sandwichcookies Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 So there's this 25 years old American guy I met online. I just knew him for 3 days and he's already flirting with me and he also said that he want to buy a flight ticket to meet me because we're living 3000miles away. I don't really think he would fly 3000miles just to see me so I decided to ignore that. But with all those flirtings and also serious talks, is it normal for Americans to do that to someone whom you just knew 3 days ago? I know nothing about American dating cultures so I would like someone to tell me lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 Where online did you meet him? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 IMO, any guy doing what you describe is doing it to knock down your guard on either Naked Pics or Sex Camming and the like. He is looking for some quick relief and as soon as he got it he would be gone.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sandwichcookies Posted May 2, 2016 Author Share Posted May 2, 2016 I met him on Skout and we've been using whatsapp now to call and message each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sandwichcookies Posted May 2, 2016 Author Share Posted May 2, 2016 IMO, any guy doing what you describe is doing it to knock down your guard on either Naked Pics or Sex Camming and the like. He is looking for some quick relief and as soon as he got it he would be gone.. These 3 days he didn't ask for that kind of pics, but we'll see how it goes. I think he's pretty polite. Maybe because he's Asian-American? Idk hopefully he isn't someone like that. Where online did you meet him? I met him on Skout and we've been using whatsapp to contact each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Liam1 Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 I met him on Skout and we've been using whatsapp now to call and message each other. Isn't whatsapp a hidden application used by people who do not want anyone else to see their text? No, his being so aggressive is not typically American. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 I agree with Art Critic. This sounds a bit fast. He's saying and will likely continue to say all sorts of things he thinks you want to hear in an attempt to get you to let down your guard. Tread carefully. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sandwichcookies Posted May 2, 2016 Author Share Posted May 2, 2016 Yeah I'm relieved that I wasn't the one who thinks that this thing goes really fast I will be really careful so I didn't caught up with any problem in the future, thanks for the caution! Is whatsapp a hidden app? Idk about that haha Well actually, when I saw his full name in whatsapp, I tried to check him in Instagram. I saw a photo of him with a girl (turns out that she's his gf). He told me before that he has an ex gf, so I think she is the ex. But when we're talking about his ex, he sent me a pic of him with a different girl. After that I checked on his Instagram again, but he changed it to Private. Meaning I should follow him if I want to know his posts. Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 I'm American and I've never thought it would be sensible decision to travel 3000 miles to meet someone, especially not after 3 days, especially considering there are millions of available women on this continent. I have a hard time even leaving this borough. Nor have I ever met or heard of anyone who's done that. Don't you have to question the intelligence of someone like that? I'd say it has nothing to do with him being American and more to do with the fact that he's just a totally impractical, unreasonable person. Why are you even bothering with this guy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sandwichcookies Posted May 2, 2016 Author Share Posted May 2, 2016 I'm American and I've never thought it would be sensible decision to travel 3000 miles to meet someone, especially not after 3 days, especially considering there are millions of available women on this continent. I have a hard time even leaving this borough. Nor have I ever met or heard of anyone who's done that. Don't you have to question the intelligence of someone like that? I'd say it has nothing to do with him being American and more to do with the fact that he's just a totally impractical, unreasonable person. Why are you even bothering with this guy? I know but hey you don't need to be that harsh though. If I knew the answer I wouldn't be asking in a forum. I never met an American so that's why I ask. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 Uh, check out Nancy Grace on HLN/CNN and/or do a Google (Internet) search for Seattle mom who got killed by guy she met online. American dating culture or not, online dating can be dangerous. Some people use it rape, kill, kidnap, etc...and, this guy willing to see you, travel, etc all so soon and so far away has the hairs on the back of my neck standing up. American or not, online or not, you gotta be careful when dating. Let a friend know where/when you'll meet that person, meet in a public place, don't leave your beverage unattended, don't get drunk/vulnerable and/or give details about you (ie alarm code, where you keep spare keys, who lives with you) until you know this person for sure. The Seattle mom apprently was seeing this guy for like a few months and not sure if she knew he had anger issues, a criminal record, etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 Doesn't sound American per se but I have seen a lot of men 'future fake'. They make promises in order to get you to feel the relationship is farther along than it is. Usually they do this for something like sex or money. I agree to thread carefully. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted May 3, 2016 Share Posted May 3, 2016 I know but hey you don't need to be that harsh though. If I knew the answer I wouldn't be asking in a forum. I never met an American so that's why I ask. Sorry if it sounded harsh, I'm just honest. Directed at the guy, not you. I just can never get past the impracticality of people like this guy who plan to meet others on the other side of the planet (after 3 days). I can't be the only one who thinks that's more than a little unreasonable, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted May 3, 2016 Share Posted May 3, 2016 So there's this 25 years old American guy I met online. I just knew him for 3 days and he's already flirting with me and he also said that he want to buy a flight ticket to meet me because we're living 3000miles away. I don't really think he would fly 3000miles just to see me so I decided to ignore that. But with all those flirtings and also serious talks, is it normal for Americans to do that to someone whom you just knew 3 days ago? I know nothing about American dating cultures so I would like someone to tell me lol. LOL. It's normal for the ones who can't get women here in the States to date them, so they turn to women overseas who are more than happy and appreciative to accept their gifts and offerings. But after reading more of your posts, he just sounds like the typical dirtball whose trying to dazzle you with romance before he starts hitting you up for pictures and virtual sex. Loser. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2016 Share Posted May 3, 2016 Americans can be far more direct and way less reserved then many other cultures. That said, well intentioned people do not offer to fly 3,000 miles simply to meet somebody off the internet that they have only known for 3 days. He either has no meaningful boundaries, is socially awkward or is lying. There is no scenario under which this turns out well for you. If he said he was going to be there on business maybe I'd think it was OK but what you describe . . . just run now. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
puzzleddad67 Posted May 4, 2016 Share Posted May 4, 2016 Trying to think of a good reason. Failing. Quoting an American Movie. RUN FOREST RUN! Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted May 4, 2016 Share Posted May 4, 2016 How do you know he's American? Is it because he told you so? Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted May 4, 2016 Share Posted May 4, 2016 American or not, he's either an idiot, lying, or a criminal. I am also interested in foreign women but I would never go to such lengths to meet anyone, no matter how attracted I am to her. It would take at least 3 months before I would agree to meeting and that is a bare minimal. If what he says is true, stay far away from him. Link to post Share on other sites
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