sadwifeinCT Posted April 20, 2016 Share Posted April 20, 2016 Hubby & I (mid 40s) have been married since 2002, 2nd marriage for each of us, with kids from prior the marriages. The first 8 years were filled with the normal 2nd marriage struggles of “blending” a family...exs, kids becoming teens, life, etc. The next 4 years were very difficult, in and out of counseling, but it the end always trying to work it out. Fast forward to 2014, marriage is in trouble but in counseling, and hubby blindsides me announcing he wants a divorce and moves out 2 weeks later. We were apart for 8 months. No separation or divorce papers signed. Hubby & I were in touch the entire time, with several times of him telling me he didn’t want a divorce, that he loves me, and a few times of us being intimate. During the entire time we were apart he knew I didn’t want the separation/divorce. After the marital house sells, and the dust settles, we decide to give it another try. Back into counseling where we agree to be transparent about our time apart. It took hubby 6 months of counseling to admit he dated and was in a relationship for a “couple of months” while we were apart. I was never involved with anyone. That was a year ago. During the last year in counseling, hubby’s stories have changed as to what went on those 8 months. His original stories of being unhappy and miserable, having no money to help support the marital home, no money to pay bills, etc. now lead to information of trips to the beach with new GF, vacation to the shore, concerts, dinners out, etc. The “couple of months” relationship was more of a 5 month relationship that was GOING ON WHEN we were intimate. Something that I would have NEVER done if I had known. And now I am stuck. Trying to figure out if I can forgive for all the deceit and untruths that were told. Trying to figure of if I can forgive him being intimate with me at the same time he was being intimate with someone else. Or do I just (finally) walk away? Link to post Share on other sites
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