scarlyjones Posted June 21, 2005 Share Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by SweetSerenity Yeah thats right people, punch the other woman in the face, that'll show her. Some of the people on LS really really really make me laugh. Fighting and punching and cussing do nothing but come back on you. Sure you'll feel vindicated for awhile but people will see you the same way you see the OW. A weak meaningless piece of sobbing childish flesh that you are. Fighting solves nothing. I recommend some of you pick up some books on Public Relations. ScareyJones you calling the OW a foul name does nothing but make you look like the foul name you've called her. Like a scorned selfish child. Do any of you have mirrors? And I'm not talking to all of you. There are a few on this forum that I really like to read their responses. I'm talking about the ones that just fly off the handle at the OW's. IF the marriage is truly stable and happy then no one can come in between it. Thats a fact. Examine the facts. Get the facts. Remember the facts. Leave the hositility and fighting out of it. There are far more refined and classy ways to handle these types of situations. Who the H*ll said to punch her in the face? I simply said thats probably what she would do if some broad was doing her husband and then acted like she deserved it. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetSerenity Posted June 21, 2005 Share Posted June 21, 2005 Anyone saying that the wife deserved it. Are you a scorned woman ScareyJones? Because your attitude clearly comes out in your inability to talk with a little respect. Using cuss words? Any uneducated fool can do that. Try some tact dear. No one ever said that the wife deserved it. Not once. I recall someone saying that if the marriage is truly happy then the MM wouldn't seek out an OW in the first place. That doesn't place the blame solely on the wife. Try looking carefully again sweetheart. Link to post Share on other sites
Marie1973 Posted June 21, 2005 Share Posted June 21, 2005 Sweetser. & Tudor - That is exactly what i mean when i say "you can't break up a happy marriage." If your marriage is happy & you are truly in love with each other NO ONE can or will come between the two of you, NO ONE!! Yes like you said ladies, no matter how the OW tries, she will not succeed if the man is in a happy marriage. If my husband had another women, of course i wouldn't punch her in the face. I'm a mature, secure woman & i am way passed that. If my husband got an OW then i would realize that something is wrong in "our" marriage. He must not be happy. & if fighting was my style, it wouldn't be her that I'd punch, it would be him. My parents are a perfect example of this. They have been married for 41 wonderful years. They love each other soooooooooo much its not even funny. They can't be away from each other for more than 1 day or the other one goes crazy. I only wish for a marriage as wonderful as there's. They both say that no matter how hard a man/woman tried to get them to cheat, they wouldn't do it in a million years!! They both say the thought has never even crossed their minds. They are truly stilll in love & have a happy marriage & NO other man/women, could ever split them up. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetSerenity Posted June 21, 2005 Share Posted June 21, 2005 I totally agree with you Marie. This is why I think some of the people that start spouting off nonsense like ScareyJones did is immature. I mean come on. Are we in the 3rd grade? I think not. I think the best sort of punishment you can give the OW is politeness. You ever heard of the notion "Kill them with kindness"? Anyone? I mean if you smile at sour people they will either wonder what you're up to and be shocked by your politeness and it will further make them mad or it will disarm them totally and arm you with the fulfillment of feeling better. I don't see how fighting can be gratification for a disheartening situation at hand. Some people that post on here are just sad miserable bags themselves. Everyone wants to hang the OW well what about the MM? I mean he is at fault here too. She doesn't force him into anything and a lot of the time it is the MM that pursues the OW. I'm not saying all of the time, but more than half of the time. Think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Most men will cheat when given the opportunity with a woman willing and ready to go. I hate to sound paranoid/cynical but this is the way it is. I have experiences with men in committed relationships and I have also been in so-called good relationships where the man cheated on me. I think this is why a lot of women get angry at other women. The woman is the one who ultimately decides whether or not sex will happen. Who has met a man who was in a committed relationship that would NOT have slept with you? I can't think of ONE. When women start realizing (as I recently have) that men will sleep with anything with a pulse then a lot of hurt feelings can be prevented. Sex does not equal feelings for most men. To the OP~ I'm not familiar with your story but if you think you should tell his wife, then do so. But do you have any good proof to back it up? Your MM could easily just tell her you are making it all up because you wanted him. Be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 so xnem, we should excuse the mm because men are just dumb animals? actually mm i've both, experienced and read about, are conniving and scheming, not dumb at all. and what of womens natural fallibilty? as someone pointed out elsewhere, all women want a fairytale romance with a happy ever after. when the mm comes along and charms and woos her with his beautiful words of love and forever, it totally gets her in her achilles heel. (westernxr are you listening you could learn a few things ) i for one as an ow (and i think you'll find its the case of the majority), did not try to lure the mm away with sex, i did not even flirt with him, but initially found his advances quite flattering. when he began to use any excuse to come to my door, i was actually getting bit worried, i was considering talking to one of his friends and asking him to tell him to leave me alone. the night it actually begun, i was extremely drunk, i cant remember the evening at all. i had decided to use the opportunity of the evening to get to know him and his wife as a couple and become friends with his wife so that he would realise and leave me be. unfortunately thats not the way it happened. his wife and everyone else apparently left at some point in the evening. i woke up and put two an two together, thats when he began to use the magic of the words. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Originally posted by newbby when the mm comes along and charms and woos her with his beautiful words of love and forever, it totally gets her in her achilles heel. (westernxr are you listening you could learn a few things Sorry, but I'm not married, nor do I write s-h-i-t-ty poetry. But please continue. Link to post Share on other sites
jj003 Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Most men will cheat when given the opportunity with a woman willing and ready to go. I hate to sound paranoid/cynical but this is the way it is. I have experiences with men in committed relationships and I have also been in so-called good relationships where the man cheated on me. I think this is why a lot of women get angry at other women. The woman is the one who ultimately decides whether or not sex will happen. Who has met a man who was in a committed relationship that would NOT have slept with you? I can't think of ONE. When women start realizing (as I recently have) that men will sleep with anything with a pulse then a lot of hurt feelings can be prevented. Sex does not equal feelings for most men. To the OP~ I'm not familiar with your story but if you think you should tell his wife, then do so. But do you have any good proof to back it up? Your MM could easily just tell her you are making it all up because you wanted him. Be careful. I am not a man, but I do think SOME men do have feelings, even in their world, there is something called LOVE... Even for them, it is not all sex...even for them, there is something spiritual, even they feel pain. perhaps, it depends on the type of men you meet and it also depends on your interaction with them. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Sorry, but I'm not married, nor do I write s-h-i-t-ty poetry. But please continue. my xmm didnt write s-h-i-t-t-y poetry either, just used the words cleverly, or maybe it was just accidental, maybe its the whole unnavailable vibe coupled with the promising words that does it. he certainly doesnt seem that clever. hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
jj003 Posted June 22, 2005 Share Posted June 22, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer That is true. I also agree Link to post Share on other sites
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