IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 This weekend was a milestone for me. My first boyfriend since my 3 year relationship with my ex. Not, just any relationship, A Long Distance Relationship. We established ourselves in a relationship maturely and smartly. We know that since we live 2 hours away from each other, our weekends will be spent with each other. Taking the trip and getting a room to see each other. We still live with our parents. So I can proudly say that I now have a boyfriend. Now, what I wanted to ask those people in a LDR, what makes it work. Since you have no idea what the hell their doing half the time. Any advice on how to make this a happy and lasting relationship Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 Congratulations! I'm glad it worked out. Trust is important. As well as being relaxed, taking it slow and having your own life. Finally, there needs eventually to be a plan to move together, if all goes well. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 congrats i guess this is not the dude that ran off and it takes trust and communication from both of you good luck Link to post Share on other sites
JPMorgan Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 Congrats! Just remember, they don't know what you are doing either! Really, just stay in communication with each other -- you can have phone dates during the week so that neither of you becomes a pest to the other. And just allow yourself to trust him. The weekends will be great! Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 20, 2005 Author Share Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Finally, there needs eventually to be a plan to move together, if all goes well. I'm sorry, The though makes me sick. No time soon. I'm taking this as slowly as I possible can. I am makes zero mistakes on this one. Originally posted by NTB congrats i guess this is not the dude that ran off Nope...Guess its a good thing that the other guy ran away! Originally posted by JPMorgan Congrats! Just remember, they don't know what you are doing either! The weekends will be great! Oh my goodness. The weekend are great. I learned a lot from my past relationship. The Do's and Dont's if you will. In a way I would like to thank my ex for teaching me what a bad relationship really is. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 IS this the guy who left when you said you wanted him???? I remember your earlier post about how you were too hot to handle or something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 20, 2005 Author Share Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by Mz. Pixie IS this the guy who left when you said you wanted him???? I remember your earlier post about how you were too hot to handle or something? No he's not. I had created a thread about a guy I like who lives 2 hours away. This is him. I'm done with all the nonsense. I have myself a boyfriend now and I am happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Majik45 Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 Been in a LDR for about 8 or 9 months now, and it's going to go from about 3 hours apart to half a world apart in a couple months. Here's my tips: Make rules about how often you visit each other (We set it at least once a month, although it's been usually every other week at least) Make rules about how often you communicate with each other (We talk every night on the phone before bed) Tell each other about what's going on in your lives Have a life of your own when you're not with your Significant other (otherwise you might go crazy) Have trust in each other Don't dwell on the fact that your apart, dwell on planning your time together Make some plans of when you can move to be close to each other. When you are visiting, try to get involved in each other's lives. Good Luck! It can be totally worth it if you can deal with the distance and lonelyness that can result! My LDR has been the most rewarding of my life, and I can't wait for about a year from now, when we'll get to finally live near each other! Link to post Share on other sites
balletgirl Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 TRUST, TRUST, TRUST..... ANd dont assume things that may or may be there.. If they are sounding down, or distant, it is probably just a bad day at work, or missing you or something along those lines..... ALso, I have a webcam, and my boyfriend and I like to use it about 3 times a week..... Keep the sexual stimulation there between you two, so they dont look for it elsewhere..... Keep the lines honest and open and dont hide anything, it may come out later and hurt both of you...(I should be listening to my own advice Good lUck!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 congrats! He's a lucky guy IMO. 2 hours isn't bad. but I do think that (assuming things work out), a goal for any LDR should be to move closer to each other at some point down the line. It helps keep the distance from becoming a strain. Link to post Share on other sites
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