Betrayed GFs trust

[Marker]

Maybe you should change your attitude.

 

Send her a text or mail, saying that you are a guy who can listen, admit your mistakes and improve youself, this is who you are. But you will not let her making you a cheater and a serial liar, because you're not, and she is way way out of the line in that matter. You didn't cheat, you just didn't want to make a mess out of nothing.

 

So you hope she will put herself together and come back to senses in the next 1-2 days, and after that you consider that as a break up and you're going to move on.

 

I've said something like that, that it hurt me that she thought I was cheating and that I didn't want to damage her trust in me so I didn't want to tell her about Jen being over.

 

This morning she replied back saying she doesn't believe anything I say and that she feels humiliated and hurt and needs some space. I said OK, that I understand why she feels that way and she can have her space.

 

I'm wondering if I should just end it before she does or if I should ask her where our monogamous relationship stands. I'm not going to sleep with anyone else for a while.

Edited April 29, 2016 by Marker

[mikeylo]

I'm not going to sleep with anyone else for a while.

 

LOL ! you can sleep with anyone after a while or now, who cares ! ( when you didnt ! )

[smackie9]

Yes you should just end it....most unhealthy relationship I have read about in awhile.

[lolablue17]

Why don't you stop interpreting her words and start believing her? Did she say she doesn't belive any word you say? Take her word seriously.

 

If she doesn't believe anything you say, how exactly would space change anything? It won't. and if so, how could she your Gf after the "space"? You cannot change the way she feels, but you can change the way you live. Just go NC and move on. If she wnats you, she'll find you.

[Marker]

Why don't you stop interpreting her words and start believing her? Did she say she doesn't belive any word you say? Take her word seriously.

 

If she doesn't believe anything you say, how exactly would space change anything? It won't. and if so, how could she your Gf after the "space"? You cannot change the way she feels, but you can change the way you live. Just go NC and move on. If she wnats you, she'll find you.

 

Because last time she wasn't sure if she could trust me, she took some space. I dumped her. She wanted to get back together but I was upset so I ignored her. Then realized I made a mistake.

 

We're coworkers so I can only give her so much space.

[d0nnivain]

She forgave you once but you did it again. I doubt you are going to get another chance.

[Space Ritual]

Marker,

 

 

Do yourself a favor....

 

Quit making this all about you. Go back and read your own posts on this thread.

 

None of this was a "mistake" as you claim. You made clear choices that you may soon be held more accountable for than you ever imagined.

 

Basically you decided to make decisions for someone else. And they backfired.

 

Not as slick as you thought you were, huh?

 

Instead of blaming other people for the position you find yourself in why don't you look in the mirror.And being you are coworkers if I were you I would start looking for another job pronto. It will not only get more awkward but one of these days you are going to feel like you have to say something and all of a sudden you will find yourself in front of your H.R. person telling you that you are about to be escorted off the property.

 

It;s one thing to have all this low drama when you are not coworkers. To do this crap and have it be with a coworker who now understandably dislikes you is another. That is why it is never a good idea to dip your pen in the company ink. When things like this go south, then one of you will have to leave. And that, I am afraid, should be you.

 

Good Luck. I'd hate to be in your shoes. Find another job as soon as you can and exit this situation with as little fanfare as possible.