hkj4 Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 (edited) I'm in a long distance relationship and we got in a little argument yesterday, now he won't really talk to me. The argument wasn't a big deal to me, but it seems to be a big deal for him. It was regarding a semi sexual comment someone left on his instagram account and I made a smart ass comment about it. I tend to joke around too much sometimes and it can be taken the wrong way. He knows this about me, but he still seems to think I am some crazy jealous person. He has had a bad experience in the past with his ex regrading jealousy and her insecurities. I am NOT like that though and he just keep comparing me to her. I have apologized profusely and have tried my best to explain myself. Hard to do over text though. We text a lot and things got misinterpreted and misconstrued. I tried my best to explain everything and even talked to him on the phone for a few minutes to try and clear everything up last night. He assured me everything was fine and that he would talk to me today. Well he didn't text me good morning like he always does, so I texted him he said he was running late and already at work and busy. I can totally tell he is still upset or something is still bothering him. Should I give him space and back off or try and let him know how much I love and care about him? It's driving me crazy not knowing what to do and I don't want to lose him over something so ridiculous. Any advice would be appreciated! Edited April 29, 2016 by hkj4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 Be more circumspect in your written word going forward. For now send him a snail mail letter or card. Also learn you can't base a whole relationship on texts. You need to be there in person as much as you can which is hard in an LDR, you need voice & possibly skype. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hkj4 Posted April 29, 2016 Author Share Posted April 29, 2016 Be more circumspect in your written word going forward. For now send him a snail mail letter or card. I agree with this!! I know I need to work on that because texting can come off the wrong way. But how do I get him to understand that if he won't respond to me?? I feel like I need to talk to him to clear this up, but at the same time I am respectful if he needs space. The last message that I sent to him this morning was 7 hours ago.....as much as I want to text him to figure this out, I feel like I need to back off. I was hoping I could just call him later. But at the same time I don't want to come on too strong if he needs his space. Does any of this even make sense lol Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 You've already apologised, so that part is done. Rather than you calming him down, leave him to calm down himself. Maybe contact him tomorrow, if he's not been in touch by then. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 hk4j His current unwillingness to respond is why you have to change methods. Send the snail mail card. Apologize & ask him to call you. It takes way more effort to hand write your message, get a stamp & go to the post office then it does to send a text. The fact that you made the effort should evidence your sincerity. Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 Is it possible he has a guilty conscience? What kind of semi-sexual comment was left on his Instagram? I am pretty sure that would bother me too if I saw another woman's sexual comment on my bf's social media. Is he gaslighting you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hkj4 Posted April 29, 2016 Author Share Posted April 29, 2016 (edited) Is it possible he has a guilty conscience? What kind of semi-sexual comment was left on his Instagram? I am pretty sure that would bother me too if I saw another woman's sexual comment on my bf's social media. Is he gaslighting you? OMG!!! I was just thinking this same exact thing. I actually just ran into a few comments that are questionable on both ends and now it's got me wondering. I don't usually do the whole "stalking" thing...but looking at her profile, and see some of the "friendly"exchanges has me wondering. Edited April 29, 2016 by hkj4 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted May 1, 2016 Share Posted May 1, 2016 I say: if he can't take jealous, he'd better not waste any time with me at all. Some people mistake jealous for obsessive. If it's the healthy type of jealous, it's just natural. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted May 1, 2016 Share Posted May 1, 2016 Have you two ever met face to face and actually spent time together, or is this just an internet 'romance?' If it's the latter, it just doesn't matter. It's all fantasy anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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