Where would I ask about or discuss OLD websites?

[FinallyFree1967]

Interested to hear reactions from people who have used sites where you could view profiles and interact with people. Is it OK to ask in this forum? Is it not OK to mention other websites at all? What's the rule on that?

[smackie9]

it's about dating...yes this is the place.

[scooby-philly]

I've seen threads shut down when people get into this topic. I hope this one doesn't.

 

I've used both Match and EHarmony.

 

They've both got their ups and downs.

 

Match -

 

Pros

You can search using lots of criteria

You can go right to email without playing games

Lots of people

Easy to use

Cons

Lots of people - the basics are easy to search for, but you're own your

own "searching". I mean, even in their "daily matches" 1/2 the people

that show up violate your basic tenants - even a big one like "must have

photo"

 

It's way easier to get spammed - winks from fake profiles, for guys -

gold-diggers,

 

There's no easy way to figure out personality till you start talking in real

life.

 

Overall I've stuck with match b/c I don't mind doing the work and even all the profile tests on EHarmony - it's too ridiculous and not enough people. The second time I used E-Harmony they literally had no one for me after a month within 100 miles. I mean within 100 miles of where I live there's like 20-30 million people. Seriously?

 

E-Harmony

Pros

More expensive - less if not no "spam". Though people can sign up and

not be ready/serious to date (i.e. they don't use the site let alone be

emotionally ready

 

The personality stuff does work to a certain extant. If you're terrible at

figuring out who you click with it's worth the slightly higher price and

process

 

Easy enough process in communicating - allows you to weed out stuff

that would be a deal breaker early on that you can't pick up in a OLD

profile

 

They do give you an option to move towards email quicker if both parties

agree.

 

CONs

 

They whole process can get tiresome - especially when people ask silly questions during the whole process leading up to open emails

 

They either have bad algorithms or few members. Like I said, after 1 month the second time I signed up they didn't have matches for me within 100 miles. Again - within 100 miles of me there's 20+ million people. You can't find more than 10 women? And then they keep telling you to expand your criteria - I mean if you're so good why do I need to change who I am to get a good fit? Plus, few people would move for dating. You move with someone you're in love with - not to meet someone to fall in love with

 

They keep sending me spam once or twice a week though I haven't been active in 18 months or more and there's still people who sign up and aren't serious about finding someone.

 

Overall it's not a bad site but the real winner would be the one that combines both styles (and has a cost since that really does limit the spam type of crap)

[FinallyFree1967]

So, one of the things I'm curious about is functionality. Features. Ways to make your experience better.

 

For instance, if you owned Match, what would you do to improve it? What would you add or change? What are the things you like/dislike most about OLD sites?

[FinallyFree1967]

Good stuff, Scooby. That's what I'm looking for.

[JuneJulySeptember]

So, one of the things I'm curious about is functionality. Features. Ways to make your experience better.

 

For instance, if you owned Match, what would you do to improve it? What would you add or change? What are the things you like/dislike most about OLD sites?

 

Why, do you work for a startup? Can I get in on it?

 

One of the things that any site I've encountered lacks is the ability to reverse search. Other men have complained about this problem as well. Here, actually.

 

So, when men search for women on Match.com, they can enter in, say race. Let's say they like black women. So all black women in their area come up if they enter that in the search parameters.

 

However, a black man cannot search for women who list 'black men' as either their only preference or one of their preferences.

 

This is extremely important because I have found that women will rarely date men who do not fit within their preferences.

 

It's not a problem if you are white, 6 feet tall or over, and make over $100,000 a year.

 

But for the rest of us, it would be SO helpful to have a list of women where we actually fit their preferences ... at the very least for race, since that is biggest disqualification point.

Edited April 22, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember

[FinallyFree1967]

I wouldn't call it a "start-up", more like an exercise in learning C#/ASP.net.

 

Reverse search. Interesting. You do sort of need to take that into account if you have same-sex users, so they're not winking at the wrong people. Good feedback.