this way, I haven't tried to contact him at all. Is he trying to get my attention or put salt in the wound? Thanks in advance!

[stillafool]

Is there any way that you cannot see if he is blocking or unblocking you? It would seem that you seeing what he is doing is holding you back from healing and moving forward. He is the only one who knows why he is blocking and unblocking you; but I don't think it is good for you that you know this.

[nbizz1]

Well he knows me very well so part of me feels that he knows it's bothering me which is why he's doing it. Or he wants me to reach out and ask him what his problem is because he has too much pride to message me himself.

[basil67]

Don't give him the opportunity to play with you. Just unfriend him on both so that you take his power away.

[nbizz1]

The thing is I wasn't friends on him on either! He blocked me when I wasn't following him or friends with him on Facebook any longer.

[basil67]

So you only know that he'd blocked you because you've been cyberstalking him?

 

In that case, I guess he's doing it because "I don't want her to see my stuff....I shouldn't care if she sees my stuff.....I don't want....I shouldn't care. He's probably having an internal war over the best way to move on.

[nbizz1]

Well he's my ex it's not alien to want to see their page. I do miss him and now I feel as though I look more just because of his game of blocking and ublocking. Before it I wasn't really looking. He doesn't know that I've been looking at his pages because I haven't even spoke to him or voiced my curiosity about why he's doing what he's doing. Haven't spoke since we broke up because I told him not to bother me.

[LD1990]

It's a waste of time to consider his motives. You'll probably never know and regardless, knowing his motives doesn't help you heal.

 

You can either stop looking at his social media completely, block him the next time he unblocks you, or keep looking at his social media every few hours. Two of those options help you move on, the other keeps you spinning your wheels for as long as you feel the actions of an ex are worth your time.

[nbizz1]

I appreciate your response but these are things I already know. All I wanted were opinions on WHAT peoples opinions were on why he was doing this. I'm getting responses that I specifically asked not to get.

[Neffer]

There is no actual answer to this. He is likely acting on a whim. Does it matter? Go NC - you are just perpetuating pointless drama stalking him. Or, continue to smack your head into a wall/puzzle over this.

 

As its facebook, the only reasons he could have to block/unblock is gameplaying or he has an evil twin. I have done something similar - blocked and unblocked, but I had a reason: I blocked then unblocked my ex on google as I was in one of his circles and it was the only way to get out of his circle without contacting him and asking to remove me. (I was sick of seeing his ****face on my profile/circles) I unblocked him after a day as you really cannot totally block someone on google (they can see you as its public) But it removed his ****face from my page. Mission accomplished.

 

Your ex is jerking your chain in a pointless way.