Online Dating Fatigue - It's Real

[LookAtThisPOst]

Interesting article, even talks about those who quit online dating, wind up going back to it weeks later. Talks about all the flakiness and catalog shopping.

 

Online dating fatigue is a real thing and it?s happening to everyone

 

Even the analogy about how in a small town, with limited options, people aren't looking for the bigger, better deal...because of less options.

 

Imagine living in a small town without as many dating prospects. You’ll probably make the partner you have, work, rather than pass them off after one date to see who else has landed in your inbox.

[Jacques on stage]

Interesting article, even talks about those who quit online dating, wind up going back to it weeks later. Talks about all the flakiness and catalog shopping.

 

Online dating fatigue is a real thing and it?s happening to everyone

 

Even the analogy about how in a small town, with limited options, people aren't looking for the bigger, better deal...because of less options.

 

Imagine living in a small town without as many dating prospects. You’ll probably make the partner you have, work, rather than pass them off after one date to see who else has landed in your inbox.

 

When I try OLD, I tend to find about 1 attractive, interesting woman who is close enough to me per month. They invariably don't respond. It becomes tedious in the extreme.

[truthtripper]

I have never online dated and don't think I ever will. Too much of a waste of time and energy. I have never done Meetup either, but it sounds like a more natural, productive option to me.

[jay1983]

Oh yeah, I find it exhausting. Get a notification, someone likes you, read their profile, come up with something clever, reply and keep doing that over and over till you find one of them is serious enough to actually meet. It's like a part time job being on there, I can only do 2-3 weeks before I delete it.

[GemmaUK]

Course it's real!

 

You have it too OP!

You piece apart OLD profiles on here all the time! Lol!

Stuff like that is part of dating fatigue buddy!

[ChocolateRain]

Interesting article, even talks about those who quit online dating, wind up going back to it weeks later. Talks about all the flakiness and catalog shopping.

 

Online dating fatigue is a real thing and it?s happening to everyone

 

Even the analogy about how in a small town, with limited options, people aren't looking for the bigger, better deal...because of less options.

 

Imagine living in a small town without as many dating prospects. You’ll probably make the partner you have, work, rather than pass them off after one date to see who else has landed in your inbox.

 

this was actually a great article so so true ...

 

i have tried this OLD for a year or so and fatigued is not even the word. i had a complete OLD Burn Out more of a Melt Down

it was somehow a great experience but i have learned so much also about some peoples behavior that damaged me for the rest of my life

 

i guess i'v tried because many of my friends talked about it so there i was ready ...set ...go

one of The first site i joined was POF Among others that was advertised as decent ) ... met a few guys but never ever went on a actual date ...thank god i didnt

 

my profile was set up nicely so i thought ... decent picture , kept true about myself i was serious in finding Mr. Right

So after picking out some gentlemen ( or should i say wolf in sheep clothing ) that i thought suited my taste , we started to exchange messages but was always quickly asked come on skype ... okay , what can happen on Skype a looooooooooot

 

the minute you open the cam you find the biiig surprise gotta love it Sure enough the picture NEVER EVER matched or they were old from last century : )

 

what i often found was guys half dressed or worse in their Birthday suits many popped the first question ... now show me yours needles to say i became afraid of skyping now imagine i would have had a date with one of these .

 

then you have those who are extremely charming , behaving well my House my Boat my ooops forgot to mention i have a wife

the sweetest ones are of course the marriage/money scammers they lie till earth loses its gravity and back again and afterwards you feel so sweet like you just took a candy bath ... seen pretty quickly through it , poor B.....S

 

Then there are those who invite every woman to join their FB Page and we all have a great big get together and some Ladies break out in cat fights so it was enjoyable to watch ( munched loads of popcorn ) forgot to mention that those are the type of ppl that are really really REALLY serious:sick: about finding a Partner sweeet and when you trace it he leaves the same message on nearly every womans FB page ...all women are just soooo HOT

 

At this point on my OLD Journey i had seen the worst of the worst and out of respect i didnt go into further detail :sick:

 

OLD is like a big human shopping mall and at the push of a button you can be replaced , disposed , thrown into the Trash Bin there is just sooo many too chose from and i found that many are not really serious and many are very delusional ( A delusion is a false belief that is based on an incorrect interpretation of reality. )

sorry but sitting on the couch with unwashed hair and looking like you havn't took a bath in a while but expecting to meet Kim Kardashian :laugh::laugh: paaaalease and it seems these days that this is what people look for ... ( in my experience )

 

i am no kim kardashian and i am not looking like a celebrity nor am i a Model and i have never set my goals too high . i am average i would say and i never chase the'' hot '' guys i dont chase at all matter of fact lol

 

The only really good normal decent ones , are always living on the 9th planet X and hard to reach and to relocate is often not an option

 

i found that hardly anyone that does OLD wants to give up their '' Friends '' on FB and thats the world of today

 

conclusion : i RATHER SHRiVEL UP LiKE A PRUNE ALONE ...

 

i was curious to why many men behaved in such fashion and asked a guy friend to make a profile on a dating site just to see what would happen ... needles to say the women ( yes girls , sorry to say ) many women are not any better ... i dont speak for all men nor for all women because i know and believe that there are gems out there ready to be found BUT Gems are hard to find and lucky are those who find them

 

OLD is not my cup of tea and OLD Fatique is such a understatement it really either leaves you burned out and frustrated or you become one of them and sit behind your screen waiting for the better one to come along ...just dont wake up one day at age 75 old and alone and wonder where the time has gone ....

