Is he interested?

[drgnflybethany]

CBFD (Cute Boy From Diedrich's) has been very accomodating.. ever since mentioning the web site - he has really taken an interest in helping me there... This is a Republican - who worked in the Bush White House - helping out the VP of Communications of the Harris County Young Democrats... he has not asked for anything in return...

 

Anyhow - two weeks ago he came in - and a while back, he told me what to find out from my web hosting company - and I didn't pay attention for two reasons... one I knew the way I wanted to do it - two, this is gonna sound too lovey dovey for some to imagine- when I look in his eyes - I sort of forget myself.. and when he talks, at least when he talks to me.. I can't help but notice his eyes - because he looks me in the eyes all the time.. This is nice, as I'm sort of a DD girl myself - and quite a few men in my life have a habit of staring where they shouldn't....

 

So... I walk over to him.. and ask him if he will help... this is very hard to do - it has always been hard for me to ask for help - whether it's from someone who has offered it or no... Always difficult, because ... well.. I've just always had a hard time asking.. I feel that I should be able to do most things on my own - I have done most things on my own... and while I want to lean on a boyfriend/husband/person in my life - I feel incredibly bad when I do so.

 

So... he got my email address - and said he would send me an email to send out to the hosting company. He followed through - something a lot of men in my life have not been able to do lately. He followed through the very next day.. And I contacted my hosting company - and got him the response and we traded emails once or twice more that afternoon.... Long story short - I had the forms by Tuesday afternoon. That quickly.

 

I didn't get a chance to get them uploaded until Thursday... Wednesday is the day I do the newsletter for the club - and Tuesday - I forget what Tuesday was - but it just wasn't a good day - I think I had other, more pressing web updates to do.. you know, like updating the day of Happy Hour from May to June and the Meeting Information from April to you know, June. )

 

So, Thursday, I u/l the form... and I have only a minor issue - and that is that when the form is submitted, the email comes through w/ the HTML codes entact.. not a bothersome problem for me.. but, as these are going to go to the VP of Membership, and the President of the club, it's best to have things all clean and clear. I also noticed that I forgot to ask for a "clear" button on the Why I am a Democrat web page. So, I ask him how much trouble that will be to add - and he says, I don't know what you're talking about - call me.. and gives me his phone number.

 

These replies - this was still all Thursday - and I wasn't expecting him to respond - except by either later that night - or the next day - at the earliest. Anyhow - he responded within fifteen minutes... it kind of felt like he was waiting for my emails.. he knew I was going to finally upload the forms on Thursday. So, I got the reply within like fifteen minutes - and called right when I got the message.

 

So - we talked for a few moments - and I swear the moment he knew it was me, his voice softened - noticeably softened. He said we could either make the changes over the phone or he could email me later, but he was no where near his computer... and I hate dictation over two different cell phones.

 

So - he emailed me the updated forms that night...

 

A few days before this - and I hate to backtrack, but it's how my memory works - I had offered a lot of coffee - or lunch - my treat for all the help - and to give me his company's information so I could add it to the website - and he said - let's get everything working first.. and there's been no mention of it since.

 

So, last week - last Friday, I was being told by many people that at the very least, I should give him a thank you card and a box of chocolates. Only, I have never really seen him with chocolate - of any kind.. so - I was really hesitant to buy a box of chocolates.. instead, I bought a couple of Granny Smith Apples - b/c it had been brought up that we both liked Green Apples. I saw him on Friday - but didn't buy them or give them to him until Sunday - and when I did - he said a few things - one of which, was Granny Smith - my favourite - he seemed baffled or speechless - and then gave me a hug and said any time I needed help - any other help to just ask - he would always be available. He then asked - if he would see me tomorrow, which was Monday - no... I had an officer's meeting on Monday. He then asked if he would see me on Tuesday - and I said Yes...

 

It was an odd thing - b/c he's never around on Tuesdays - never.. and I didn't expect him to be at Diedrich's. I really, really didn't... Because, many a man in my life has set up a date to see each other - and not followed through...

 

So, I showed up - and it was raining - which was problematic from a table stand point.. none available.. I sat on the floor for a bit.. rather than at the bar - b/c I hate sitting at the bar - I'm too short to sit at the bar.. So, I sat on the floor behind his chair - between him and a friend of mine. When the guy sitting in the chair beside CBFD left - I got up to move - and CBFD actually held his hand out to help me up.. and me, being the dork I am - didn't take it... I'm just very independent when it comes to things like that...

 

So, I decided to ask for help again... and did so on Wednesday night.. Because the club wants to add a lot more stuff to the web site - only, I can't ask CBFD to design this whole thing, as number 1 - it's a pride thing, followed closely by #2 - it's just not right. So... I email him asking if he knows of a resource or a book - or if he has a book I can borrow - and the same night - I get a reply back saying - he has to ponder - and will get back to me ASAP. So, I didn't respond, didn't see him on Thursday... Friday morning.. I email him saying - basically, if he had the kind of day I had on Thursday, that I would understand his pondering taking a while.. mentioned I was glad it was Friday, b/c work is only a half day on Fridays - and maybe I would see him later that afternoon at Diedrich's.

 

He showed up - I couldn't believe it - he showed up - put his stuff down at another table - and before he even ordered a drink - came over and said, so your day was really bad yesterday?

 

Here's the catch - he doesn't know yet that I'm divorced - I'm not hiding it from him - but there is a right time and a wrong time to bring that up - and I haven't happened upon a right time yet - and he's got to ask. So, I really didn't want to bring up the whole past relationship issues crap. I also hadn't planned on him coming to the coffee shop - and definitely hadn't planned on him asking about my day... So.. I was quiet for a moment - and then.. basically came up with - My ex started causing some problems... I forgot to add the caveat that my ex started causing problems at WORK.

 

So, we talked a bit - and then he went to take care of his stuff - everytime he walked by me that day - he did things to get my attention.. the final, being that as he was leaving - he said Bye, Bethany... I hope you have a good evening...

 

So, I came in the next day, and feel I may have overstayed my welcome (this was Saturday, yesterday)... I had a headache - which was a possible hangover from Happy Hour with the Young Democrats club - and I looked at his screen a little too much - and we were talking and everything - but he just... I dunno...

 

This is moving slowly - which is a good thing, b/c I'm definitely still trying to work things out. I just would like to get on a good footing to kind of know that he had an interest - and that he was moving slowly, as well.

 

So - based on that - does he have an interest - or is my intuition wrong again?

[How_Do_I_Know]

Sounds like he could definately be interested! Especially when he "shows" up at certain places, he stares at you, calls you by your name and says have a good evening, he emails you....... sounds like he is interested. Not sure what his motives would be though whether it's for sex or for a relationship.

 

Usually your intuition is always right, so if you "feel" like he is interested, chances are he is.

 

This is actually almost identical to the situation I am in. Only my crush and I are married to other indiviuals so it probably wouldn't work out.

 

Is he married or attached or single? Good luck!

[drgnflybethany]

As far as I can tell - no girlfriend... we see each other quite frequently in the coffee shop - for the past two and a half months. A friend of mine says that a girlfriend would have either been mentioned or been there by now.

 

He's younger than me, as well - so definitley not married. I am pretty sure he's come to that same conclusion (that he's younger) just from conversations - but *shrug* I don't know...

[fiatflux]

wow...how much more evidence do you need that he likes you? does he need to wear a sign with flashing lights or something? Hello? I think he likes you and wants to hook up... It's so sweet to read your messages...so very romantic. Kinda like a romance novel, complete with the democrat/republican opposite sides of the fence thing going on. Of course, I guess I could be dead wrong.