Liam1 Posted May 5, 2016 Share Posted May 5, 2016 (edited) Ugh now the idea that he could be fabricating this desire to please me just so he could retain me for whatever purposes he intended to serve saddens me. I truly doubt that was the reason. It is easy enough to find another woman to have an affair with, if that is all he wanted. IMO, he too, enjoyed the sex you two experienced. Perhaps his wife was no longer interested in sex, or dislike the style of sex he and you enjoyed together. I think a lot of people have gotten off topic here with their moralizing about affairs and cheaters. IMO, a lot of people are threatened by your blatant abandonment and enjoyment of sex. That's their problem, not yours. So, I am glad you brought the thread back on topic. I resonate with the below quote. Just enjoy what you two had together. See it as a great memory rather than a loss. Your guy likely loved his wife, but he enjoyed great sex with you. Look upon this as a learning experience and a fond memory, not a loss. There are so many men out there who can give you this and more. Honestly, when you find someone who cares about you enough that your needs matter just as much as his, you will have this satisfaction again. Edited May 5, 2016 by Liam1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bewell Posted May 5, 2016 Share Posted May 5, 2016 Many [OWs] claimed that sex with MM is the most amazing they have ever had. In my case, it's so true.. thus makes it so hard for me to walk away in the fear that I would never have such great sex, great sexual compatibility and chemistry with such a charming and sexy man. I have had plenty mediocre sex unfortunately and not many of the single guys I date are down to what MM is willing to do to please me. So how do I work this around? I know the feeling. xMM feels exactly the same way about me that's why it was so hard to let go. More than the amazing sex, we paired well despite the drama. I am optimistic that one day you and I will experience an even better form of intimacy compared to what we had with our MMs. It'll happen in time. We just have to look within and turn the focus back to ourselves first. Link to post Share on other sites
Confused9999 Posted May 5, 2016 Share Posted May 5, 2016 (edited) IMO, he too, enjoyed the sex you two experienced. Perhaps his wife was no longer interested in sex, or dislike the style of sex he and you enjoyed together. Your guy likely loved his wife, but he enjoyed great sex with you. I totally agree with this statement.. This is what happened to me and the OW. Actually I loved her too but also loved my W and eventually had to make a decision and it was to go back with my W. The sex was awesome and my OW and I were much more sexually compatible and adventurous. It was raw and primal!!! It's hard to imagine I will not have that again! But... I suppose as the saying goes. “Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” Although that's much easier said then done! Edited May 5, 2016 by Confused9999 Link to post Share on other sites
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