Question for those who had or are having [an affair] in the workplace

[Padme]

Absolutely. I work with mine and we tried breaking up a few times over the years but when you see each other the next day and they look so cute and they make you laugh, it seems impossible to leave.

[lftbehind]

Here's an update. If anyone has been in a similar situation or has advice I welcome it. I was moved to another department, but fought to get back in my old one. At that time my boss started taking an interest in me again an helped me stay in the department. I think that he was trying to get me moved out, but I'm not sure. We started talking on the phone and texting some and he was being nice to me. It seemed liked he had a girlfriend. He said that he had just broken up with her recently. When I would be on the phone with him, he would have to get off abruptly all of the time. We had talked about taking a day off together and it was clear that he wanted to have sex. I wasn't ready for that and I told him that I was afraid to take time off from work. He just got off the phone with me fast and was cold to me at work. I told him that I wanted to hang out and just was afraid to take off work. He rarely would talk to me at work after that and I did text him a few times and he didn't answer. He recently started talking to me again, but doesn't have much of an interest in texting or talking on the phone. It's the same thing, he wants to take a day off to have sex. I feel pressured, because of him being my boss. Things go better at work for me when we are talking. I know that I will regret it and feel used. I need to keep this job. Any advice? Thanks

[lftbehind]

Here's another update. I did get together with my boss and had sex with him last Monday. We went out for a coffee and went back to his place. I was good, but he referred to it as good f-ing, which hurt my feelings. I didn't say anything about that, though. Later that night I texted him and he texted back, but didn't seem to want to talk. Last week he talked to me at work some, but didn't text me and call me like he used to. I texted him a few times, but he never seemed like he wanted to talk. He was outside taking a break at work and I was in my car and he didn't come over to talk. He doesn't want to be seen talking to me outside. Saturday I texted and he replied after the 2nd time. He didn't say much. We didn't talk on Sunday or Monday. It does hurt that he doesn't want much to do with me, but he is always looking at me at work. Today I had a concern with the job and I tried talking to him and he got very dismissive and told me to go talk to another manager about it. I did get upset, but was talking calmly to him. I told him it seemed like he didn't like me and was acting like I was a stranger and that we weren't strangers. He said what does that mean? and that's where the conversation ended. I'm worried that he's going to try and move me out of the department to get me out of his way, even though I don't bother him and I'm a good employee. I know that getting personally involved was a big mistake. I miss talking to him and I cry about it. I'm sad and lonely.

[lftbehind]

We would go for a while and he would pretty much ignore me and hardly talk to me, but then he would take an interest in me again and I'd get reeled in again. I feel so dumb about the whole situation. I wanted/want for him to like me, but I don't know if he ever really did.