 

DAAAAAAMN THAT KiM KARDASHiAAAAAAAAAAAAN

[MissBee]

I hate OLD.

 

The very first time I ever did it was in college and I was on it for about 3 months when I got burnt out and had planned to delete it when I got a message from a guy who then became my boyfriend, and I did delete it after our date. I think after we broke up I might have gone back for like a month or so, or every few months, then deleted it again and basically didn't use OLD for about 4 years or so until about 2 years ago I had given myself a timeline to say I would join OLD, I would have the profile for 3 months and if I didn't meet anyone I would delete it.

 

I had a much better experience that last time because previously I found it more exhausting when I was more open to "giving chances." That had made me waste SO MUCH TIME with guys who were not at all my speed, and every new failed date was irritating. When I got back on after 4 years I was pretty much very very picky and, contrary to what some would think, it made for a better experience. I also was more proactive about messaging guys I liked, so had more control over who I wanted to talk to versus the messages from who wanted to talk to me regardless of my interest. After less than a month I found my then bf, he was the second guy I had gone on a date with. Some of it was luck I'm sure, but the fact that I went on 2 really good dates with guys who both could have potentially been people I wanted to see was so much more satisfying than when I would go on 10 dates but most of them were blah. I'm not on OLD anymore and don't think I'll ever be again....I just really dislike it...but what I did find was that me being pickier and initiating more messages made for more positive experiences, but it still got tiring very quickly.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I hate OLD.

 

The very first time I ever did it was in college and I was on it for about 3 months when I got burnt out and had planned to delete it when I got a message from a guy who then became my boyfriend, and I did delete it after our date. I think after we broke up I might have gone back for like a month or so, or every few months, then deleted it again and basically didn't use OLD for about 4 years or so until about 2 years ago I had given myself a timeline to say I would join OLD, I would have the profile for 3 months and if I didn't meet anyone I would delete it.

 

I had a much better experience that last time because previously I found it more exhausting when I was more open to "giving chances." That had made me waste SO MUCH TIME with guys who were not at all my speed, and every new failed date was irritating. When I got back on after 4 years I was pretty much very very picky and, contrary to what some would think, it made for a better experience. I also was more proactive about messaging guys I liked, so had more control over who I wanted to talk to versus the messages from who wanted to talk to me regardless of my interest. After less than a month I found my then bf, he was the second guy I had gone on a date with. Some of it was luck I'm sure, but the fact that I went on 2 really good dates with guys who both could have potentially been people I wanted to see was so much more satisfying than when I would go on 10 dates but most of them were blah. I'm not on OLD anymore and don't think I'll ever be again....I just really dislike it...but what I did find was that me being pickier and initiating more messages made for more positive experiences, but it still got tiring very quickly.

 

Now were you doing online dating since the dawn of the internet in the mid-90s? I thought about starting a new post regarding previously big named sites like American Singles, love.aol.com, and even Yahoo Personals.

 

I think ALL of them were free back then. lol.

 

I recall a lot of women dipping their toes into online dating, but barely made it out of the shoot. One woman I went out with ONLY went out with me because me and her were mutual friends with someone else in Real life.

 

I was talking to her about online dating and she wasn't even enthused about OPENING an account. I'm guessing filling out the registration for the account was akin to eating something distasteful. Kind of like medicine, you have to take it, so you have to choke it down. LOL

 

Another woman I met in real life said, "Yeah, I tried it, but then I saw a guy there that I have known in real life that would talk to trees in the park." lol Immediately signed off and never looked back.

 

For them, it's just barely looking into a room of horrors, and shutting the door abruptly and never looking back. So chances are, if you're good enough, you'll catch them...for a moment..., but then see their profile disappear as soon as it was submitted. lol

[MissBee]

Now were you doing online dating since the dawn of the internet in the mid-90s? I thought about starting a new post regarding previously big named sites like American Singles, love.aol.com, and even Yahoo Personals.

 

I think ALL of them were free back then. lol.

 

I recall a lot of women dipping their toes into online dating, but barely made it out of the shoot. One woman I went out with ONLY went out with me because me and her were mutual friends with someone else in Real life.

 

I was talking to her about online dating and she wasn't even enthused about OPENING an account. I'm guessing filling out the registration for the account was akin to eating something distasteful. Kind of like medicine, you have to take it, so you have to choke it down. LOL

 

Another woman I met in real life said, "Yeah, I tried it, but then I saw a guy there that I have known in real life that would talk to trees in the park." lol Immediately signed off and never looked back.

 

For them, it's just barely looking into a room of horrors, and shutting the door abruptly and never looking back. So chances are, if you're good enough, you'll catch them...for a moment..., but then see their profile disappear as soon as it was submitted. lol

 

No, I wasn't around at the dawn of the internet.

[edgygirl]

Of course... there seems to be more nutsos than ever. I swear when I first online dated in 2004 (very uncommon) and then 2008 (still uncommon) people still felt "real".

 

In the past 1-2 years... meh!

 

My last date seemed so interesting... I had so much hope. Yet when we met he kept talking about how baby octopus have feelings and you can see it in their eyes... therefore you shouldn't be eating them. Cows? No, he didn't think cows have real feelings. But baby octopus? Yeah. Don't eat them.

 

Zzzzzzzzzz.

 

That's what it has became. I'm seriously almost giving up. I think in my age range only the weirdos (bad weirdos, not good weirdos) are left in the shelf :/

 

Side note: I confess to have chatted with guys as far as 1998... guys I met through messengers like ICQ and other messengers before that I can't even remember the name. I should have had the idea to come up with dating apps!

Edited May 17, 2016 by edgygirl