Gaeta Posted June 7, 2016 Share Posted June 7, 2016 I love how so many women on this forum say that if a man hasn't expressed their undying love for them within months then they will never feel it. To me it's a major red flag when someone says it too soon. Always look to their actions and it certainly looks like they spoke volumes this wknd. My bf took over a year to tell me. Of course I would have loved to have it a bit sooner but his actions told me everything I needed to know at that time. Your bf may be the same. Be patient....love isn't something he throws around. In rare cases a man will take up to a year. In my case it was a gamble I lost. It's all about taking chances. Yes hearing ILY too soon isn't good either but past 6 months without hearing it the chances of you hearing it are getting thinner and thinner. As per studies men say their first ILY after 88 days and women 134. So MOST people say it between 3 to 4 months. After that it's a gamble. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JiltedJane Posted June 22, 2016 Author Share Posted June 22, 2016 He's committed to you, likes spending time with you, cares how you feel. He's probably still testing the waters though - that's why he's holding off ILY statements. It could be he feels a little guilty and trying to over-compensate. Although it is not grounded: he was upfront open and honest that he needs more time to determine how this relationship will resolve. I think you have a great man in your hands , and the best for both is to back off (maybe for 4-5 months, until you reach the one-year mark), monitor his actions, and re-evaluate then. Did he tell your parents about you over the weekend? he did tell his mom ( the parent he is closest with), idk about the dad though. he also suggested a vacation next month (he brought it up- not me). when we decided where to go he started making alot of plans and seems genuinely excited about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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