Ex made contact because I screwed up. Any ideas?

[AprilDaze]

Apologies for the length.

 

Backstory:

He is 32 and I'm 30. We dated for 6 years, both never married or engaged. Broke up twice in the past because he had to move for work and it got to be too much. We lived together for two years before he got laid off last year. He became really depressed after the lay off and has major issues with anxiety. We moved next door to his parents (huge mistake) because we thought the transition would be easier and they owned the house. Things got worse between us, a lot of fighting because his stepfather was intrusive as all hell (he never gave us space...it was like living at home again). I never told him while we were together, but his family constantly drained him of money (they owe him thousands), they didn't expect him to ever settle down, and used him like leeches while their only other bio-mutual son was treated like the "good child" and lives a "normal" life. End rant, lol.

 

Anyway...

 

So we had a really bad "break up" (those words weren't used, though everything was implied since I moved out) back in September of last year (8 months now). I found out I was pregnant the same week after we "broke up" and we fought for over a month over the phone. I had a miscarriage, we cried, and things got even more awkward. I was devastated, it was clearly a horrible year . Then he was hot and cold, we'd go days without talking... he'd say he regretted how things worked out, wish things in his life were different (he's living back at home now, depressed and jobless), he would drunk text me, sent me an unexpected Valentine's day message with an "I wish you happiness, truly"... basically that is how it was for months until during one of the times we texted and had a tiff -- he became distant.

 

I finally went full no contact in late March. I lasted 4 weeks (29 days). Last night, I got tipsy and got curious about what he was up to. I stupidly logged into his email account (yes, I knew the pass). He found out last night and shot me two texts while I was sleeping.

 

His Text: "You find anything good snooping around online? Saw you were checking :-)"

 

Half-hour after that he sent another text. I was still sleeping, so I hadn't responded.

 

His Text: "Just be careful ... don't upset your new summer fling ;-)"

 

I'm not dating anyone. I facepalmed so hard. He had given me his Netflix pass (different than his email) again after the breakup. So, this morning I texted him...

 

My Text: "Watched an episode on your Netflix? No surprise you changed the info. Best wishes to you."

 

Hours later...

 

His Text: "I would have left the Netflix password if you didn't log into gmail as well. Best wishes to you too"

 

Now I'm confused as all hell and keep analyzing these messages. Square one! Ugh. Is he jealous? Does he still have feelings for me? He must be a commitment phobe (6 years), right? Why is he so damn calm? Why is he sending smileys? Should I just leave it at that?

 

I must admit I'm not over him, but as soon as I start to move on and think it was for the best this poopoo happens.

 

Any ideas or thoughts, guys? Bueller...?

[darkbloom]

if you're logging into his email and using his Netflix account you are not in NC.

[Simon Phoenix]

Why are you logging into his email? And yes, you should have rejected the Netflix invite after the breakup. But the email thing isn't remotely cool.

[ExpatInItaly]

He probably wanted to know what the heck you think you were doing poking around in his email.

 

No, i don't think he's jealous. I think he's gloating that you haven't let go.