He's married. I love him.

[LindsayxoScarth]

This is not going to end well for you. I know it's hard but the best thing for you is to cut ties with him and move on. I'm saying this to you because I wish I had the sense to do it when I was starting out with xMM. It's only going to get ugly from here on out. And even if you end up with him, I can guarantee you that you won't be happy.

 

 

I am so happy I found this forum... I broke it down to him today. He was not having it.. he was in fact laughing.

 

He told me there is no way Im the "other women" he had proof of legal separation. He has proof it's in motion. It was me who never asked or questioned. I have now questioned! He's prvoided and proved. 2 years of being 100% checked out 8 months of separation. He spends all the time he can with me. We are best friends!!!!!! He's 100% my kind of dude. I would have never questioned if it wasn't for this forum. I feel 100% better.. can't wait to see him!

 

Thanks all for your posts. But if this is being the other women. Call it game on. He's a prize!! From the way he talks to how real he is with me... I'm not stupid I know what I got can't wait to keep him one day #****ingwinning

 

6 months of talking and making a connection! 3 months of actual dating being out in public we are together 3-5 times a week. Public or bed. I'll keep on with my fairytale.. wives.. don't cheat. There are "other women" like myself ready to catch that ball.

[bewell]

I am so happy I found this forum... I broke it down to him today. He was not having it.. he was in fact laughing.

 

He told me there is no way Im the "other women" he had proof of legal separation. He has proof it's in motion. It was me who never asked or questioned. I have now questioned! He's prvoided and proved. 2 years of being 100% checked out 8 months of separation. He spends all the time he can with me. We are best friends!!!!!! He's 100% my kind of dude. I would have never questioned if it wasn't for this forum. I feel 100% better.. can't wait to see him!

 

Thanks all for your posts. But if this is being the other women. Call it game on. He's a prize!! From the way he talks to how real he is with me... I'm not stupid I know what I got can't wait to keep him one day #****ingwinning

 

6 months of talking and making a connection! 3 months of actual dating being out in public we are together 3-5 times a week. Public or bed. I'll keep on with my fairytale.. wives.. don't cheat. There are "other women" like myself ready to catch that ball.

 

Oh lovely, I totally understand your feelings and share your sentiments. I've been sold the same bull**** by my xMM and none of it came into fruition. He's just telling you stuff you want to hear to appease you. Go NC and remain there until he can show you a divorce decree.

Edited May 5, 2016 by bewell

[LindsayxoScarth]

Oh lovely, I totally understand your feelings and share your sentiments. I've been sold the same bull**** by my xMM and none of it came into fruition. He's just telling you stuff you want to hear to appease you. Go NC and remain there until he can show you a divorce decree.

 

 

 

I'm. Not worried about a finalized divorce. As much as I am wanting it in motion. I just want him to be separated and on his way.!! And he is.. I'll update in June:)

[bewell]

I'm. Not worried about a finalized divorce. As much as I am wanting it in motion. I just want him to be separated and on his way.!! And he is.. I'll update in June:)

 

It still doesn't exclude you from pain. This doesn't look and sound good. I was in denial and in a fog for 2.5 years with my MM because we were both so crazy in love with each other. I'm sure you know what's at stake for you. Just don't act surprised at any outcomes that may come your way and I guarantee you, it will NOT be a happy ending.

[Lady Hamilton]

Nobody can guarantee there will or won't be a happy ending.

 

Period.

 

Maybe it'll work out. Maybe it'll be like most relationships and not work out. You won't know until you choose to jump in with both feet.

 

Sounds like you've chosen to jump in, so good luck and check back in if you need support or have questions.

 

Also... I just figure I'd throw out there that it took my husband 2-3 years for his divorce to come through. It took my divorce two weeks to come through. We both filed same state, same court, same way. My ex-husband and I had to divide property but we had no kids. My husband had to settle custody issues but they had no joint property.

 

The difference was I filed during the holidays, when almost nobody files, and he filed during the spring (the busiest time to file) after two judges quit. He also had to wait for the court to order his child intervention class date, then had to wait for the order for the mediator, then they had to wait 6 months for a judge to become available to sign off on their settlement. A year of their divorce was waiting for dates from the court.

 

There's no way to predict just how long it will take for a divorce to come through.

Edited May 6, 2016 by Lady Hamilton

[ShatteredLady]

Please. PLEASE remember that his children are going to be experiencing a lot of change in their little lives. You are going to be a stepmother. The maturity & understanding that you give could make all the difference for them.

 

It really doesn't matter how you or your MM feel about his wife she is & will ALWAYS be their mother.

Edited May 6, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[anika99]

I am so happy I found this forum... I broke it down to him today. He was not having it.. he was in fact laughing.

 

He told me there is no way Im the "other women" he had proof of legal separation. He has proof it's in motion. It was me who never asked or questioned. I have now questioned! He's prvoided and proved. 2 years of being 100% checked out 8 months of separation. He spends all the time he can with me. We are best friends!!!!!! He's 100% my kind of dude. I would have never questioned if it wasn't for this forum. I feel 100% better.. can't wait to see him!

 

Thanks all for your posts. But if this is being the other women. Call it game on. He's a prize!! From the way he talks to how real he is with me... I'm not stupid I know what I got can't wait to keep him one day #****ingwinning

 

6 months of talking and making a connection! 3 months of actual dating being out in public we are together 3-5 times a week. Public or bed. I'll keep on with my fairytale.. wives.. don't cheat. There are "other women" like myself ready to catch that ball.

 

 

 

I'm confused. Are you saying you actually saw a separation agreement signed by both he and his wife? I'm including a link in regards to marital separation in Canada. According to this page everything in regards to custody, property division and spousal support is decided and included in the separation agreement. Since your first post seemed to indicate that they have not come to any agreement on these things yet, how can there be a signed agreement already?

 

 

Marriage Separation in Canada

 

 

I'm not sure if anyone asked this yet, but why exactly is he still living with his wife? If he's so eager to be divorced and starting a new life with you then why doesn't he just move out?

[William]

Folks, I cleaned up a marked meta-discussion which had sprung up and will remind all members to be respectful in their comments. Thanks in advance for your cooperation!

[DevotedBaker54]

My mom always said "guard your heart." This means don't invest your time and love into something that isn't going to love you in return. You're giving your heart away to a man who promised to love his wife until death and he now wants a divorce. Maybe slow down until he's officially divorced? Be careful with your heart!