Emotional Affair

[PinkSunset]

I can't remember the timing of your weekend with Jamie, but wasn't it quite some time ago? Much longer than two weeks? In that case, isn't your period really, really late?

 

I would just take it and get it over with. Hugs. I know this stressful.

 

My weekend with Jamie was the 18th of June. I had my period prior to that. So it's around a week or so late.

 

I will take the test and update once I get home. Fingers crossed.

[Maggie888]

So if u were ovulating 18th of June your period would be due July 2. So youd be well over 2 weeks late. Period always comes 14 days after ovulation. Irregularity in cycles is caused by late/early ovulation. But the 14 days between ovulation amd menstruation is generally fixed at 14 days.

 

What was the date of the UK man romp?

Edited July 21, 2016 by Maggie888

[PinkSunset]

So if u were ovulating 18th of June your period would be due July 2. So youd be well over 2 weeks late. Period always comes 14 days after ovulation. Irregularity in cycles is caused by late/early ovulation. But the 14 days between ovulation amd menstruation is generally fixed at 14 days.

 

What was the date of the UK man romp?

 

I was on vacation from June 30 - July 7th. So in between those days. Met him my first day there...had sex the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th and morning of the 7th. He slept in my room from the 3rd to the 7th... It's not possible to be his then, right?

[Maggie888]

Well its possible if you ovulated then. Youd have to know for sure when you ovulated, which you cant really tell unless you were testing for ovulation.

 

But technically if the pill is working you dont ovulate at all.

 

Do you know date of your last period?

Edited July 21, 2016 by Maggie888

[ShatteredLady]

Do you know for sure that you will terminate the pregnancy?

 

If the answer is possibly "No!" STOP procrastinating! You're taking medications. Have you been drinking alcohol?

 

If there is the slightest chance that a baby is starting to grow inside of you it's essential that you know sooner rather than later. It takes time to titrate off of some medications. Please be responsible!!

[PinkSunset]

Both tests were negative!!! I think anyway, lol. They both had one really thick line and one faint second line.

1 line = negative

2 lines = positive

 

So I think if I was pregnant it would be two thick lines, correct? I feel like a million bricks have been lifted off my shoulders!

[noelle303]

Both tests were negative!!! I think anyway, lol. They both had one really thick line and one faint second line.

1 line = negative

2 lines = positive

 

So I think if I was pregnant it would be two thick lines, correct? I feel like a million bricks have been lifted off my shoulders!

 

Actually...a faint line is still a line. The thick one is the control line and the faint one is the test line.

 

Can you maybe do a digital to get a more accurate result?

[MadJackBird]

Both tests were negative!!! I think anyway, lol. They both had one really thick line and one faint second line.

1 line = negative

2 lines = positive

 

So I think if I was pregnant it would be two thick lines, correct? I feel like a million bricks have been lifted off my shoulders!

 

After some googling, I would say there's a good chance you are pregnant.

 

Congrats?!?!

[anika99]

A very faint line means that the test has detected a small amount of hcg in your urine which is a hormone that should only be present during pregnancy. Some woman have a very low amount of that hormone early in the pregnancy and some have a very high amount. The amount doesnt determine a viable pregnancy as much as it matters how much it is increasing. It should double every 48-72 hours. I had a miscarriage several years ago. I had a blood test that determined I had a very low levels of hcg at 3 days past the day my period was due. The doctor said I was definitely pregnant and I went back a few days later for another blood test and the level of hcg hadn't doubled, it had only increased a tiny bit and based on that they determined I would most likely miscarry. About 5 days later the miscarriage happened.

 

Wait a couple of days and then test again. Make sure the test is not past the expiry date. The line should be more detectable. Or just see a doctor.

[Lobe]

Dayum girl. You gonna have a baby... My SIL did IVF and we prayed for that faint line...

[elaine567]

Dayum girl. You gonna have a baby... My SIL did IVF and we prayed for that faint line...

~

 

Did your sil get her faint line?

[heartwhole]

Can you go get a digital test that just says "pregnant" or "not pregnant"?

 

It's true, a line is a line. Sometimes your eyes play tricks on you so I'd get a digital test just to be sure.

