Ambajohnson Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 (edited) Hi guys I'm new to all this, basically me and my ex were going out for 17 months and I was his longest he was mine, we shared everything together had the best memories together and I am still heartbroken till this day . He was quite a stubborn person normally and was very wrapped up in work and friends but we still spent loads of time together. He used to confide in me about a lot of things and I'd give him advice. It all started when he started his new company with his friend and started not giving me much thought anymore until he took me for granted. One night we was in bed when he said I think we should go our separate ways just like that? and I said what like how? He said he didn't know what he wanted and was confused but wasent sure what he wanted anyways he dropped me home the next day and said he would message me but never did, we had a whole month of nc and he still kept me on fb. But then into the 2nd month he completely blocked me out of his lie without telling me what was happening between us with no closure! I know we are meant to be and yesterday it been 2 months I was walking to work and he drove past me. I work in a corner shop and the route he came down is near where I live and where we used to drive down all the time! I was standing in the shop and he drove back past 10 minutes later from wh re he came F pm and was staring In the shop looking for me! I know he misses me but won't say and evey day seems to be getting harder and harder 2 months on I miss him So much! Do you think there will ever be a time he will come back or does he hate me for no reason and cut me out of his life Complete I just don't understand does he even think about me Edited April 26, 2016 by Ambajohnson Wrong text Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 He broke up with you as he was starting a new business. That tells me he was taking his life in a new direction. Either he thought he was too busy with his new venture to date or he thought you would not fit into his new life. Either way, his decision to end your relationship tells you all you need to know about how little he cares about you. Even if he did look at you longingly, he may have only been waxing nostalgic for the better parts of your relationship. That is not a good reason to reconcile. More importantly, since he already threw you away once why would you trust him to come back & not do it to you a second time? Don't set yourself up for that. It's OK and understandable to be sad over the break up but you need to move past it. Hi cavalier attitude does not merit a 2nd chance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ambajohnson Posted April 27, 2016 Author Share Posted April 27, 2016 I know thank you! Do u ever think he will realise in the future tho what good hes chucked away? Or want to reconcile when the time Is right 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 27, 2016 Share Posted April 27, 2016 I know thank you! Do u ever think he will realise in the future tho what good hes chucked away? Or want to reconcile when the time Is right Don't even have the slightest glimmer of hope for either. You need to focus on the definite (it's over) rather than any possibilities (will he have a change of heart?) You have to come to terms with the fact that no matter how perfect YOU imagine yourself to be for him - he did not share that view. He didn't. Rightly or wrongly, he ended it. Forget realisation. Forget 'the time is right'. Neither are within your control. You - Control you. So the best thing is for you to look to yourself, and move on. Read the NC Guide in my signature. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 27, 2016 Share Posted April 27, 2016 He doesn't hate you, and he won't come back. I bet money on it it's because he lost his feelings for you....which is normal. You don't have to have a rocky relationship for it to end...sometimes, when the honeymoon stage ends, there isn't anything there for them to make them stay. It can be very confusing when the emotions fade without cause. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 27, 2016 Share Posted April 27, 2016 He came to decision about how he wants his life to be. It's not like you or the relationship failed a test. He just chose not to go forward with it. The best thing is to accept it and choose another future for yourself. NC is advisable. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2016 Share Posted April 27, 2016 Do u ever think he will realise in the future tho what good hes chucked away? Or want to reconcile when the time Is right the time will never be right for him to reconcile. He's finished with you & your relationship. Sorry. You have to stop dreaming of a future with him. he's not coming back & you shouldn't want him back; he already proved that he cannot be trusted with your heart. Let him go. That is the most healthy option for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BonnieParker Posted April 28, 2016 Share Posted April 28, 2016 Let me just say I've read a LOT about soulmate and true love connections- sadly they often end up like this because, in your case, he could have gotten freaked out with the intensity of the feelings. They call them "Runners". Look it up online. Start reading about it. It will make sense to you as you learn. I'm dealing with it too. Your love is real. He onvipusly is teaching his breaking point by driving past your work. He will come back to you soon if he has your number. Not that he won't come back in to your life and do the same thing. He might. The connection is real and it's scary as hell to people- especially the man. He feels overwhelmed by love he's never felt before and a loss of ego. Hang in there! Peace and love! Link to post Share on other sites
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