Lovelikecrazy Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 (edited) I have recently been back in contact with an ex fiance from 15 years ago. We have kept in touch over the years from time to time. We both married other people and had kids with other people. Recently we started talking again and we have both said we feel we married the wrong people. We both wish we had gotten married way back when. We have said how can it ever be right with the wrong person. In our current relationships we are both content, neither extremely unhappy or happy. I personally have had many ups and downs and counseling with my marriage. It's never felt like it should. I do not know any details of his marriage. Other than she's a good mother and she's not his one. I was his first choice. We had a great relationship and it ended simply because I was to young. He's been opening up to me about non relationship stuff and I can see how much he has missed me. Where do I go with this situation? On one hand I say leave the past in the past and show my marriage the full attention it deserves. Live a life of contentment it's what I choose after all. On the other hand this guy and I both feel the same towards each other. Doesn't true love always find its way back? Set em free and if they come back...... Edited April 25, 2016 by Lovelikecrazy Link to post Share on other sites
kidm Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 Where do you go with this? nowhere. He is not "back." He is married with kids and so are you. Have you two talked about divorcing your respective spouses? People tend to romanticize things but once reality hits and they have to take the steps to be together, they get cold feet. As you said, you don't know the details of his marriage- he may just be looking for a side thing and he's found a potential willing participant with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Captivating Posted April 27, 2016 Share Posted April 27, 2016 You are in a hard situation...in a way I agree with what kidm said above. Let's say you guys both divorce...unfortunately you guys will change your ex-spouses lives and the kids' lives as well. The kids might be remorseful towards you growing up and this would affect their relationships later on. The pain you cause will eventually affect your new relationship as well. Two people are happy 4-6 people are in pain. I understand your hesitation though, it's ultimately your decision. I wish there would be a solution that would make everyone happy. Link to post Share on other sites
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