My ex is engaged

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I thought I would never have to post in this section again relating to my ex but I found out he got engaged.

 

I don't know what to feel but Ido remember these past two days, I was thinking about where I was in life and that when I was still with my ex, i wanted to marry him after I graduate. Well I am getting my Bachelors in three weeks ( four years in the making) but I won't have a ring on my finger. Instead, I saw a picture of her ring, with her hands covered in henna (my ex is muslim).

 

I really want to be happy for him. After all this time when I repeatedly convinced myself that we both have moved on my resentment towards him and his friends has dissipated.

 

But i will admit, i do feel a little sad. I'm a little sad that, that future we had talked about once, so so long ago, was nothing more than mere fantasy.

 

I wasn't planning on posting my feelings here again, because I hadn't wanted to rehash the past. But I guess I still need a little support after all.

[Rachel39]

I can't imagine how you feel, it's something that scares me ... My sons dad married the girl he had an affair with and all though it stung I knew I never wanted to marry him.

 

My recent ex who I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with well the thought of him getting married makes me feel physically sick because I wanted all of that with him.

 

The world is cruel!

[Satu]

It's a double grieving situation.

 

You have to grieve for what you had, and for what you wanted, but didn't get.

 

As always, be very kind to yourself as you navigate through the feelings.

 

 

Take care.

[smudge21]

Sorry to hear this - nothing worse than finding out something about an ex, especially news like this. I recall an older ex, seeing a pic of her with a ring on her finger. Hit me like a ton of bricks! At the time, I thought I was doing better too. It really set me back and all the memories flooded in. Sadly, I just had to take some time to get past it and carry on the road to healing. It did teach me to cut all contact and any chance of hearing about her from my life, but it still took a while to heal again. Wish I had a quick fix for you, but sadly this is one of those bumpy roads you're on. Allow the pain, allow the sadness, just work through it. For me, I saw that ring as the final nail in the coffin; the end to all the hope I was secretly holding on to. Maybe this is the final closure you need... maybe now you can let go and go live the life you deserve.