My Indian Boyfriend

[Grefil]

hi im Gref and im 26,this story is about my Indian Boyfriend...i met him in a dating site named peperonity...honestly i was only got into that site that time cause im planning to work in a call center(sad to say until now i havent been working there cause im still very conscious the way i talk in english) to practice more on how to be fluent in english...and that time also i also feel so depressed...btw im a single mom now...i have 2 kids...im not married to the father of my kids..btw,back to the thread, yes I've been a mem of that site few years ago but not that very active mem...cause i only find alot of indians there that i couldn't even understand some of what they are saying...that time i was there on that site for long hours and searching for someone who can talk nicely...but still i finding it weird cause alot of users already are sending me pm's and most of them are indians...so i said to my self,its ok...maybe i can already practice my english here...but sone surprises me cause we know that was a dating site,so alot of indians that time were just flirting...then sending u some indecent msgs...so i got lil mad that time...why i cant still find a decent chatmate who i can talk to...when i have that feelings i was thingking on signing out...then suddenly my indian boyfriend msg appears..saying 'hi' then i also reply on his msg...asking some few questions etc etc...then i said to myself i need to go out now...cause some msgs are just popping when u proceed in some any options there...he ask me why...i said i am very upset and dont feel good here already...cause alot of indians are sending me indecent pm's...so he replied to me saying that i shouldn't mind them...etc etc then giving me some tips about those kind of persons...that time i find him nice and not like other indians...we often talk on that site...sharing some life stories...but one day i decided to stop on that site...but before that...i message him of my reason and i cannot be online anymore...then i left him with my facebook name...telling him to pm me whenever she wants...i also decidedly give my facebook to him cause i know hes nice and true...hes different....then after a few days not talking, and its a normal day for me...and that time i was using facebook i was a lil surprised cause i seen a message comes from a stranger..and i already knew that person is an indian but never thought it him...we exchange msgs...and im glad also that he really added me...after that we talk alot of things about his and my life...he also know i have a kids...i told him that time...and what happened to the father of my kids...he really understands...we gotten 2months of friendship after we became a couple...at first he was hesitating to tell me his feelings but i already knew because of the way he talk to me...but i didnt tell him...and that time i had the same feelings too...but one time i was eagerly that i wanted him to tell me honestly what he feels...i get him jealous... i talk about my ex boyfriend to him etc etc...i know he was cause the way he txt was getting different...then after a week...maybe he got some confidence to tell...so he tells me what he really feels...then i also told him what i also feel...then after that we were already a couple...i accepted him...cause i love him also...but for today...were just new couple...we are in 2months of relationship and still keeping to be strong...but my only prob was,hes an indian...alot of friends told me hes not the right person to be with in the future..honestly hes just 18 but he doesn't care if im 26...my indian friend told me maybe his family will not like me cause of traditions...and religion... hes family soon will decide the right person to him...and have an arrange marriage... i dont want to happen that in the future...we dont rush things...im still confused if,will i continue this relationship or not...cause i dont wanna be hurt too much when that time comes...

[TaraMaiden2]

Have you met him?

Seen him in real life?

If not, he is not your Bf. He is a guy you have committed to talking with online.

He is only 18, he's not even an adult, and he certainly has not got his head straight on.

He's 9 years younger than you are.

Honestly, if you were 20, would you date an 11-year-old? Of course not.

And even though you are both older, emotionally he is still far less mature than you.

 

You don't need this in your life.

You already have 2 kids, you don't need a third.

If he is from India, then he is either a Hindu/sikh, or he is a Muslim, and I don't know which religion you are, or even if you practise, but this is just a non-starter on many levels.

[Grefil]

yeah i admit we had that huge age gap...i already told him about this...but he didnt care...hes a hindu and im a christian...he had no issue about each ones religion...yes hes 18 but he thinks more matured...he was the one opening the topic about our future...then i just sharing my own opinion qith each topic he discuss...for now maybe hes 18 but if we survive this kind if situation and relationship soon we will continue...if i am not ment for him,i will accept also...

[CarrieT]

Have you met him?

Seen him in real life?

If not, he is not your Bf. He is a guy you have committed to talking with online.

He is only 18, he's not even an adult, and he certainly has not got his head straight on.

Repeated for truth.

 

OP, have you met this person yet?

[TaraMaiden2]

You're in the Philippines.

Where is he?

 

What is it you want, exactly?

 

What is your query, why did you post?

[Emilia]

How will either of you have the money to even meet? Visas? He is a kid!

 

His parents will marry him off quickly to a Hindu girl when they find out. Try to find someone in your own city.

[Grefil]

well looks like you guys really had a point..i just posted here cause i know alot of mem's have more idea about this prob...yeah just what u said @CARRIE truth....and i dont want his parents to be really sad and depressed of what their sons status now...having a relationship with non hindu...hindu is for hindu I'll just make myself not to expect more from now on..

[Miss Peach]

I have found that most Indian parents want their sons to marry an Indian woman (but I have seen a few exceptions).

 

The thing is even if you do wind up together at some point you or he are going to have to physically be together at some point. This involves one of you moving to another country. Or both of you need to move to a third country. Often when I see these types of guys online they don't think that far ahead. Many don't want to move. Would you seriously want to move to another country with your kids? If that's not even on the table I would stop talking to these guys with the mindset of any type of future.