 

If it's faint, then I would more suspect you conceived in Mexico versus with Jamie, but hard to say.

[hippychick3]

Yep, in very early stages of pregnancy, a faint line is a line. That's positive.

[heartwhole]

I'm trying to remember here, but the last time I was pregnant, I tested at 14 or 15 days after ovulation, and that line was not faint. It showed up right away.

 

ETA: My friend was pregnant with twins and her first test was very faint. So it's true that everyone is different, but you would be like 25 days past ovulation if you were ovulating when you were with Jamie. And if you did conceive then, I would expect the test to be pretty obvious.

Edited July 22, 2016 by heartwhole

[Lobe]

~

 

Did your sil get her faint line?

 

Yeppers - I am the best auntie ever

 

She was pregnant with two and the line should have been bright pink (she tested every day for two weeks straight lol) and despite having twins implanted the line never actually got dark or obvious despite a positive blood test. One of the babies didn't make it - by the first u/s the sac was gone.

 

For whatever it's worth, you are far more likely to get a false negative than a false positive with a pee stick.

[anika99]

Get another test that and use it with your first morning urine. Even though the new tests say it doesn't have to be done in the morning the HCG is still more concentrated in the first urine of the day. Make sure that you are reading the results within the correct time frame. I just read that waiting to long to look at the results can lead to a false positive because the evaporation can leave behind a faint line.

[MidnightBlue1980]

Yep, in very early stages of pregnancy, a faint line is a line. That's positive.

 

Yep. Twice I had 2 faint lines. They are yelling at each other over candy crush in the next room.

[noelle303]

That's easy to say when you don't have a positive pregnancy test in your hand. I said that after Offspring #3 and #4 is almost in high school so... lol

 

 

Yep, I am strongly pro-choice and always said I'd terminate an unwanted pregnancy. Turns out it's easier said than done.

 

Pink, if you ovulated back in mid-June, your period should be over two weeks late. There should be a stronger line, but the faint one should not be ignored. Get a digital test that says ''pregnant' or ''not pregnant'' or make an appointment with a doctor.

[PinkSunset]

This is not what I wanted to read. I'm not pregnant, I can't be. It's not possible. It's been years of having sex and birth control there is just NO frickin WAY!

 

I have a doctor appt on Monday to go over my progress on my anti-depressant. I can talk to my doctor about getting tested properly but it was definitely a faint second line, on both tests.

 

I don't even know when my last period was! I am sure it was around early to mid-june. I really will have no clue who the father is!

 

Maybe this is bad karma for all the shyt things I've done over the last year

[noelle303]

This is not what I wanted to read. I'm not pregnant, I can't be. It's not possible. It's been years of having sex and birth control there is just NO frickin WAY!

 

I have a doctor appt on Monday to go over my progress on my anti-depressant. I can talk to my doctor about getting tested properly but it was definitely a faint second line, on both tests.

 

I don't even know when my last period was! I am sure it was around early to mid-june. I really will have no clue who the father is!

 

Maybe this is bad karma for all the shyt things I've done over the last year

 

If it was early to mid-June and your weekend with xMM was June 18th, then it's most likely the UK guy's baby.

 

I'm sorry, I know it's not what you envisioned happening at all. I really, really understand what you're going through.

 

I think it's best that you take a digital or make an appointment at a clinic as soon as possible. The earlier you start dealing with this, the better.

[PinkSunset]

If it was early to mid-June and your weekend with xMM was June 18th, then it's most likely the UK guy's baby.

 

I'm sorry, I know it's not what you envisioned happening at all. I really, really understand what you're going through.

 

I think it's best that you take a digital or make an appointment at a clinic as soon as possible. The earlier you start dealing with this, the better.

 

 

No, it's not what I envisioned. If I am pregnant I can't keep it. I just don't know how I will deal with having an abortion at 34 years old. It doesn't feel right knowing I am perfectly capable of looking after a baby. I want a family. I could never tell Jamie about any of this. I would have to say goodbye to him forever. I will try a digital test as well

[Lobe]

I don't even know when my last period was! I am sure it was around early to mid-june. I really will have no clue who the father is!

