kendahke Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 What would you do??? STAY OUT OF HER HOUSE. You act like you have no control over where you place your person. What's wrong with staying home? Why are you trying to win this battle with his mother in HER OWN HOME? It's not your home!! I don't understand how you don't get that very simple, fundamental point, unless you're trying to win some pointless battle with someone who's already got you over a barrel. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 What would I do? I wouldn't of had a child with a momma's boy. People don't change. She won't change. He won't defend you. You have to protect your son from the both of them. I would recommend cutting down/stopping the time spent with her. Do you have a mother, grandmother, aunt and they're good people? Then, spend more time with them instead of her. Actually, I'd look into getting a family law attorney and see about getting sole custody and now allowing your bf and/or his mother any legal right to access to your son. Cuz trust me, either she'll turn your child against you and/or extend her abuse to your child...She may even want to turn your child into another momma's boy...cuz that's how controlling, bullying, witches like her operate. She hates men and mission in life is to beat them down into submission. Huh? The OP doesn't have a son. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 In another thread you said you never have your boyfriend over to your house because he has bad manners and your family hates him. So it's okay for your family to hate him, it's okay for you to not even allow him over to your home, but you think you should have the freedom to roam around his mother's house and act like it's your own. You think you should be able to smoke, hang all over your bf, cook in the kitchen, make messes and stay for the night, and his mother should just mind her own business like she's the hired help or something....all while your boyfriend isn't even welcome inside of your house. If you don't like the way his mother treats you then don't go over there. It's her house and she doesn't even have to allow you to be there. She would be perfectly within her rights to just kick you out and tell you not to come back. You don't seem to have any problem with your family hating your BF yet you whine and whine about his mommy just isn't nice to you while you are disrespecting her and treating her house like it belongs to you. That just goes to show how self involved and immature you are. His mother doesn't owe you anything and it's kind of her to even allow you to be a guest in her house, to allow you to use her kitchen and sleep in her bedroom (sorry but your bf's bedroom technicaly belongs to his mother) and make use of the rest of the house as well. Don't like that she asks you questions? Then get your own damn place where you get to act however you want. Lastly, based on one of your other threads, your BF sounds like a dick. I don't know why you are spending so much time whinning about his mother when your biggest problem is that he apparently disrespects you, possibly cheats and plays games with you. Maybe you need to start putting your attention on that rather than his mother. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 If your bf still lives with his mother, that is the problem. He's not man enough to tell her to shut it. Now if this is a situation where you and the bf live on your own elsewhere but went there for a holiday overnight and she treated you that way, it's still up to him to tell her to shut it. No, he's not man enough to move out and live on his own instead of with his mama. His mother doesn't have to shut anything in her own house. Whoever's name is on the mortgage/lease is who gets to tell who to shut it. Sonny-boy ain't that one; neither is his girlfriend. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted June 3, 2016 Share Posted June 3, 2016 The aggressive staring on her part sounds creepy. It would make more sense for her to ban you from her house, as she clearly doesn't want you there. Thumbs down to your bf for not standing up for you. He should have told you about the gift thing before you went there for the first time. Sounds like she controls people by acting passive aggressive until they get the hint. You are not getting it, and it is pissing her off. She is not assertive enough to bluntly tell you her house rules: no smoking in here or you can't come over. So yeah, she is acting immature, but you are provoking her. Link to post Share on other sites
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