mcandi Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 He broke up with me about three weeks ago and while the first week was pretty rough for me, I had started feel better. I still thought about him but it wasn't a constant in my mind. I did things with friends, worked, spent time with family, met some new people. I felt positive and hopeful. I kept telling myself it was for the best and it probably is. Looking back on our relationship now, it always kind of seemed like he was never sure about how he felt about me so I was happy to find out now rather than later. I went a couple weeks without obsessing over it. It felt like I was letting go. I was in a great mood and it didn't make me cry anymore but a few days ago he popped back into my head and try as I might, he wouldn't stay out. One morning I was on my phone and a text popped up from him and my heart dropped into my stomach. It said "Not trying to start anything but I saw this pic and laughed and thought you'd like it ." It was a funny cat pic. At first it bothered me but I vented to my brother about it and felt fine shortly after. I never responded to the text and that was it. I can't seem to stop thinking about everything now. I'm sad all over again and while I had started feeling this way before the text, it didn't help. I can't get him off of my mind and try as I might to keep myself busy, it won't go away and I can feel a depression about it coming on and don't know how to stop it. I don't want to feel the way I did at the beginning again. Any suggestions? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 It is natural to have your feelings fluctuate as you go through this. You should block him from having any access to you because contact is going to derail you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 Everything you are experiencing is absolutely normal and to be expected. You have entered the grieving process. 'Stopping it' is not an option, and it can't be done, anyway. The process goes smoothest when you surrender to it. Just let your thoughts and feelings come and go. If you try to 'stop it,' you'll just make it harder. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to shout, shout. You'll be OK. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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