 

Would it make a difference in whether you kept the baby if it was definitely Jamie's?

 

When you hooked up with Jamie on June 18th, you said you were past your period - try and think of about how many days it had been. At the risk of TMI I am too heavy a bleeder for sex during the merry monthly without it looking like I was gutting squirrels on the bed and I spot heavily for 2 days after the heavy flow ends, so I know it's always about 2 days after before I feel confident that we're not ruining the sheets. So for me it's consistently 5-6 days of no sex.

 

When you planned your trip to Mexico, did you bring stuff for your period with you just in case? Here's why I'm wondering...

 

Assuming that the first day of your last period was 5 days before Jamie (June 13th) that would put you ovulating somewhere around the 27th. Sperm can only survive about 2 days inside the woman's body and that would make it unlikely to be Jamie's.

 

In order for it to be Jamie's, you would have had to have been ovulating around the 18th, which would put the first day of your last period around June 4th. That meant you likely would have taken things with you for your period on your trip to Mexico.

 

Go get your pregnancy test done at the Dr first anyways.

[Lobe]

No, it's not what I envisioned. If I am pregnant I can't keep it. I just don't know how I will deal with having an abortion at 34 years old. It doesn't feel right knowing I am perfectly capable of looking after a baby. I want a family. I could never tell Jamie about any of this. I would have to say goodbye to him forever. I will try a digital test as well

 

My heart is breaking for you - what a mess

[elaine567]

This is not what I wanted to read. I'm not pregnant, I can't be. It's not possible. It's been years of having sex and birth control there is just NO frickin WAY!

 

I have a doctor appt on Monday to go over my progress on my anti-depressant. I can talk to my doctor about getting tested properly but it was definitely a faint second line, on both tests.

 

I don't even know when my last period was! I am sure it was around early to mid-june. I really will have no clue who the father is!

 

Maybe this is bad karma for all the shyt things I've done over the last year

 

Speak your doctor ASAP, Zoloft and Ativan are not good in pregnancy.

 

"antidepressants, especially SSRIs, can increase the risk of autism and birth defects if taken while pregnant." https://www.drugwatch.com/ssri/pregnancy/

 

Lorazepam - Use should be avoided - https://www.drugs.com/pregnancy/lorazepam.html

[PinkSunset]

Would it make a difference in whether you kept the baby if it was definitely Jamie's?

 

When you hooked up with Jamie on June 18th, you said you were past your period - try and think of about how many days it had been. At the risk of TMI I am too heavy a bleeder for sex during the merry monthly without it looking like I was gutting squirrels on the bed and I spot heavily for 2 days after the heavy flow ends, so I know it's always about 2 days after before I feel confident that we're not ruining the sheets. So for me it's consistently 5-6 days of no sex.

 

When you planned your trip to Mexico, did you bring stuff for your period with you just in case? Here's why I'm wondering...

 

Assuming that the first day of your last period was 5 days before Jamie (June 13th) that would put you ovulating somewhere around the 27th. Sperm can only survive about 2 days inside the woman's body and that would make it unlikely to be Jamie's.

 

In order for it to be Jamie's, you would have had to have been ovulating around the 18th, which would put the first day of your last period around June 4th. That meant you likely would have taken things with you for your period on your trip to Mexico.

 

Go get your pregnancy test done at the Dr first anyways.

 

I did bring tampons with me to Mexico. I usually get my period within June 1-10th but I had missed a few pills so I remember something being off.

 

If the baby was definitely Jamie's I don't know if I would keep it, even still. I think it would be easier to keep knowing it was his and not UK guy's but either way it would be a huge decision to make. I don't know who would be the father. I slept with 2 men within a 2 week span and there really is no way to tell unless a doctor can pinpoint with an ultrasound. Even still, there are not 100% accurate. This is a mess.

 

If Jamie finds out he would automatically think it's his. I would have to tell him the truth and I'm sure he would never forgive me.

I talk to UK guy almost everyday. He doesn't know anything about this. I am sure he would just drop off the face of the earth if I told him. I'd be alone.